Respectful Parenting: Janet Lansbury Unruffled
JLML Press
In the 25+ years Janet Lansbury has worked with children and parents, she's learned a lot. She's here to share it with you. Each episode of Unruffled addresses a reader's parenting issue through the lens of Janet's respectful parenting approach, consistently offering a perspective shift that ultimately frees parents of the need for scripts, strategies, tricks, and tactics.Janet is a parenting author and consultant whose website (JanetLansbury.com) is visited by millions of readers annually. Her work informs, inspires, and supports caregivers of infants and toddlers across the globe, helping to create authentic relationships of respect, trust, and love.Janet's "No Bad Kids Master Course" is available at NoBadKidsCourse and JanetLansbury. Her best-selling books “No Bad Kids: Toddler Discipline without Shame” and "Elevating Child Care: A Guide to Respectful Parenting" are available in all formats at Amazon, Barnes & Noble, or wherever you buy your books.Featured in The New Yorker, recommended 'Best Parenting Podcast' by The Washington Post, The New York Times, USA Today, The Cut, Fatherly, Today's Parent, and many, many more.Please note: This podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only. The views and advice presented on this podcast by Janet Lansbury and her guests are based on their training and experience. Opinions are offered in good faith but do not constitute professional, psychiatric, or medical advice, neither are they intended to be. You do not have to use this information, and it should not be substituted for qualified medical expertise.Copyright JLML Press (2025) All Rights Reserved
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Sep 2, 2025 • 31min
Helping Your Child Overcome Anxieties, Fears, and Rocky Transitions
Young children often struggle with anxieties and aggressive behaviors during tough transitions, like starting school. The importance of normalizing their feelings is discussed, guiding parents on how to support emotional well-being. Strategies include helping kids express their fears, preparing for changes, and establishing routines at bedtime. The host shares effective methods to create a nurturing environment, making it easier for children to cope with their emotions and adjust to new situations.
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Aug 26, 2025 • 25min
Negativity, Pushback, No to EVERYTHING
A mother grapples with her 7-year-old daughter's relentless negativity and argumentative nature, feeling exhausted by constant debates. Strategies for managing strong-willed children are discussed, particularly during significant life transitions like starting school. Tips on fostering open communication and emotional resilience for both parents and kids are shared, emphasizing the importance of maintaining composure amid emotional upheavals. The conversation also touches on the value of personalized education and overcoming doubt as parents navigate their children's challenges.
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Aug 19, 2025 • 33min
Fighting Is Playing (Let the Kids Work It Out)
The podcast dives into the chaotic yet essential world of sibling conflict, highlighting how these confrontations offer key developmental lessons. Parents share their struggles with managing disputes, emphasizing the importance of letting kids work things out themselves. Unstructured play emerges as a pivotal theme, proving vital for social and emotional growth. The benefits of unsupervised play are explored, encouraging parents to step back and trust their kids to navigate their own interactions. It's a refreshing take on fostering independence and resilience in children.
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Aug 12, 2025 • 45min
Making a Successful Transition to Preschool (with Mr. Chazz)
In this engaging discussion, Mr. Chazz, known as America's favorite teacher, shares his expertise on easing children's transition to preschool. He emphasizes building trust and connection to help kids feel secure during drop-offs. Innovative practices like 'arrival and reunion' foster stability and support children's emotional needs. Mr. Chazz also highlights the role of personalized education and emphasizes genuine relationships, encouraging parents to actively engage in their children's journeys. It's a valuable resource for both educators and families.
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Aug 5, 2025 • 23min
How to Help a Strong-Willed Child (Without Wounding His Spirit)
A parent grapples with her energetic, strong-willed four-year-old who often runs ahead during nature walks. She struggles with feelings of frustration and pressure from other parents. The discussion focuses on how to guide such spirited children without stifling their independence. Empathetic approaches and practical strategies are shared to foster a supportive environment that honors a child's free spirit while encouraging better listening.
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Jul 29, 2025 • 21min
Validating Feelings Isn't Working
Discover the power of acknowledging, rather than just validating, children's feelings. This approach can create a sense of safety and help children express pent-up emotions. The discussion dives into why this method might be frustrating for some parents. Insights on embracing imperfection in parenting emphasize self-compassion and intentionality. Learn how better communication can enhance your relationship with your child during emotional moments.
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Jul 22, 2025 • 33min
The Help Toddlers Need With Aggressive Behavior
Listeners share frustrations about their toddlers exhibiting aggressive behaviors, like pushing and hitting, leaving them feeling lost and overwhelmed. The discussion centers on understanding the underlying emotional challenges these children face in social settings. Janet emphasizes the importance of patience and gentle interventions, guiding parents on how to help their kids navigate peer interactions. The episode reassures parents that with the right support, their children can develop essential social-emotional skills.
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Jul 15, 2025 • 34min
The Bad Advice I Gave About Toilet Training
Janet reflects on her past potty training advice after a parent's unexpected success using the opposite approach. She discusses the significance of child-led toilet learning and the importance of autonomy. The episode highlights the emotional challenges faced by families during this process, encouraging parental trust in their child's instincts. Clear boundaries and supportive guidance emerge as key factors in navigating the often stressful journey of toilet training.
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Jul 8, 2025 • 22min
Calming Our Reactivity to Children's Irritating, Demanding Behaviors
A parent grapples with her children's constant demands for attention, feeling overwhelmed and drained. The discussion highlights strategies to manage reactivity and emotional boundaries in parenting. Self-compassion emerges as a key theme, empowering parents to respond calmly. Transformative approaches for navigating relentless requests are shared, aiming to enhance interactions without sacrificing parental control. Insights into understanding children's needs foster a respectful and balanced parenting dynamic.
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Jul 1, 2025 • 42min
Eating Disorders, Healthy Body Image: What Parents Need to Know (With Grace Lautman, CN, LMHC)
Grace Lautman, a therapist and nutritionist specializing in eating disorders, joins to unpack how our relationships with food shape our children’s perceptions. They discuss early signs of eating disorders and the importance of nurturing a healthy body image from a young age. Grace emphasizes compassionate parenting, the effects of societal pressures, and the interplay of genetics and environment. They also touch on perfectionism's link to body image distortions, offering practical strategies for fostering open communication and a supportive family dynamic.
