Perfectionism Rewired

Are you tired of getting by? Ready to move beyond burn out? Discover the *real reason* you're burning out (it has nothing to do with meditation or caffeine intake) and how to stop settling for a life running on 20% battery. Hear from Perfectionism Optimized client Kevin bravely shares his story of being the all-star perfectionist parent addicted to stress, on the verge of divorce living in a pressure-cooker of his own making and resentful AF. Discover how he moved beyond band-aid solutions for being burnt out, let go of the need for control and rewired to become a playful parent, partner and person.If you want to make sure Burn Out NEVER HAPPENS TO YOU AGAIN and want proven, science-backed tools to INTERRUPT the perfectionistic habits currently holding you hostage, you belong inside Perfectionism Optimized private 1-1 coaching.  Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/rewireListen to the Full  Episode To Learn:Why you want to alter how you perceive and react to your signs of burnoutHow adverse childhood experiences contribute to.over functioningWhat Kevin did step-by-step to go from from over-functioning stress addiction to rewire and redefine success on his own terms Resources Mentioned:Perfectionism Optimized: empowers perfectionists and high-achieving, Type A individuals to take charge, leverage their perfectionistic tendencies and quit fighting against their perfectionism forever using proven neuroscience so you can feel as amazing as your life looks and become the powerhouse you’re designed to be.The Body Keeps Score: A book that delves into how the body stores stress and trauma, emphasizing the importance of treating both mind and body.EPSISODE 179 TIMESTAMPS:00:00-Introduction01:23-Understanding the real root of why Perfectionists are Burned Out02:41-Kevin's Story: From Stress Addict to Playful Parent04:05-Exploring the Roots of Over functioning06:17-If I do it all perfect and stay in control then I AM SAFE07:11-Diving Deep into the Psychology of Perfectionism09:16-Olivia Benson, Special Victims Unit + Owning Your Over Functioning10:20-How Shooting Up Heroin is just like Using Perfectionism To Manage Stress12:15-Assessing the Impact of Burnout + Doing Life at 20%13:42-Holistic Approach to Healing Perfectionism16:10-Why Band-Aid Solutions Like Therapy Make Burnout Worse17:18-Developing Customized Proven Pathways that Integrate your Somatic18:32-The Simple Science Of Tracking Detailed Data for Progress21:55-How to Recognize Early Signs of Burnout22:47-Celebrating Kevin's Transformation and Triumph25:19-Who Will You Choose to Be? Warning Label or Shining Example? Sources + Citations:Burton, G. J., & Jauniaux, E. (2011). Oxidative stress. Baillière’s Best Practice & Research. Clinical Obstetrics & Gynaecology/Baillière’s Best Practice and Research in Clinical Obstetrics and Gynaecology, 25(3), 287–299. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.bpobgyn.2010.10.016Chu, B., Marwaha, K., Sanvictores, T., Awosika, A. O., & Ayers, D. (2024, May 7). Physiology, Stress Reaction. Retrieved June 14, 2024, from Nih.gov website: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/books/NBK541120/Handley, A. K., Egan, S. J., Kane, R. T., & Rees, C. S. (2014). The relationships between perfectionism, pathological worry and generalised anxiety disorder. BMC Psychiatry, 14(1). https://doi.org/10.1186/1471-244x-14-98Larijani, Roja, and Mohammad Ali Besharat. “Perfectionism and Coping Styles with Stress.” Procedia—Social and Behavioral Sciences 5 (2010): 623–27. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.sbspro.2010.07.154Sirois, F. M., J. Monforton, and M. Simpson. “If Only I Had Done Better: Perfectionism and the Functionality of Counterfactual Thinking.” Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin 36, no. 12 (2010): 1675–92. https://doi.org/10.1177/0146167210387614 Perfectionism Rewired is committed to truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge research on perfectionism, interoception + neuroscience, for the practical perfectionist who wants to enjoy the life they've worked so hard to create.

