

The Imperfects
Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg
We’re all imperfect. On this podcast, founder of The Resilience Project Hugh van Cuylenburg, his good friend Ryan Shelton, and only one of their brothers, Josh van Cuylenburg, talks to a variety of interesting people who vulnerably share their own struggles and imperfections, or expertly pass on their wisdom on the subject of imperfection. Whether it’s in The Vulnerabilitea House, The Academy of Imperfection, or with our very own psychologist, Dr Emily, The Imperfects are here to find some valuable takeaways we can all apply to our own imperfect lives.
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Aug 3, 2025 • 1h 19min
Dr Emily - We're Longing for Belonging
In this insightful discussion, Dr. Emily Musgrove, a resident psychologist, reveals that our need for belonging is encoded in our DNA and essential for our well-being. She addresses our growing loneliness epidemic and the psychological toll of belonging uncertainty. Producer Bridge Northeast shares a personal tale about leadership and creating a sense of inclusivity. Together, they explore how vulnerability and open dialogue can foster connections, encourage empathy, and combat the fears of exclusion in both personal and professional spaces.

Jul 31, 2025 • 34min
Dis Works - A Game-Changing Study of The Resilience Project
A groundbreaking study reveals the Resilience Project significantly lowers depression and anxiety among students in Australia. Personal stories highlight how the initiative fosters communication and emotional well-being in families. Alarming statistics on youth mental health unite the need for long-term support in schools. Tips for parents on nurturing resilience at home are discussed, as well as the stunning impact of a school well-being program that enhances life satisfaction. It’s a celebration of hope and effective strategies for a brighter future!

Jul 27, 2025 • 1h 26min
Joe Williams - Concussion, Bipolar & Being a Dad
Joe Williams, a former National Rugby League player turned mental health advocate, shares his transformative journey following a tumultuous sports career rife with concussions and substance abuse. He discusses the stark realities of his bipolar diagnosis and how it has shaped his approach to fatherhood, emphasizing the difference between being a dad and merely a father. Joe also dives into his work with Indigenous youth through initiatives like The Enemy Within, illustrating the vital connection between mental health advocacy and personal growth.

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Jul 20, 2025 • 1h 36min
Jess Hill - A 'love' of Control
Jess Hill, an Australian investigative journalist and author, dives deep into the epidemic of domestic violence in Australia. She explains the insidious nature of coercive control and the psychological tactics that entrap victims. Hill addresses the guilt and shame that often bind individuals to abusive situations and discusses the need for early intervention, especially in young boys. She draws parallels between coercive control and psychological manipulation seen in POWs, emphasizing the importance of breaking the cycle of abuse through self-reflection and targeted programs.

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Jul 13, 2025 • 1h 40min
Vincent Fantauzzo - A Brush With Pain
Vincent Fantauzzo, an award-winning Australian artist renowned for his portraits of celebrities like Heath Ledger and Julia Gillard, shares his transformative journey. He discusses how art saved his life amidst childhood trauma and dyslexia. Vincent highlights the positive influence of father figures and mentors throughout his life, the emotional weight of his experiences, and the power of art in healing. The conversation also touches on the struggles of navigating learning differences and the therapeutic benefits of journaling, fostering a deeper understanding of mental health.

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Jul 6, 2025 • 1h 17min
Dr Emily - That Guilty Feeling
Join Dr. Emily Musgrove, a resident psychologist and published author, as she unpacks the complex emotions of guilt. She differentiates guilt from shame and regret, emphasizing its original social purpose. Dr. Em dives deep into the guilt experienced by parents, especially mothers, and sheds light on managing the overwhelming burden of guilt in caregiving. She explores how childhood experiences shape adult guilt and discusses the importance of setting personal boundaries, self-care, and recognizing one’s values for healthier relationships.

Jun 29, 2025 • 1h 18min
Cate Campbell - Even Olympians Have Depression
Cate Campbell, a four-time Olympian and world record holder, opens up about her struggles with loneliness and depression, particularly during the pandemic. She candidly discusses the pressures of upholding a perfect image in sports, sharing how she learned to value her mental health. With heartfelt anecdotes, she touches on the importance of connection and vulnerability, including her evolving relationship with her sister Bronte. Cate emphasizes that even the most accomplished athletes face inner demons, making her story both relatable and inspiring.

Jun 22, 2025 • 1h 24min
Campbell "Struthless" Walker - Withdrawing with Drawing
Campbell "Struthless" Walker, an Australian artist and YouTuber, dives into the fascinating interplay of creativity and mental health. He shares insights on transforming pain into artistic expression and discusses his journey through addiction with candor. Struthless introduces the 70% rule for creative pursuits, asserting that progress is more important than perfection. He also emphasizes the joy of journaling and everyday creativity, encouraging listeners to embrace their creative selves in daily life.

Jun 15, 2025 • 1h 40min
Isaac Humphries - Coming Out On Court
Isaac Humphries, an NBL basketballer and the only actively openly gay player in professional basketball, shares his inspiring journey of self-acceptance. He recounts experiences of childhood bullying and the sanctuary basketball provided during his struggles. Isaac's emotional story includes coming out first to his mother and then to the world, highlighting the importance of vulnerability and authentic connection. He discusses the transformative power of acceptance, the role of supportive relationships, and how courage can reshape one's life.

Jun 8, 2025 • 1h 20min
Dr Emily - Using The Force For Good
In this engaging discussion, Dr. Emily Musgrove, a clinical psychologist and author of 'Unstuck', shares insights on the light and dark within us, likening Yoda’s wisdom to Acceptance and Commitment Therapy. She highlights the significance of mentorship and mindfulness, drawing parallels to the Hero's Journey and the battle with ego. The team explores how storytelling, especially in Star Wars, fosters resilience and hope, while emphasizing acceptance as a powerful tool for emotional regulation. Prepare for a blend of psychology and pop culture!