

The Imperfects
Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg
We’re all imperfect. On this podcast, founder of The Resilience Project Hugh van Cuylenburg, his good friend Ryan Shelton, and only one of their brothers, Josh van Cuylenburg, talks to a variety of interesting people who vulnerably share their own struggles and imperfections, or expertly pass on their wisdom on the subject of imperfection. Whether it’s in The Vulnerabilitea House, The Academy of Imperfection, or with our very own psychologist, Dr Emily, The Imperfects are here to find some valuable takeaways we can all apply to our own imperfect lives.
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Sep 14, 2025 • 1h 36min
Matt Okine - Comedy & Tragedy
Matt Okine, a talented comedian, actor, and writer known for his work on Triple J and The Other Guy, shares his journey of navigating profound loss and personal growth. He opens up about the devastating experience of losing his mother at a young age and how it shapes his perspective as a new parent. The discussion touches on overcoming trust issues after infidelity, the cathartic process of self-representation in writing, and the importance of vulnerability. With humor and sincerity, Matt reflects on friendship and the complexities of human relationships.

Sep 7, 2025 • 1h 20min
Karissa Lewis - We're Not Better Off Without You
Karissa Lewis, a lived experience practitioner with Social Futures, provides valuable insights into the aftermath of suicide. She highlights the importance of postvention as an essential form of prevention and discusses the emotional impact on communities, especially in schools. Karissa shares strategies for communicating honestly with children about grief and suicide, aiming to reduce stigma. The conversation emphasizes that every life matters and the powerful role of community support in mental wellness and healing.

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Aug 31, 2025 • 1h 26min
Dr Emily - The Meaning of Mid-Life
Emily Musgrove, a resident psychologist and author of 'Unstuck', dives into the complexities of midlife, unlocking the potential for growth and meaning. She reframes midlife crises as an opportunity rather than a setback, encouraging listeners to embrace their evolving intelligence and personal desires. Emily discusses the emotional challenges many face and emphasizes the importance of self-compassion and vulnerability. With heartfelt stories from guests, she illustrates how this transformative period can lead to rediscovering joy and purpose in life.

Aug 24, 2025 • 1h 23min
Hannah Ferguson - Outspoken But Not Broken
Hannah Ferguson, co-founder of Cheek Media and author, boldly shares her insights on overcoming fear and embracing vulnerability. She reflects on her childhood experiences that shaped her views on love and family dynamics, revealing the weight of responsibility she carried for her siblings. Hannah's journey through self-acceptance sheds light on her romantic experiences, discussing feelings of being undesirable and what makes her current partner feel like a keeper. With humor, she navigates the complexities of friendship and competitiveness, advocating for emotional honesty in relationships.

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Aug 17, 2025 • 1h 33min
Dyson Heppell - Whatever It Takes… To Forgive
Dyson Heppell, a former Essendon Football Club star, shares his remarkable journey through one of Australian sports' biggest scandals. He discusses rebuilding trust with teammates and finding joy in his career after adversity. The conversation delves into personal growth, the importance of relationships, and his unique bond with Harrison, which inspired the creation of Haych the Label. Dyson also candidly addresses the challenges of disordered eating and the stereotypes surrounding masculinity, showcasing resilience and a transformative outlook on life.

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Aug 10, 2025 • 1h 9min
Andy Cooks - Andy Doesn't Drink (Anymore)
Andy Hearnden, aka Andy Cooks, is a professional chef and social media sensation. He shares his journey from drinking's grip to finding sobriety, emphasizing the vital support from his partner, Katelyn. The conversation dives into the normalization of alcohol in the culinary world, the emotional struggles of addiction, and the importance of self-awareness. Andy also reflects on leadership lessons learned through his recovery, the shifting attitudes towards alcohol, and the joyful return to cooking as a passion project.

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Aug 3, 2025 • 1h 19min
Dr Emily - We're Longing for Belonging
In this insightful discussion, Dr. Emily Musgrove, a resident psychologist, reveals that our need for belonging is encoded in our DNA and essential for our well-being. She addresses our growing loneliness epidemic and the psychological toll of belonging uncertainty. Producer Bridge Northeast shares a personal tale about leadership and creating a sense of inclusivity. Together, they explore how vulnerability and open dialogue can foster connections, encourage empathy, and combat the fears of exclusion in both personal and professional spaces.

Jul 31, 2025 • 34min
Dis Works - A Game-Changing Study of The Resilience Project
A groundbreaking study reveals the Resilience Project significantly lowers depression and anxiety among students in Australia. Personal stories highlight how the initiative fosters communication and emotional well-being in families. Alarming statistics on youth mental health unite the need for long-term support in schools. Tips for parents on nurturing resilience at home are discussed, as well as the stunning impact of a school well-being program that enhances life satisfaction. It’s a celebration of hope and effective strategies for a brighter future!

Jul 27, 2025 • 1h 26min
Joe Williams - Concussion, Bipolar & Being a Dad
Joe Williams, a former National Rugby League player turned mental health advocate, shares his transformative journey following a tumultuous sports career rife with concussions and substance abuse. He discusses the stark realities of his bipolar diagnosis and how it has shaped his approach to fatherhood, emphasizing the difference between being a dad and merely a father. Joe also dives into his work with Indigenous youth through initiatives like The Enemy Within, illustrating the vital connection between mental health advocacy and personal growth.

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Jul 20, 2025 • 1h 36min
Jess Hill - A 'love' of Control
Jess Hill, an Australian investigative journalist and author, dives deep into the epidemic of domestic violence in Australia. She explains the insidious nature of coercive control and the psychological tactics that entrap victims. Hill addresses the guilt and shame that often bind individuals to abusive situations and discusses the need for early intervention, especially in young boys. She draws parallels between coercive control and psychological manipulation seen in POWs, emphasizing the importance of breaking the cycle of abuse through self-reflection and targeted programs.