Perfectionism Rewired

Ever catch yourself saying "just one more minute" ? Or struggling to shut down at the end of a workday when you haven't finished everything on your list? Me too. Listen as I walk you through a recent experience of rewiring my own perfectionist habits, the anxiety that came up, the tools I used and why taking control of your time as a perfectionist matters in the big picture. Listen to the full episode to hear:Simple 4-step process to stop perfectionist habits dead in their tracksHow to be more understanding when old crappy patterns pop-upPerfectionism Tax: What you're paying _ how to stop paying itThe one question that makes it clear what your best decision is when you feel torn"There's always going to be one more thing to do. We don't have a guaranteed one more minute in our life." - CLGIf you’re committed to being stronger, happier, braver, more resilient and want in-depth personalized support rewiring your perfectionism, The Accelerator 1-1 coaching is for you!  Get started today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/accelerator EPSISODE 169 TIMESTAMPS:00:00-Introduction To Perfectionism Rewired00:21-The Perfectionist's Dilemma 01:12-The "Just One More Minute" Syndrome01:49-CLG's Personal Journey with Hard Conversations02:13-Overcoming the Perfectionist Narrative + Process Perfectionism03:12-The Core Four Pillars: Person, Peace, Prosperity, Presence 04:47-Four N's: Notice, Normalize, Neutralize, Next Action 05:25-Reframing Your Perspective on Difficult06:03-Why You Must Have A Strong Foundation + Malibu Analogy07:25-Debunking Perfectionism Myths: CLG's Personal Experience08:07-What Perfectionism is Costing You Right Now09:05-Breaking the Cycle: How To Say No to "One More Minute" Perfectionism Rewired is committed to truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge research on perfectionism, interoception + neuroscience, for the practical perfectionist who wants to enjoy the life they've worked so hard to create.

We've all been there—facing a discussion we dread, a pit in our stomach, wishing someone else could do it for us. But what if difficult conversations could strengthen your relationships instead of being awkward? Discover how in this episode and empower yourself to handle any conversation, no matter how challenging. Learn strategies that work with your perfectionism  to navigate tough talks without blame, frustration, being defensive or justifying.If you’re committed to being stronger, happier, braver, more resilient and want in-depth personalized support rewiring your perfectionism, The Accelerator 1-1 coaching is for you!  Get started today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/accelerator EPSISODE 168 TIMESTAMPS:00:00-Introduction & The Perfectionist's Guide00:50-Essence of Difficult Conversations 01:24-The Skill of Navigating Tough Talks 01:49-CLG's Personal Journey with Hard Conversations03:07-Evolving Your Communication Skillset 03:54-Why are Difficult Conversations Tricky? 04:15-Emotional Perfectionism & Its Role 05:25-Reframing Your Perspective on Difficult06:15-How To Discuss What Matters Most07:18-Importance of Visualization for Perfectionists08:07-Preparing for the Convo: Tips & Tricks 09:05-The Power of Not Over-Explaining 10:03-Making Difficult Conversations Second Nature 10:48-During the Conversation: Key Points to Remember 11:42-Conclusion & Invite to the Perfectionism Rewired Accelerator Perfectionism Rewired is committed to truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge research on perfectionism, interoception + neuroscience, for the practical perfectionist who wants to enjoy the life they've worked so hard to create.

Ever wondered if you're being demanding or just making requests? Listen in to discover the secret to navigating relationships without the emotional toll and the key distinctions between demands + requests.If you’re committed to being stronger, happier, braver, more resilient and want in-depth personalized support rewiring your perfectionism, The Accelerator 1-1 coaching is for you!  Get started today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/accelerator EPSISODE 167 TIMESTAMPS:00:00-Introduction To Demands vs Requests01:29-Impact of Demands in Personal Relationships02:55-Emotional Tax of Making Demands04:15-Perks of Making Requests05:10-Real Life Examples + How To Tell Recognizing Emotional Responses06:26-Boundaries & Handling Difficult Conversations07:25-Handling Demands from People You Love08:01-If You Crumble When Demands Are Put On You...08:26-Inner Confidence + Rising When Demands Are Put On You09:18-Building a Strong Foundation & Resilience Perfectionism Rewired is committed to truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge research on perfectionism, interoception + neuroscience, for the practical perfectionist who wants to enjoy the life they've worked so hard to create.

