Sex With Emily

When Sexual Preferences Become Deal Breakers

Dec 5, 2025
Dr. Emily tackles tricky relationship dilemmas, like a wife pressured for midnight sex, revealing deeper emotional needs at play. She discusses why men often wake up aroused and the importance of respecting sleep boundaries. Alternatives to nocturnal intimacy are suggested, from timing to creative foreplay. Out of a sexless marriage? Emily explores options for reconciliation or reimagining partnerships. Plus, she dives into boosting libido and the significance of communication surrounding oral sex in relationships.
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INSIGHT

Nighttime Desire Is Biological

  • Men often wake with nocturnal erections which can drive spontaneous nighttime desire.
  • Female arousal typically requires more time and stimulation, so sudden night sex is less common.
ADVICE

Protect Sleep, Offer Alternatives

  • Don't sacrifice your sleep routine to meet a partner's nighttime expectation.
  • Offer alternate ways to make him feel desired at other times or with different gestures.
ADVICE

Create Low-Impact Ways To Connect

  • Use creative, low-disturbance solutions like videos or masturbation next to your partner.
  • These let him feel seen without you losing sleep or consent pressure.
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