CLG shares her personal journey from self-criticism to a flexible, elevated perspective. They discuss how neurosculpting can rewire perfectionistic habits, the ineffectiveness of conventional solutions for perfectionists, and the importance of curiosity muscle development. The podcast provides proven tools to interrupt perfectionistic habits and transform them from a weakness to a strength.

Do your mistakes make you cringe? Say goodbye to the burnout of excellence and learn how to rewire your perfectionism for success without the stress. Discover the four transformative phases of permanent change, the role of your reticular activating system in changing perfectionistic habits, importance of novelty and playfulness in rewiring the brain and action steps to start correcting your perfectionist tendencies today!If you're ready to quit fighting against your perfectionism forever and want a proven, science-backed approach to permanently rewiring your perfectionistic habits so you can be joyfully ambitious, you gotta check out my 1-1 coaching Perfectionism Optimized! Get relief today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/optimizedListen to the Full  Episode To Hear:Why novelty is your ally and how to create it on commandThe Four Phases of Rewiring Perfectionism SimplifiedHow neuroplasticity is essential for rewiring perfectionist habitsActivate your brain's Reticular Activating System (RAS) to notice change and accelerate your progressStep-by-step to Sustainable Permanent Change1 Waking Up Phase: Recognize new insights and apply them, accepting it's a gradual process.2 Momentum Phase: Build intentionality and observe the impact of your actions.3 Make or Break Phase: Experiment, analyze + learn from experiences to solve and evolve.4 Habit Phase: Solidify new behaviors, knowing some old habits may persist but won't dominate or be your default5 Seek Guidance: Consider expert coaching like Perfectionism Optimized to gain solidified  atomic habits"You're not just reprogramming a habit, you're reprogramming your response to life." - Courtney Love Gavin, Perfectionism Rewired Episode 177EPSISODE 177 TIMESTAMPS:00:00-Introduction01:23-The Perfectionism Dilemma for High Achievers02:41-Misconceptions around permanent change and mistakes03:18-Role of science in developing solid self-compassion04:19-Four phases of permanent change06:39-Going from feeling victimized by mistakes to seeing them as learning opportunities07:26-Your Reticular Activating System's role in manhandling mistakes08:22-Why Sustainable change is a process, not a one-time event.09:58-Creating Novelty So You're Brain Doesn't Get Bored11:06-How to Analyze Your Mistakes without Judgment11:59-Actionable steps to start understanding your own perfectionistic tendencies Perfectionism Rewired is committed to truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge research on perfectionism, interoception + neuroscience, for the practical perfectionist who wants to enjoy the life they've worked so hard to create.

Think perfectionism is a dream killer? Discover the underlying reasons why we allow perfectionism to control our lives and how perfectionism can be both a shield and a sword. Commitment versus compliance and practical step to use your perfectionism as an asset.  If you're ready to quit fighting against your perfectionism forever and want a proven, science-backed approach to permanently rewiring your perfectionistic habits, you gotta check out my 1-1 coaching Perfectionism Optimized! Get relief today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/optimizedListen to the Full  Episode To Hear:Difference between being committed and being compliant.Unconscious Payoffs we get by being held hostage by our perfectionismHow to figure out what's actually holding you back and use your perfectionistic habits to acceleratePractical steps to use perfectionism as an asset.Step-by-step to Overcoming Perfectionism:Acknowledge the Choice: Recognize that being held back by perfectionism is a choice.Identify the Payoff: Understand the benefits you derive from your perfectionistic habits.Commitment Over Compliance: Commit to small, achievable daily goals and track your progress.Challenge Your Excuses: Recognize and challenge the changing excuses your brain offers.Seek Guidance: Consider joining programs like Perfectionism Optimized to gain structured support.EPSISODE 176 TIMESTAMPS:00:00-Introduction01:32-The Paradox of Choice of Perfectionism02:19-Reasons vs. Results: Psychological Gains of Blaming03:18-Understanding Why We ALLOW Perfectionism to Control Our Lives03:52-Payoff of Perfectionistic Habits04:37-Writers Block and Crippling Perfectionism05:00-Breaking Free from External Control 06:24-How Your Brain Distracts From Your True Goals08:22-Taking Charge, Staying Committed + Not Letting Excuses Drive Your Actions08:56-Building Commitment Incrementally with Perfectionism Playbook09:37-Actionable Steps for Aspiring Writers Perfectionism Rewired is committed to truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge research on perfectionism, interoception + neuroscience, for the practical perfectionist who wants to enjoy the life they've worked so hard to create.

