
Respectful Parenting: Janet Lansbury Unruffled
In the 25+ years Janet Lansbury has worked with children and parents, she's learned a lot. She's here to share it with you. Each episode of Unruffled addresses a reader's parenting issue through the lens of Janet's respectful parenting approach, consistently offering a perspective shift that ultimately frees parents of the need for scripts, strategies, tricks, and tactics.Janet is a parenting author and consultant whose website (JanetLansbury.com) is visited by millions of readers annually. Her work informs, inspires, and supports caregivers of infants and toddlers across the globe, helping to create authentic relationships of respect, trust, and love.Janet's "No Bad Kids Master Course" is available at NoBadKidsCourse and JanetLansbury. Her best-selling books “No Bad Kids: Toddler Discipline without Shame” and "Elevating Child Care: A Guide to Respectful Parenting" are available in all formats at Amazon, Barnes & Noble, or wherever you buy your books. Featured in The New Yorker, recommended 'Best Parenting Podcast' by The Washington Post, The New York Times, USA Today, The Cut, Fatherly, Today's Parent, and many, many more.Please note: This podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only. The views and advice presented on this podcast by Janet Lansbury and her guests are based on their training and experience. Opinions are offered in good faith but do not constitute professional, psychiatric, or medical advice, neither are they intended to be. You do not have to use this information, and it should not be substituted for qualified medical expertise.Copyright JLML Press (2025) All Rights Reserved
Latest episodes

Jun 10, 2025 • 26min
Secrets to Talking to Kids About Anything
Explore effective ways to discuss sensitive topics with children, like new relationships and relocations. Learn how to foster a supportive environment by validating emotions and being open during life changes. Discover the importance of allowing sensitive children to fully experience their feelings, while maintaining boundaries. Delve into the balance between boundaries and emotional validation, emphasizing the need for connection. Understand how unconditional love creates safe spaces for children to express their emotions.

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Jun 3, 2025 • 26min
I'm Bad, I'm Stupid—Kids Being Harsh on Themselves
The podcast dives into the troubling trend of children engaging in harsh self-talk, questioning their self-worth with statements like 'I'm bad' or 'I hate myself.' It explores the roots of these feelings, whether stemming from perfectionism or low self-esteem. Practical strategies are offered to help parents foster a positive self-image in their kids, including the importance of creating a supportive environment for emotional expression. The discussion emphasizes empathetic responses and the necessity of giving children the emotional space to discover their self-acceptance.

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May 27, 2025 • 29min
My Boy Seems Anxious, Sensitive, Easily Overwhelmed... Is This Normal?
Parents share their concerns about anxious and sensitive children, questioning whether their temperament is normal. The discussion reveals the strengths of these traits, emphasizing trust and acceptance. One parent describes her son’s retreating nature during social situations, highlighting the need for support and space. The conversation delves into allowing children to explore their interests at their own pace while navigating emotional challenges and setting appropriate boundaries. Practical strategies and encouragement serve as a guide for nurturing sensitive kids.

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May 20, 2025 • 30min
Discipline Isn't Working - 3 Common Reasons and What To Do Instead
Discipline can be baffling, especially when our best efforts clash with our children's behaviors. This discussion highlights why traditional methods often backfire, emphasizing emotional factors that play a significant role. It explores how to navigate children's emotions while establishing healthy boundaries. Listeners will discover practical adjustments to simplify discipline and foster deeper connections. The conversation is a thoughtful blend of empathy, strategy, and the complexities of modern parenting.

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May 13, 2025 • 33min
Struggling with a Strong-Willed Toddler's Tantrums
A single mother grapples with her strong-willed toddler's tantrums and seeks effective strategies for calmer mornings. The conversation highlights the emotional toll of meltdowns and the importance of self-acceptance for parents. With insights into navigating public outbursts, the discussion emphasizes the need for understanding and connection between parent and child. The speakers share personal experiences and advice on fostering emotional security while encouraging independence, ultimately advocating for a relaxed parenting style.

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May 6, 2025 • 33min
How to Handle Our Kids' Obsessive Jealousy
Sibling rivalry gets a fresh perspective as a parent grapples with her son's obsessive jealousy towards his younger sister. The discussion dives into emotional acceptance and the importance of acknowledging feelings to improve sibling dynamics. Strategies empower parents to foster open communication, allowing children to express their emotions safely. By navigating these complex feelings, families can cultivate healthier relationships and reduce conflict, making way for love amidst the chaos.

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Apr 29, 2025 • 32min
3 Ways to Lift Your Parenting Spirits (with Loryn Brantz)
Loryn Brantz is an Emmy-winning author, illustrator, and mom of two, who once built puppets for Sesame Street. Loryn joined Janet on a previous episode of "Unruffled" to talk about parenting a child with disabilities, sharing the joys and challenges of her journey with honesty and her signature warmth and wit. Her new book "Poems of Parenting" is a funny, touching, and totally relatable collection about her ups and downs raising kids, the awkward and sometimes difficult moments she's come to cherish, and ultimately how she's come to embrace her role as a parent. Janet's "No Bad Kids Master Course" is available at NoBadKidsCourse.com.Please support our sponsors.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

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Apr 22, 2025 • 48min
In an Age of Anxiety, How to Stop Worrying and Raise Less Stressed Kids (with Dr. William Stixrud)
Join Dr. William Stixrud, a clinical neuropsychologist and co-author of 'The Self-Driven Child', as he shares insights from his extensive experience in child development. He emphasizes the importance of giving children autonomy to foster self-confidence and intrinsic motivation. The conversation highlights how parents can be a 'non-anxious presence' to help kids navigate their emotions and build resilience. Stixrud discusses balancing support and independence, letting children pursue their passions, and the transformative power of trusting their decisions.

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Apr 15, 2025 • 22min
Discipline That Works - Your Best Responses to Your Kids' Behaviors
Discover effective strategies for respectful discipline that transforms parenting challenges into successes. Personal anecdotes highlight triumphs over disobedience, tantrums, and bedtime struggles. Learn how setting boundaries nurtures self-care and fosters family respect. Emphasizing emotional acknowledgement during outbursts can lead to stronger connections. Parents share their journeys of reframing discipline as guidance, enhancing their relationships and emotional resilience. Experience the uplifting shift from frustration to confidence in parenting!

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Apr 8, 2025 • 25min
How to Stop the Screaming
The podcast dives into the common challenge of childhood screaming, especially when it becomes a default reaction. A parent shares her struggle with her daughter’s excessive screaming, which is tied to her own upbringing. Emotional responses from both child and parent are explored, providing insights on staying calm. Practical strategies are offered to help manage these behaviors effectively, emphasizing the importance of understanding the underlying triggers. It's a relatable journey into navigating the ups and downs of parenting.