Respectful Parenting: Janet Lansbury Unruffled
JLML Press
In the 25+ years Janet Lansbury has worked with children and parents, she's learned a lot. She's here to share it with you. Each episode of Unruffled addresses a reader's parenting issue through the lens of Janet's respectful parenting approach, consistently offering a perspective shift that ultimately frees parents of the need for scripts, strategies, tricks, and tactics.Janet is a parenting author and consultant whose website (JanetLansbury.com) is visited by millions of readers annually. Her work informs, inspires, and supports caregivers of infants and toddlers across the globe, helping to create authentic relationships of respect, trust, and love.Janet's "No Bad Kids Master Course" is available at NoBadKidsCourse and JanetLansbury. Her best-selling books “No Bad Kids: Toddler Discipline without Shame” and "Elevating Child Care: A Guide to Respectful Parenting" are available in all formats at Amazon, Barnes & Noble, or wherever you buy your books.Featured in The New Yorker, recommended 'Best Parenting Podcast' by The Washington Post, The New York Times, USA Today, The Cut, Fatherly, Today's Parent, and many, many more.Please note: This podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only. The views and advice presented on this podcast by Janet Lansbury and her guests are based on their training and experience. Opinions are offered in good faith but do not constitute professional, psychiatric, or medical advice, neither are they intended to be. You do not have to use this information, and it should not be substituted for qualified medical expertise.Copyright JLML Press (2025) All Rights Reserved
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Oct 21, 2025 • 23min
What to Say and Do During a Meltdown
Explore the power of respectful communication in handling toddler meltdowns and medical procedures. A parent's journey through a 45-minute meltdown reveals deep insights on emotional understanding. Discover how honest dialogue prepares children for experiences like nasal vaccines, promoting cooperation. Janet discusses co-regulation techniques to keep parents grounded during crises. The episode emphasizes embracing difficult feelings and imaginative reflection to foster connection and comprehension between parents and their children.
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Oct 14, 2025 • 29min
Parenting Is Too Hard? Consider Editing Your Job Description
Parenting can feel overwhelming, but it might be time to rethink your role. Trusting your child's abilities can lighten the load. Consistent routines foster independence and build confidence in children. Janet encourages relaxation around tough topics like eating and potty training. She emphasizes the importance of setting boundaries while nurturing emotional resilience. By stepping back, parents can allow children to showcase their skills and instincts—making parenting a more enjoyable journey!
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Oct 7, 2025 • 29min
A Secret to Stop the Hitting and Hurting When All Else Fails
Aggression in young children often reveals deeper emotional struggles. Parents learn to recognize these phases as temporary, emphasizing empathy over punishment. Janet discusses creating a sense of safety and calm for kids, highlighting practical steps for managing sibling conflicts, especially in households with newborns. Tips include joint activities and providing safe spaces for younger siblings. She encourages parents to act with understanding and forgiveness, fostering trust and connection through these challenging times.
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Sep 30, 2025 • 31min
Making Independent Play Work for You and Your Child (Brilliant Examples From My Inbox)
Discover the power of self-directed play in children's lives! Parents share eye-opening experiences where allowing their kids to play independently led to joy and discovery. Learn practical guidelines to encourage independent play at home. From a nine-month-old's exploration of a safe space to a three-year-old's inventive play with everyday objects, each story highlights the profound benefits of unstructured time. Janet addresses the importance of stepping back to let your child thrive creatively, ensuring happiness and development.
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Sep 23, 2025 • 22min
Obedience Is Not a Dirty Word
The discussion begins by reframing obedience as a practical parenting goal. Janet delves into how our own childhood experiences influence our reactions and expectations as parents. She offers insightful strategies for establishing limits while fostering connection and trust with children. The emphasis is on guiding kids to understand and respect reasonable requests without resorting to anger. Listeners gain valuable takeaways and resources for nurturing better relationships with their kids.
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Sep 16, 2025 • 36min
Parenting Problems Our Childhoods Create (and How to Fix Them)
Dive into the emotional challenges of parenting, where disconnect often stems from childhood experiences. Explore how parents can navigate their child's fascination with violent language and play, balancing boundaries with understanding. Learn about the importance of self-awareness and communication in strengthening family bonds. Real-life examples illustrate how to foster a supportive home for more harmonious relationships.
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Sep 9, 2025 • 27min
Don’t Raise Your Kids in a Bubble
Discover the importance of not raising children in overly protective environments. The discussion highlights how kids can thrive when they're taught to respect and adapt to the boundaries of different people in their lives. Parents learn how to foster resilience and adaptability, preparing children for varied social interactions. Key strategies for teaching consent and respect, especially in relationships with authority figures, are also explored. Conflict is framed as an opportunity for growth, turning challenges into valuable learning experiences.
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Sep 2, 2025 • 31min
Helping Your Child Overcome Anxieties, Fears, and Rocky Transitions
Young children often struggle with anxieties and aggressive behaviors during tough transitions, like starting school. The importance of normalizing their feelings is discussed, guiding parents on how to support emotional well-being. Strategies include helping kids express their fears, preparing for changes, and establishing routines at bedtime. The host shares effective methods to create a nurturing environment, making it easier for children to cope with their emotions and adjust to new situations.
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Aug 26, 2025 • 25min
Negativity, Pushback, No to EVERYTHING
A mother grapples with her 7-year-old daughter's relentless negativity and argumentative nature, feeling exhausted by constant debates. Strategies for managing strong-willed children are discussed, particularly during significant life transitions like starting school. Tips on fostering open communication and emotional resilience for both parents and kids are shared, emphasizing the importance of maintaining composure amid emotional upheavals. The conversation also touches on the value of personalized education and overcoming doubt as parents navigate their children's challenges.
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Aug 19, 2025 • 33min
Fighting Is Playing (Let the Kids Work It Out)
The podcast dives into the chaotic yet essential world of sibling conflict, highlighting how these confrontations offer key developmental lessons. Parents share their struggles with managing disputes, emphasizing the importance of letting kids work things out themselves. Unstructured play emerges as a pivotal theme, proving vital for social and emotional growth. The benefits of unsupervised play are explored, encouraging parents to step back and trust their kids to navigate their own interactions. It's a refreshing take on fostering independence and resilience in children.
