Respectful Parenting: Janet Lansbury Unruffled
JLML Press
In the 25+ years Janet Lansbury has worked with children and parents, she's learned a lot. She's here to share it with you. Each episode of Unruffled addresses a reader's parenting issue through the lens of Janet's respectful parenting approach, consistently offering a perspective shift that ultimately frees parents of the need for scripts, strategies, tricks, and tactics.Janet is a parenting author and consultant whose website (JanetLansbury.com) is visited by millions of readers annually. Her work informs, inspires, and supports caregivers of infants and toddlers across the globe, helping to create authentic relationships of respect, trust, and love.Janet's "No Bad Kids Master Course" is available at NoBadKidsCourse and JanetLansbury. Her best-selling books “No Bad Kids: Toddler Discipline without Shame” and "Elevating Child Care: A Guide to Respectful Parenting" are available in all formats at Amazon, Barnes & Noble, or wherever you buy your books.Featured in The New Yorker, recommended 'Best Parenting Podcast' by The Washington Post, The New York Times, USA Today, The Cut, Fatherly, Today's Parent, and many, many more.Please note: This podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only. The views and advice presented on this podcast by Janet Lansbury and her guests are based on their training and experience. Opinions are offered in good faith but do not constitute professional, psychiatric, or medical advice, neither are they intended to be. You do not have to use this information, and it should not be substituted for qualified medical expertise.Copyright JLML Press (2025) All Rights Reserved
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Aug 12, 2025 • 45min
Making a Successful Transition to Preschool (with Mr. Chazz)
In this engaging discussion, Mr. Chazz, known as America's favorite teacher, shares his expertise on easing children's transition to preschool. He emphasizes building trust and connection to help kids feel secure during drop-offs. Innovative practices like 'arrival and reunion' foster stability and support children's emotional needs. Mr. Chazz also highlights the role of personalized education and emphasizes genuine relationships, encouraging parents to actively engage in their children's journeys. It's a valuable resource for both educators and families.
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Aug 5, 2025 • 23min
How to Help a Strong-Willed Child (Without Wounding His Spirit)
A parent grapples with her energetic, strong-willed four-year-old who often runs ahead during nature walks. She struggles with feelings of frustration and pressure from other parents. The discussion focuses on how to guide such spirited children without stifling their independence. Empathetic approaches and practical strategies are shared to foster a supportive environment that honors a child's free spirit while encouraging better listening.
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Jul 29, 2025 • 21min
Validating Feelings Isn't Working
Discover the power of acknowledging, rather than just validating, children's feelings. This approach can create a sense of safety and help children express pent-up emotions. The discussion dives into why this method might be frustrating for some parents. Insights on embracing imperfection in parenting emphasize self-compassion and intentionality. Learn how better communication can enhance your relationship with your child during emotional moments.
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Jul 22, 2025 • 33min
The Help Toddlers Need With Aggressive Behavior
Listeners share frustrations about their toddlers exhibiting aggressive behaviors, like pushing and hitting, leaving them feeling lost and overwhelmed. The discussion centers on understanding the underlying emotional challenges these children face in social settings. Janet emphasizes the importance of patience and gentle interventions, guiding parents on how to help their kids navigate peer interactions. The episode reassures parents that with the right support, their children can develop essential social-emotional skills.
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Jul 15, 2025 • 34min
The Bad Advice I Gave About Toilet Training
Janet reflects on her past potty training advice after a parent's unexpected success using the opposite approach. She discusses the significance of child-led toilet learning and the importance of autonomy. The episode highlights the emotional challenges faced by families during this process, encouraging parental trust in their child's instincts. Clear boundaries and supportive guidance emerge as key factors in navigating the often stressful journey of toilet training.
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Jul 8, 2025 • 22min
Calming Our Reactivity to Children's Irritating, Demanding Behaviors
A parent grapples with her children's constant demands for attention, feeling overwhelmed and drained. The discussion highlights strategies to manage reactivity and emotional boundaries in parenting. Self-compassion emerges as a key theme, empowering parents to respond calmly. Transformative approaches for navigating relentless requests are shared, aiming to enhance interactions without sacrificing parental control. Insights into understanding children's needs foster a respectful and balanced parenting dynamic.
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Jul 1, 2025 • 42min
Eating Disorders, Healthy Body Image: What Parents Need to Know (With Grace Lautman, CN, LMHC)
Grace Lautman, a therapist and nutritionist specializing in eating disorders, joins to unpack how our relationships with food shape our children’s perceptions. They discuss early signs of eating disorders and the importance of nurturing a healthy body image from a young age. Grace emphasizes compassionate parenting, the effects of societal pressures, and the interplay of genetics and environment. They also touch on perfectionism's link to body image distortions, offering practical strategies for fostering open communication and a supportive family dynamic.
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Jun 24, 2025 • 34min
Rejection, Exclusion, Teasing — What to do When Friends Aren't Kind
Witnessing children deal with unkind friends can be heartbreaking. The discussion focuses on strategies for empowering kids to navigate rejection and exclusion effectively. Parents are encouraged to reflect on their own experiences to better assist their children in forming healthy friendships. Exploring the dynamics of power struggles, the conversation highlights the importance of fostering resilience and kindness. Janet offers valuable insights on how subtle parental support can help children face tough social situations bravely.
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Jun 17, 2025 • 43min
Sleep, Baby, Sleep (with Hari Grebler)
Join RIE expert Hari Grebler, a dedicated teacher of parent-infant classes and workshops, as she shares her simple yet effective techniques for helping babies—and toddlers—sleep. She emphasizes the importance of recognizing sleep cues and creating nurturing routines that honor both children’s and parents’ needs. With humor and personal anecdotes, Hari discusses the emotional dynamics at play during sleep transitions, advocating for strong connections and flexibility in bedtime practices that foster independence while supporting emotional well-being.
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Jun 10, 2025 • 28min
Secrets to Talking to Kids About Anything
Explore effective ways to discuss sensitive topics with children, like new relationships and relocations. Learn how to foster a supportive environment by validating emotions and being open during life changes. Discover the importance of allowing sensitive children to fully experience their feelings, while maintaining boundaries. Delve into the balance between boundaries and emotional validation, emphasizing the need for connection. Understand how unconditional love creates safe spaces for children to express their emotions.
