You might be thinking about giving thanks this week, but how’s your overall attitude about gratitude? In this episode, I share five ways you can adjust your attitude to work for the better. How To Cultivate An Attitude Of Gratitude Before we start: Episode #9 is the place to go on how to give positive feedback to others 1. Stop the complaining by receiving praise well Don’t discount it Don’t argue with it Don’t ignore it Just say “thank you” Acknowledge that you are worthy of praise If you don’t think you are, just try it a couple of times. Discover the Difference Between Feedback and Criticism 2. Remember the dark days 3. Be intentional about making gratitude a regular practice Use a gratitude journal Bonni writes a post every day in November on Facebook Have more “get tos” than “got tos” I'll be doing a #weekofgratitude this week on my Twitter account 4. What can I do to help someone today “The smallest act is worth more than the grandest intention.” 5. Look to those who are examples of gratitude for inspiration “So many people have helped me to come here to this night. Some of you are here, some are far away and some are even in Heaven. All of us have special ones who have loved us into being. Would you just take, along with me, 10 seconds to think of the people who have helped you become who you are, those who have cared about you and wanted what was best for you in life. 10 seconds of silence. I’ll watch the time. Whomever you’ve been thinking about, how pleased they must be to know the difference you feel they’ve made.” - the late Mr. Rogers in 1997 Community Feedback CoachingforLeaders.com/feedback USA: (949) 38-LEARN Twitter: #CFLshow A final thought on the start of the holiday season. Thank you to Cherish Calero, Ronnie Sidhu, Jaime Sosa, Stefanie G, Timothy Goodman, Orawan Saeler, and Albin Manamarin who’ve subscribed to my weekly update this past week.

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Your questions and our answers. Join us for the first all question and answer show for the Coaching and Leaders community. Question from Jay: "I’m on the board of an organization that is run by two partners. One partner is really a people person. The other partner is more of a driver, all business, doesn’t like to fool around in the office. The challenge is one partner really pushes employees to the point where they almost want to quit and then the other partner has to come in and calm things down and smooth out the hard feelings. The drive partner is sometimes also blunt and driven with customers so the other partner has had to patch some things up and in other cases they have lost customers. What can I do?" We mentioned Ram Charan's new book, Boards That Lead* We also mentioned his recent interview with the HBR IdeaCast Episode #89: The Value of the StrengthsFinder Assessment Episode #90: How To Interpret Your StrengthsFinder Results Question from Monre: [AUDIO] We mentioned Episode #59: Seven Principles for Leading People Older Than You We mentioned the book Leadership and Self-Deception* Questions from Julie: "How do you maintain loyalty and trust when rumors are circulating? How do you keep employees motivated In the face of cutbacks." "How do you work with a boss that shows favoritism due to friendships outside the office?" Community Feedback CoachingforLeaders.com/feedback USA: (949) 38-LEARN Twitter: #CFLshow I’m looking to chat with about 10 people to do a little R&D for my Course1 project for #CFLshow community. Contact me if both of the below are true for you: You’ve been a manager for less than 2 years. You work for a company or organization of more than 25 people. Thank you to Jim Parks, Dustin, John, another John and all those who’ve subscribed to my weekly update this past week. I publish an article each week that will give you a booster shot between shows on how to lead better by giving you actionable advice to improve your communications, human relations, or personal productivity. If you’d to receive it in your inbox, just go to coachingforleaders.com/subscribe. Plus, you’ll get instant access to my video overview and downloadable guide on the ten leadership books that will help you get better results from others.

Let’s say you want to get into leadership...where do you start? On today’s show, how to start leading if you haven’t done it before. I begin with a question from a #CFLshow community member and detail four practical ways that you can get into leadership for the first time. Listener question from Scott Leadership = vision, communication, motivation A leader is someone with followers. We’ll talk more about this in a future show… Follow someone for awhile Solve a problem in the workplace Volunteer in a non-profit Design your own professional development plan A brief note on why I produce this show “Are you better today than you were yesterday?” Community Feedback CoachingforLeaders.com/feedback USA: (949) 38-LEARN Twitter: #CFLshow I’m looking to chat with about 10 people to do a little R&D for my Course1 project for #CFLshow community. Contact me if both of the below are true for you: You’ve been a manager for less than 2 years. You work for a company or organization of more than 25 people. Thank you to Mike Lovullo, Sue Duncan, someone named Tara, and a number of other folks who’ve subscribed to my weekly update this past week. I publish an article each week that will give you a booster shot between shows on how to lead better by giving you actionable advice to improve your communications, human relations, or personal productivity. If you’d to receive it in your inbox, just go to coachingforleaders.com/subscribe. Plus, you’ll get instant access to my video overview and downloadable guide on the ten leadership books that will help you get better results from others.