Revealing THE silent source of your disappointments, stress + conflicts and how to stop this inner peace parasite in its tracks. Whether you're dealing with in-laws, work drama or disappointment with yourself this episode is a masterclass in dissolving disappointments +  gives you actionable solutions to use for life along with holiday stress. Plus what Byron Katie told me about sadness that forever changed how I deal with disappointment. If you’re committed to being stronger, happier, braver, more resilient and want in-depth personalized support rewiring your perfectionism, The Accelerator 1-1 coaching is for you!  Get started today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/accelerator EPSISODE 165 TIMESTAMPS:00:00-Introduction To #1 Mind Parasite01:27-Powerful Tool Melts Holiday Frustrations02:20-Expectations = Disappointment03:09-Popular Toxic Beliefs of Perfectionistic Subconscious Minds04:03-How To Harmonize In-Laws During The Holidays07:12-Never Have A Difficult Conversation Again09:09-You Must Let Go Of THIS for Inner Peace10:13-Impact of Expectations on Perfectionists12:00-Beauty of Starting From Neutral14:04-Key To Productive Conversations Is Leading With This15:01-Three Areas To Look For Your Hidden Expectations 16:13-Composting Disappointments into Proud Momentum Perfectionism Rewired is committed to truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge research on perfectionism, interoception + neuroscience, for the practical perfectionist who wants to enjoy the life they've worked so hard to create.

Do you go above + beyond decorating and cooking during Thanksgiving all to make your loved ones happy? But end up feeling unappreciated and resentful? It's time to understand why. In this eye-opening episode, you'll find out how emotional outsourcing affects us as perfectionists, ways to break free from this pattern and how making daily deposits into your Core Four Pillars makes sure your holiday happiness never gets hijacked.If you want to say goodbye to holiday stress and in-depth personalized support for your own perfectionism, The Accelerator is for you!  Get started today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/acceleratorEPSISODE 165 TIMESTAMPS:00:00-Introduction Perfectionism Rewired and Understanding Holiday Stress01:42-Exploring Emotional Outsourcing02:36-Identifying the Signs of Holiday Happiness Hijackers04:23-Your Core Four Pillars for Optimized Well-Being05:46-Real-Life Healthy Thanksgiving Success of Accelerator client06:35-The Slot Machine Analogy08:36-Your No. 1 Stress-Busting Tool10:21-Science of Self-Care During the Holidays11:45-Solutions to Embrace Holiday Joy Perfectionism Rewired is committed to truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge research on perfectionism, interoception + neuroscience, for the practical perfectionist who wants to enjoy the life they've worked so hard to create.

The holiday season is the superbowl of stress, creating oodles of pressure and for perfectionists we can go into overdrive, causing burn out, extreme people-pleasing and going at such a warp speed we miss the moments that matter most. This is why NOW is YOUR prime time to get support so you're perfectionism is working for you and you can make this Christmas season the best one yet!If you’re committed to being stronger, happier, braver, more resilient + want a revolutionary approach, I highly recommend joining  The Accelerator, 1-1 coaching for perfectionists who play to win.  Get started today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/accelerator EPSISODE 164 TIMESTAMPS:00:00-Introduction + Recap Holiday Perfectionism01:24-Striking and sharpening when the iron is cold02:37-How to stop holiday overwhelm before it starts 04:06-Preparing for Christmas Perfection is like training as an athlete 05:05-Challenges faced by people pleasers during the holidays 05:53-How To Make Perfectionism Work For You 07:16-Questions for You to Make this Christmas season the best one yet 07:50-Neurogenesis + why core four pillars work for perfectionists   Perfectionism Rewired is committed to truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge research on perfectionism, interoception + neuroscience, for the practical perfectionist who wants to enjoy the life they've worked so hard to create.

Holidays are when lots of perfectionists go straight into overwhelm....and you don’t need to be one of 'em! Today I'm getting you ready for the holidays so you can feel way better than anxious or obligated this season.NOW is when you want to make moves and create routines that restore your energy—get perfectionism coaching, nurture healthy habits that enhance and expand your life.When you’re already stressed in a holiday perfectionism sh!t show, anything you do will be significantly less impactful bc your stress response is activated, making your brain interpret information in warped way than it would if you were calm and centered.Beat stress at the holidays with this simple step-by-step I'm walking you through on the podcast and how to navigate difficult conversations with family members re: boundaries. Instead of being a helpless victim to the holidays, DECIDE now to make your holiday perfectionism magical and press play to listen to episode 163!If you’re committed to being stronger, happier, braver, more resilient + want a revolutionary approach, I highly recommend joining  The Accelerator, 1-1 coaching for perfectionists who play to win.  Get started today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/accelerator EPSISODE 163 TIMESTAMPS:00:00:00-Introduction to Holiday Perfectionism01:25-Defining YOUR Priorities for the Holidays 02:50-Taking Control: Holiday Perfectionism 04:15-Identifying Your Resources for a Magical Stress-Free Season 05:29-Difficult Conversations + Boundary Setting06:00-Striking While The Iron is Cold: Resourcing Yourself Now07:24-How To Nix Stress at the Holidays   Perfectionism Rewired is committed to truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge research on perfectionism, interoception + neuroscience, for the practical perfectionist who wants to enjoy the life they've worked so hard to create.

