Sex With Emily

EPISODE SUMMARY In this episode, Emily sits down with volleyball legend Gabby Reece—professional athlete, podcast host of The Gabby Reece Show, entrepreneur—to talk about the unsexy truths that actually keep long-term relationships alive. Gabby pulls no punches as she reveals her controversial "48-hour sex rule," and how treating sex like going to the gym (just get your shoes on and show up) has sustained their passion for decades. This conversation dismantles the romanticized version of marriage and replaces it with raw honesty about vulnerability, stoicism almost ending her relationship, and why "misogynists are bitches" but real masculinity is powerful, protective, and tender. Gabby shares her four rules for keeping an alpha male happy (hint: food and sex made the list), the farmer versus flower dynamic that prevents resentment, and why her self-care hierarchy puts herself first, her relationship second, and her kids third—unapologetically. In this episode, you'll learn: • The 48-hour sex rule works—scheduling sex isn't sexy, but it's sexier than one partner begging and the other constantly rejecting; Gabby and Laird have sex every other day, and she admits she strategically loads her calendar the day after because she "doesn't have to answer to anyone" • Clear the decks daily to avoid divorce—Laird confronts everything immediately (every look, tone, word) so resentments never build; Gabby credits this practice with saving their marriage after years of her being too stoic nearly ended it • Understanding the farmer vs. flower dynamic—sometimes one partner is in the spotlight (the flower) while the other supports (the farmer), and the roles switch; when one person is always the farmer, resentment builds and relationships suffer • Real masculinity isn't misogyny—true masculine strength includes compassion, protection, and tenderness; we've trained men to feel bad about their masculinity, and bringing kindness (not anger) while setting boundaries helps everyone thrive • You have the goods—ask for what you want—Gabby's advice to young women about sex is radical: stop performing, start demanding your pleasure, and remember that good sex is about mutual understanding, not just one person's orgasm More Dr. Emily:  • Shop With Emily! Explore Emily’s favorite toys, pleasure accessories, bedroom essentials, and more — designed to support your pleasure and confidence. Free shipping on orders $99+ (some exclusions apply). • Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. • Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. • The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure • Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website • Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube • Let’s text: Sign up here • Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. This episode is sponsored by…  Common Confidential  Use code SEXWITHEMILY! https://commonconfidential.com/s/sexwithemily Bellesa  "EVERYONE who signs up wins a FREE toy or gift card! https://www.bboutique.co/vibe/emilymorse-podcast" Timestamps: 0:00 - Intro 1:21 - The Challenge of Bringing More Play Into Life 7:06 - 28 Years Together: Gabby's 3 Keys to a Strong Marriage 9:03 - Clear the Decks: Daily Communication That Saves Relationships 14:19 - Farmer vs Flower: Understanding Relationship Roles 22:48 - Why Self-Care Isn't Selfish (Especially for Moms) 28:34 - Lifting Weights: The Real Anti-Aging Secret for Women 29:04 - The 4 Rules for Keeping Your Partner Happy 39:18 - The 48-Hour Rule 42:26 - When You're Doing It for Them (And Why That's OK) 50:01 - Biggest Turn-Ons, Turn-Offs & Sex Advice for Young Women

In this engaging conversation, Todd Baratz, a sex therapist and author, debunks the fairy tale myth of 'the one' in relationships. He argues that rigid 'shoulds' about love create unnecessary anxiety. Todd emphasizes that not everyone is a narcissist; sometimes, people are just incompatible. He also highlights that being viewed as 'too much' may stem from a partner's emotional limitations, and that genuine connection is what truly matters in intimacy. From clear communication about desires to the importance of reciprocity in sexual relationships, Todd provides practical insights for fostering healthier connections.

Emily sits down with Amy Chan, founder of Renew Breakup Bootcamp and author known for her expertise in overcoming breakups. They delve into the reasons we repeat dating patterns, emphasizing that emotional types, not physical traits, dictate our choices. Amy’s unique 12-person dating experiment encourages clients to step outside their comfort zones. They discuss transforming breakups into growth opportunities, recognizing red and green flags in partners, and the importance of emotional readiness in relationships. Tune in to reframe your dating journey!

Discover how the five pillars of sexual intelligence can elevate your intimate experiences. Explore embodiment practices like breathwork and tools for self-acceptance that confront pleasure thieves. Learn about innovative products like sonic wave toys and massage butter that enhance connection and enjoyment. Dive into the importance of communication in relationships and strategies for understanding your desires better. This captivating conversation encourages a holistic approach to sexuality, turning intimacy into a nourishing journey.

Chelsey Goodan, an educator and author dedicated to empowering teenage girls, explores the art of communication with this often misunderstood demographic. She emphasizes the importance of radical honesty to build trust and nurture girls' emotional literacy. Chelsey discusses how people-pleasing can stifle sexual pleasure and shares strategies for overcoming this mindset. Highlighting the need for comprehensive sexual education, she urges society to challenge double standards and promote accountability, all while fostering resilience and a sense of agency in young women.

Jared Freed and Jordana Abraham, co-hosts of the You Up? podcast, dive into the chaotic world of modern dating. They share hilarious dating horror stories and discuss the pitfalls of saying yes to lackluster dates. The duo emphasizes listening to your gut and focusing on genuine excitement rather than obligation. They advocate for intentional dating practices, like limiting app usage and scheduling quick meet-ups. Plus, they tackle the complexities of casual relationships, navigating boundaries, and how to avoid the dreaded ‘ick’!

In this engaging discussion, bestselling author and wellness expert Liz Moody shares her journey from agoraphobia to empowerment. She introduces a unique exercise that encourages listeners to consider their future selves for better decision-making. Liz also emphasizes the importance of clarifying relationship labels and improving communication to enhance intimacy. With insights on micro-intimacy and prioritizing joy over appearance, she provides practical strategies for nurturing relationships and embracing personal growth.

Dr. Emily tackles tricky relationship dilemmas, like a wife pressured for midnight sex, revealing deeper emotional needs at play. She discusses why men often wake up aroused and the importance of respecting sleep boundaries. Alternatives to nocturnal intimacy are suggested, from timing to creative foreplay. Out of a sexless marriage? Emily explores options for reconciliation or reimagining partnerships. Plus, she dives into boosting libido and the significance of communication surrounding oral sex in relationships.

Dive into the fascinating world of orgasms as the host reveals the physiological magic happening in your body. Discover the four stages of orgasm and learn how clitoral anatomy plays a crucial role in pleasure. Explore the intriguing concept of dry orgasms and the effectiveness of hands-free techniques like tantric breathing. And if you've ever dealt with a partner's jackhammer approach, get tips on how to communicate your needs effectively. It's a deep and enlightening journey into intimacy and connection!

Discover how pelvic positioning can unlock new sensations and enhance orgasms. A caller learns that straight legs can change clitoral stimulation, while mindful masturbation techniques help expand pleasure options. Explore why some find anal sex more enjoyable than vaginal, with insights into anatomy and nerve endings. Delve into the benefits of open discussions about intimacy and orgasms. The episode also touches on dating after loss and the fascinating world of erotic lactation.