 Find out exactly how you can use your Health Insurance, HSA and/or FSA to pay for coaching and how having ADHD, depression, anxiety etc can actually help you, with this step-by-step guide, Including a fill-in-the-blank packet you can take to your provider to get a prescription and letter of medical necessity for perfectionism coaching. My clients have used this packet and it's been approved 100% of the time. If you're ready to quit fighting against your perfectionism forever and want a proven, science-backed approach to permanently rewiring your perfectionistic habits, you gotta check out my 6-Week Perfectionism Rewired Accelerator! Get relief today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/acceleratorResources Inside This Episode:Introductory Coaching Session (cost can be applied to all future coaching) here: https://courtneylovegavin.com/perfectionism-coaching-perfect-startComplete guide + FAQ about using your health insurance + HSA for coaching here: https://courtneylovegavin.com/insurance-cover-coachingDoctor Ready Template: fill-in-the-blank  designed to simplify the process of gaining medical approvals. Download your Letter of Medical Necessity to use with your physician here: https://bit.ly/coaching-prescriptionStep-by-Step Process to Utilize Health Benefits for Coaching:Understanding Medical Coverage: If you have a Flexible Spending Account (FSA), Health Savings Account (HSA), or Health Reimbursement Account (HRA), you might be eligible to use these funds for qualified medical expenses.Eligibility Check: All services by Perfectionist Solutions including health and wellness coaching and assessments, fall under the category of "qualified medical expenses."Seeking Reimbursement: Health insurance often operates with CPT codes, approved by the American Medical Association (AMA). Check if your health insurance provides reimbursement.Leverage Resources: Utilize the resources here to navigate the medical jargon and get the required approvals.EPSISODE 175 TIMESTAMPS:00:00-Introduction00:58-Health Insurance & Perfectionism Coaching  02:44-Traditional vs. Rooted Approaches to Perfectionism 03:16-FSA, HSA & HRA for Perfectionism Coaching 03:49-Health & Wellness Coaching: A Qualified Medical Expense 04:13-Reimbursement through Health Insurance 05:03-Navigating Health Insurance for Wellness Coaching 05:28-CLG's Mission: Helping Every Perfectionist 06:15-Medical Conditions & Perfectionism Coaching Benefits 06:55-Overlooked Medical Diagnoses & Their Impact08:19-Speaking the 'Medical Language' for Approvals 09:25-How To Feel Way Better Before Christmas Perfectionism Rewired is committed to truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge research on perfectionism, interoception + neuroscience, for the practical perfectionist who wants to enjoy the life they've worked so hard to create.

