Respectful Parenting: Janet Lansbury Unruffled
JLML Press
In the 25+ years Janet Lansbury has worked with children and parents, she's learned a lot. She's here to share it with you. Each episode of Unruffled addresses a reader's parenting issue through the lens of Janet's respectful parenting approach, consistently offering a perspective shift that ultimately frees parents of the need for scripts, strategies, tricks, and tactics.Janet is a parenting author and consultant whose website (JanetLansbury.com) is visited by millions of readers annually. Her work informs, inspires, and supports caregivers of infants and toddlers across the globe, helping to create authentic relationships of respect, trust, and love.Janet's "No Bad Kids Master Course" is available at NoBadKidsCourse and JanetLansbury. Her best-selling books “No Bad Kids: Toddler Discipline without Shame” and "Elevating Child Care: A Guide to Respectful Parenting" are available in all formats at Amazon, Barnes & Noble, or wherever you buy your books.Featured in The New Yorker, recommended 'Best Parenting Podcast' by The Washington Post, The New York Times, USA Today, The Cut, Fatherly, Today's Parent, and many, many more.Please note: This podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only. The views and advice presented on this podcast by Janet Lansbury and her guests are based on their training and experience. Opinions are offered in good faith but do not constitute professional, psychiatric, or medical advice, neither are they intended to be. You do not have to use this information, and it should not be substituted for qualified medical expertise.Copyright JLML Press (2025) All Rights Reserved
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Dec 9, 2025 • 29min
3 Secrets to Raising Grateful Kids
Raising kind and grateful kids can be a challenge, especially when they seem perpetually dissatisfied. A mom expresses her frustration about her young sons' lack of appreciation for gifts and outings. The host explores how children's heightened sensitivities may mask gratitude. Suggestions include slowing down to help kids settle, observing their play instead of directing it, and allowing them to process their feelings after excitement. Authentic empathy is key to nurturing appreciation and helping kids focus on the positives.
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Dec 2, 2025 • 32min
The Best Response to Our Children's Turbulent Emotions
Parents explore the maze of their children's emotions, from a toddler rejecting comfort during meltdowns to a child feeling unloved amidst sibling rivalry. Janet emphasizes trusting feelings to foster resilience and calm within the family. She advises on how to handle tantrums without letting them dictate the family's routine. Modeling calmness rather than instructing children to calm down is discussed, as well as the importance of validating emotions for stronger connections.
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Nov 25, 2025 • 29min
How to Boost Your Child's Self-Confidence
The discussion dives into boosting children's self-confidence by fostering a positive self-image. Janet emphasizes the importance of allowing kids to navigate their feelings instead of trying to fix them. She addresses listener concerns about children feeling 'stupid' and encourages validation of their emotions. High sensitivity to embarrassment is explored, highlighting the need for parents to trust their child's emotional journeys. Ultimately, the conversation revolves around nurturing resilience and self-trust for lasting confidence.
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Nov 18, 2025 • 26min
Don't Play Along With Annoying Behavior
A parent grapples with her daughter's silly, demanding behavior, feeling torn between playful engagement and frustration. Janet explores the parent’s heavy self-blame and emphasizes it’s okay not to fake playfulness. She suggests that calm, minimal responses can help diminish the child's testing. By modeling unruffled behavior and recognizing these moments as exploration, parents can improve relationships. Janet reframes boundaries as crucial for self-care, allowing parents to focus their energy on what truly matters.
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Nov 11, 2025 • 34min
The Kindness of Consequences
A parent shares her transformative journey after receiving advice on handling her aggressive four-year-old. She realizes she was mismanaging boundaries and discipline, leading to positive changes just days later. Janet explains the importance of honest consequences and emphasizes that healthy boundaries reflect a parent's needs rather than punitive measures. The conversation highlights how parents can maintain strong leadership while nurturing relationships, illustrating the power of supportive family dynamics during challenging transitions.
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Nov 4, 2025 • 24min
Demanding, Stressed, and Aggressive - What's Happened to My Gentle Child?
Explore the tumultuous journey of a once-gentle child who becomes unusually aggressive after the arrival of a new sibling. Learn how strong emotions can emerge during transitions and why sibling dynamics may escalate conflict. Discover effective strategies for staying calm while setting boundaries and empowering children to express their feelings safely. Janet emphasizes the importance of family meetings, self-care for parents, and steadfast support, reminding us that children seek presence over perfection.
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Oct 28, 2025 • 25min
Bedtime Battles ("Losing Myself in Motherhood")
A parent describes the exhausting bedtime routine that turns into a nightly marathon with her daughter. Janet explores the importance of setting clear boundaries to reclaim enjoyment in parenting. She explains how children test limits as they seek reassurance and safety. Practical strategies include anticipating bedtime requests and setting firm, kind limits. Janet highlights the need to respond to fears without reinforcing delays, emphasizing confident parental leadership to restore calm and joy during this chaotic time.
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Oct 21, 2025 • 23min
What to Say and Do During a Meltdown
Explore the power of respectful communication in handling toddler meltdowns and medical procedures. A parent's journey through a 45-minute meltdown reveals deep insights on emotional understanding. Discover how honest dialogue prepares children for experiences like nasal vaccines, promoting cooperation. Janet discusses co-regulation techniques to keep parents grounded during crises. The episode emphasizes embracing difficult feelings and imaginative reflection to foster connection and comprehension between parents and their children.
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Oct 14, 2025 • 29min
Parenting Is Too Hard? Consider Editing Your Job Description
Parenting can feel overwhelming, but it might be time to rethink your role. Trusting your child's abilities can lighten the load. Consistent routines foster independence and build confidence in children. Janet encourages relaxation around tough topics like eating and potty training. She emphasizes the importance of setting boundaries while nurturing emotional resilience. By stepping back, parents can allow children to showcase their skills and instincts—making parenting a more enjoyable journey!
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Oct 7, 2025 • 29min
A Secret to Stop the Hitting and Hurting When All Else Fails
Aggression in young children often reveals deeper emotional struggles. Parents learn to recognize these phases as temporary, emphasizing empathy over punishment. Janet discusses creating a sense of safety and calm for kids, highlighting practical steps for managing sibling conflicts, especially in households with newborns. Tips include joint activities and providing safe spaces for younger siblings. She encourages parents to act with understanding and forgiveness, fostering trust and connection through these challenging times.