Curious what exactly a perfectionism coach does and why you might want one?Why would you choose one over a general life coach, therapist, counselor, group coaching program, book, or course to address their perfectionism? In a world filled with perfectionism books, therapists, life coaches and group programs galore, you’ll uncover why a perfectionism coach could be your secret weapon and the 3 key benefits you only get with a perfectionism coach. Find out what they don’t want you to know about group coaching programs…like that unless you pay a premium, you’ll have wait for your turn to receive coaching and be influenced by others' problems.Get smart about spotting the pre-programmed scripts and limitations of general life coaches, therapists and counselors, and how to tell if they lack the first-hand experience and depth required to address the intricacies of perfectionism. Today's podcast episode helps you avoid perfectionism coach imposters. I'll show you all the ways having a real perfectionism coach will help you (and how the imposters keep you stuck in hopeless perfectionism tactics and programs).No more cookie cutter coaching or group coaching program cattle calls. You deserve better. And you deserve to quit wasting your money and time. If you’re committed to being stronger, happier, braver, more resilient + want a revolutionary approach, I highly recommend joining  The Accelerator, 1-1 coaching for perfectionists who play to win.  Let's get started today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/accelerator EPSISODE 162 TIMESTAMPS:00:00:00-Introduction00:01:24-Why You'd Want A Perfectionism Coach 00:02:13-Limitations of General Life Coaches, Therapists and Counselors00:03:30-Group Coaching Programs and Their Drawbacks00:05:25-The Depth of Perfectionistic Traits 00:7:27-Advantages of a Perfectionism Coach00:08:27-Why Perfectionists Need X-ray Vision00:10:01 Leveraging Perfectionism00:13:10-Highlighting Possibilities Instead of Problems   Perfectionism Rewired is committed to truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge research on perfectionism, interoception + neuroscience, for the practical perfectionist who wants to enjoy the life they've worked so hard to create.

“I just need to get through this quarter, THEN I'll....”“Explaining it takes too long + I really don’t have the time”“They rarely do it right anyways…”^^^ these are SUPER common things I hear from high-achieving perfectionists who are used to doing it themselves and figuring it out alone. This works… until it doesn’t. Until you burnout, are pulling insane hours or get passed over for a promotion.It doesn’t have to be this way. Delegating and resourcing yourself are skills that are REALLY different than the incredible skills of “figuring it out and flying solo”.Go from resentful to resourceful knowing the No. 1 misconception perfectionist's believe about resourcing yourself and how to dissolve this back asswards thinking. If you’re committed to being stronger, happier, braver, more resilient + want a revolutionary approach, I highly recommend joining  The Accelerator, 1-1 coaching for perfectionists who play to win.  Let's get started today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/accelerator EPSISODE TIMESTAMPS:00:00:00-Introduction00:01:41-The Covert Nature of Perfectionism 00:01:59-Uncovering Your Back-Asswards Thinking 00:02:09-Solving the Wrong Problem 00:02:45-Shifting Perspectives 00:03:50-Overcoming All-or-Nothing Thinking 00:05:16-The Journey from Interested to Committed 00:06:47-Invitation for Perfectionists committed to excellence  Perfectionism Rewired is committed to truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge research on perfectionism, interoception + neuroscience, for the practical perfectionist who wants to enjoy the life they've worked so hard to create.

Feel like you’re hitting a wall? No matter what you do you just can't seem to make the progress you want? This episode is the ladder to progress you've been searching for. Discover how your beliefs, traits, and skills play a pivotal role in either propelling you forward or keeping you stuck and the 3 steps for hypergrowth. If you're committed to getting unstuck you gotta check out my 1-1 coaching for perfectionists The AcceleratorJoin The Accelerator today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/acceleratorInside This Episode You'll Discover:The Ladder Analogy: skills, character traits, and beliefs crucial to overcoming plateauPerfectionist imbalances between their skills, character traits, and beliefs, keeping us stuck in stagnation3 Steps to Uncover Your Deficiencies and being ruthlessly honest about where you are NOWReplacing Mental Spinning with Action instead of dwelling on why you have deficienciesPinterest for Ladder Visual  Perfectionism Rewired is committed to truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge research on perfectionism, interoception + neuroscience, for the practical perfectionist who wants to enjoy the life they've worked so hard to create.