Why do you want to take control of your perfectionism? The key is identifying your most important reasons. Then you can use them as your secret  weapon to become failproof. How? With this simple tool. Master this tool and overcoming perfectionism becomes a no-brainer.If you're ready to quit fighting against your perfectionism forever and want a proven, science-backed approach to permanently rewiring your perfectionistic habits, you gotta check out my 6-Week Perfectionism Rewired Accelerator! Get relief today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/acceleratorListen to the full episode to hear:Why "Whys" are pivotal in rewiring your perfectionist tendenciesReasons why we as perfectionists often get stuck, avoid or quit when things get hardHow to start fail-proofing your perfectionism today!"When you make Perfectionism a villain, you put yourself in victim mentality. Perfectionism is not a villain. People only make it a villain when they are unable to educate you on how to own your perfectionism." - CLG, Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 174EPSISODE 174 TIMESTAMPS:00:00-Introduction + Recovering Perfectionist Battle Cry01:18-The Misunderstanding of Perfectionism02:22-Why Being A Recovering Perfectionist is a LIE03:09-The Mental Traps of Perfectionism04:15-The Pitfalls of Old Outdated Overcome Perfectionism Methods05:24-The Brain Behind Perfectionism06:55-The Power of 'Why' in Rewiring09:22-Practical Steps: Keeping Your 'Why' Front and Center10:59-Moments of Impact: Making Conscious Choices12:50-Real-life 'Whys' from Perfectionists Who've Taken Control14:04-How You Can Fail-Proof Your Perfectionism Perfectionism Rewired is committed to truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge research on perfectionism, interoception + neuroscience, for the practical perfectionist who wants to enjoy the life they've worked so hard to create.

Ever wish you could just turn your feelings off? For years I wanted to be a robot bc I sucked at expressing emotions. Now I know what to do with feelings and can easily make space for emotions without drowning in them. Emotions can either propel or paralyze you, here's how to understand and navigate them as a perfectionist.Listen to the full episode to hear:Discover the two main ways society has miseducated us about expressing emotions and the pivotal techniques to unlearn them.Two essential questions to ask to get out of the emotional swap + get clearThe difference between self-compassion, emotional petting, reflection, rumination and more.Perfectionist tendencies and how they become unhealthy coping mechanismsHow Jamal + Veronica took control of their emotions and perfectionism so they co-exist in harmonyIf you're ready to quit fighting against your perfectionism forever and want a proven, science-backed approach to permanently rewiring your perfectionistic habitsI, you gotta check out my 1-1 coaching program Perfectionism Optimized! Get relief today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/servicesEPSISODE 173 TIMESTAMPS:00:00-Introduction + Sneak Peak of Topic01:43-Two Major Misconceptions About Expressing Emotions 02:22-Dismissing Emotions vs Taking Charge of Your Emotions 03:28-Dangers of Black and White Thinking About Emotions 03:42-The Role of Capitalism in Controlling of Emotions04:06-Differentiating Self Compassion, Reflection, Discipline and Expressing Feelings 04:58-When Perfectionism Becomes An Unhealthy Coping Mechanism 07:04-Why Focusing On Present Rather Than Past Is Where You Find Answers 07:37-Differentiating Between Expressing and Explaining Feelings 08:06-The Pitfalls of Overexpressing and Underexplaining Feelings09:57-How Providing Context for Emotional Experiences is Key10:47-The Challenge of Underexpressing and Overexplaining Emotions12:45-How A Healthy Perfectionist Handles Emotions in a Better Way 13:30-Two Key Questions to Increase Your Emotional Intelligence + Feel Better Faster Perfectionism Rewired is committed to truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge research on perfectionism, interoception + neuroscience, for the practical perfectionist who wants to enjoy the life they've worked so hard to create.

The new science of perfectionism: revealed. Discover the profound impact of neuroplasticity on reshaping perfectionist tendencies, neuroplasticity defined (so simply a 5 year old gets it), what this looks like IRL and how your age influences your brain's ability to change + adapt. Listen to the full episode to hear:How your age influences your brain's ability to change and adaptWhy this works freaky fast to shift rigid perfectionist mindsetsImportance of curiosity + dangers of letting your inner critic continue to rampageIf you're ready to quit fighting against your perfectionism forever and want a proven, science-backed approach to permanently rewiring your perfectionistic habitsI, you gotta check out my 1-1 coaching program Perfectionism Optimized! Get relief today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/servicesEPSISODE 172 TIMESTAMPS:00:00-Introduction To Episode 17201:17-The Speed of Overcoming Perfectionism02:36-Visualization of Your Brain & Nervous Systems as a Power Grid04:15-Impact of Rigid Neural Pathways & Your Inner Critic05:47-Gaining Flexibility in Your Own Perceptions06:39-Creating Safe Environments for Brain Plasticity07:34-Increasing Your Brain Span, Preventing Dementia and Alzheimer's 08:55-Real-life Example of Client's Experience with Neuroplastic Change10:06-Neuro-Sculpting & its Benefits11:19-Bridge Between Neuroplasticity & Perfectionism13:03-Neuroplasticity: Age, Leverage & Your Tipping Point Perfectionism Rewired is committed to truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge research on perfectionism, interoception + neuroscience, for the practical perfectionist who wants to enjoy the life they've worked so hard to create.