We all want to be right, but of course we are sometimes wrong. The advice from Dale Carnegie almost a century ago is as good today as its ever been. I welcome back Bonni Stachowiak to explore why when you are wrong, you should admit it quickly and emphatically. Guest: Bonni Stachowiak Dale Carnegie said almost 100 years ago in How To Win Friends and Influence People, “When you’re wrong, admit it quickly and emphatically.” Four truths: My truth Your truth Our shared truth The actual truth Three benefits you get from admitting you are wrong: You advance immediate progress on organizational goals You drive future innovation and creativity You inspire people to move forward The best marriages are not without conflict. The best teams and leaders and not without error. Discover More Activate your free membership for full access to the entire library of interviews since 2011, searchable by topic.

Once in awhile, someone says something cool that we take throughout our lives to help us lead. On this show, wise words that can help you influence better. I share four stories that will help you lead more effectively. First story Take small bits of wisdom from others and then, over time, make it your own. Second story Be humble enough to realize what you don't know and get advice from the experts. Third story When you or others have missed a feedback opportunity, acknowledge it and move forward the correct way. Fourth story Be willing to change directions for a few minutes to make someone's day. Community Feedback Leave an audio message now USA: (949) 38-LEARN feedback@coachingforleaders.com Twitter: #CFLshow I’m looking to chat with about 10 people to do a little R&D for my Course1 project for #CFLshow community. Contact me if both of the below are true for you: You’ve been a manager for less than 2 years. You work for a company or organization of more than 25 people. The new #CFLshow feedback page is up too! Check it out at: CoachingforLeaders.com/feedback Finally, check out Lift.do from episode #109 and let me know a daily habit you'd like to take action on. We may begin a community plan for a new daily habit when the founder of Lift.do joins us on the show in just a few weeks. Thank you to Holly Van Houten, Cathy Shinto, Ledesma Navor, Judy Mendenhall, Caroline Rae, and Brett Dove who’ve subscribed to my weekly article this past week. I publish an update each week that will give you a booster shot between shows on how to lead better by giving you actionable advice to improve your communications, human relations, or personal productivity. If you’d to receive it in your inbox, just go to coachingforleaders.com/subscribe. Plus, you’ll get instant access to my video overview and downloadable guide on the ten leadership books that will help you get better results from others.

Those of us who have responsibility to lead often find ourselves getting overwhelmed with all we need to do. On this episode, I welcome #CFLshow community member and experienced leader Jim Lynch to the show to discuss five sure-fire ways to scale your leadership. Guest: Jim Lynch Community Feedback Leave an audio message now USA: (949) 38-LEARN feedback@coachingforleaders.com Thank you to everyone who subscribed to my weekly article this past week. I publish an article each week that will give you a booster shot between shows on how to lead better by giving you actionable advice to improve your communications, human relations, or personal productivity. If you’d to receive it in your inbox, just go to coachingforleaders.com/subscribe. Plus, you’ll get instant access to my video overview and downloadable guide on the ten leadership books that will help you get better results from others.

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A number of people who listen to this show want to be better writers, since I’ve received a few requests for this topic. On this episode, how to improve your grammar and usage so you can communicate effectively in writing…and who better to teach us than Grammar Girl. Guest: Mignon Fogarty a.k.a. “Grammar Girl” Producer & Host, Grammar Girl Podcast Founder, Quick & Dirty Tips Podcast Network   Do you remember what the raven is for? Resources from Grammar Girl Merriam-Webster's Dictionary Dictionary.com Garner's Modern American Usage [affiliate link] Google Books Ngram The Grammar Devotional [affiliate link] Quick and Dirty Tips for Better Writing [affiliate link] Community Feedback Leave an audio message now USA: (949) 38-LEARN feedback@coachingforleaders.com Twitter: #CFLshow Manhattan Breakfast Meetup Saturday, October 12th, 2013 @ 9am Cafe Metro on Lexington Ave. & 46th street in Manhattan http://coachingforleaders.com/meetup I'm looking to chat with about 10 people to do a little R&D for a new project for #CFLshow community. Contact me if both of the below are true for you: You've been a manager for less than 2 years. You work for a company or organization of more than 25 people. If the above sounds like you, send me an email to feedback@coachingforleaders.com with "R&D" in the subject line. I publish an article each week that will give you a booster shot between shows on how to lead better by giving you actionable advice to improve your communications, human relations, or personal productivity. If you’d to receive it in your inbox, just go to coachingforleaders.com/subscribe. Plus, you’ll get instant access to my video overview and downloadable guide on the ten leadership books that will help you get better results from others. Thank you to Jim Pepe for your very kind written review on iTunes. If this show has been valuable to you as well, please leave a written review on iTunes by visiting coachingforleaders.com/itunes

Tom Henschel: The Look & Sound of Leadership Many of us are told time and time again in our careers that we should be asking for feedback from the people we work with and manage. However, a lot of us mess it up. On today’s show, 3 steps to soliciting feedback from Tom Henschel, executive coach and host of The Look & Sound of Leadership podcast. Discover More Activate your free membership for full access to the entire library of interviews since 2011, searchable by topic.