Respectful Parenting: Janet Lansbury Unruffled

Teaching a Child to Control His Feelings

Dec 30, 2019

A parent seeks advice on her emotionally aware toddler who copes by isolating himself. Janet discusses supporting children's emotional expression and accepting their full range of emotions. The importance of letting children experience and express emotions freely is highlighted. Understanding and supporting a child's emotional development is emphasized, including validating their feelings and creating a safe space.

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Allowing children to fully experience emotions without rushing emotional regulation process is crucial for healthy development.

Encouraging children to authentically express emotions and providing a safe space promotes genuine emotional development.

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Child's Emotional Self-Regulation

A parent reaching out to Janet Lansbury's Unruffled podcast expresses concern about their three-year-old child's tendency to isolate when experiencing negative emotions. Despite the child displaying emotional awareness and using calming strategies like counting to 10 or seeking solitude with a comfort blanket, the parent questions if they are inadvertently encouraging a sour attitude. Janet emphasizes the importance of allowing children to fully experience and express their emotions rather than rushing the process of emotional regulation. She advises that suppressing emotions may hinder the child's development, highlighting the significance of co-regulation and creating a safe space for genuine emotional expression.

Introduction

2min

Navigating a Child's Emotional Awareness and Coping Strategies

3min

Supporting Children's Emotional Expression

5min

Encouraging Full Expression and Acceptance of Children's Emotions

2min

Understanding and Supporting a Child's Emotional Development

3min

A parent writes that her toddler is very aware of his emotions and even has several strategies to cope with the negative ones. One of these strategies is going to his room by himself. While this mom is “happy that he is aware of his emotions and (usually) redirects them before causing harm or throwing a full-blown tantrum,” she struggles with how long to let him isolate. She worries she may be encouraging him to mope or empowering his sour attitude. “I wonder if we should be more assertive in having him try alternative strategies.” Janet offers her perspective and advice.

For more advice on common parenting issues, please check out Janet's best-selling books on Audible, FREE with a 30-day trial membership if you use this link: adbl.co/2OBVztZ.

Paperbacks and e-books are also available at Amazon, Google Play, Barnes & Noble and Apple Books.

Janet's exclusive audio series "Sessions" is available for download. This is a collection of recorded one-on-one consultations with parents discussing their most immediate and pressing concerns (www.SessionsAudio.com).

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