Ever felt you've achieved so much but still aren't satisfied? Too many driven perfectionists are never feeling good enough and struggling to maintain high-achievements without burning out. That stops now. Discover their root causes and the surprising reason why over-achieving lowers satisfaction levels for perfectionistic . Plus the only two questions you need to ask to determine if your striving is healthy or unhealthy.Listen to the ull episode to Learn:The most overlooked stage of change and growth (that even top performers miss!)Inefficiency of constantly overcoming perfectionist thoughts + what to do insteadWhen IS enough enough (how to tell)EPSISODE 171 TIMESTAMPS:00:00-Unhealthy vs Healthy Striving01:39-Two Fatal Flaws of Perfectionism02:15-The Deception of Achievement02:55-Surprising Research Findings on Perfectionists' Satisfaction03:27-First Fatal Flaw of Achievement 04:02-Why Emotional Agility & Self-Esteem Are Required04:50-Power of Rewiring Your Perfectionist Mindset 07:06-Moving the goalposts 08:03-Energy Management in Perfectionism09:27-Two Questions Every Perfectionist Must Ask 10:58-Unhealthy patterns perfectionists often fall into + how to break free13:11-Honoring Your Intentions vs. Achieving Goals  Perfectionism Rewired is committed to truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge research on perfectionism, interoception + neuroscience, for the practical perfectionist who wants to enjoy the life they've worked so hard to create.

You might be a perfectionist if....Discover the hidden signs of perfectionism and how it's affecting your daily life.Listen to the full episode to hear:16 undetected signs of perfectionism decodedRecognizing the signs of perfectionism in your own behavior.How to leverage your perfectionism to get want you want (I lost 50lbs + have kept it off for 7 years)"I started to figure out THIS is actually perfectionism. Even though I never thought that I was perfect enough to be a perfectionist." - CLG-If you're ready to quit fighting against your perfectionism forever and want a proven, science-backed approach to permanently rewiring your perfectionistic habitsI, you gotta check out my 1-1 coaching program  The Accelerator ! Get relief today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/servicesEPSISODE 170 TIMESTAMPS:00:00-Introduction & The Invisible Language of Perfectionism 01:39-Personal Struggles with Perfectionism02:03-High Performance vs Perfectionism 02:24-Discovering the True Nature of Perfectionism 03:11-The Need for Practical Insights 04:03-Challenging Perfectionism Myths 05:35-Leveraging Perfectionism in Fitness 06:14-Brene Brown on Perfectionism (sidelines vs arena) 06:40-Surprising Signs of Perfectionism 08:30-Misconceptions and Blind Spots 09:17-Procrastination, Burnouts, and All-or-Nothing Mindset 11:05-Fear of Judgement & Holding Back 13:55-The Cost of Not Leveraging Perfectionism 15:20-Reputation, Approval, and Time Management 16:05-Envisioning a Life Leveraging Perfectionism 17:22-Invitation to the Perfectionism Rewired Accelerator Perfectionism Rewired is committed to truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge research on perfectionism, interoception + neuroscience, for the practical perfectionist who wants to enjoy the life they've worked so hard to create.