Perfectionism Rewired

Explore the importance of self-acceptance and meeting yourself where you are at for personal growth. Discover the lies perfectionists tell themselves and the negative effects of resisting one's own feelings. Learn how embracing self-acceptance can lead to positive changes in every aspect of life.

Uncover who's in charge with the Intention + Impact Method™. Explore hidden triggers, understand the connection between stress and perfectionism, and decode perfectionism cues. Learn about the importance of examining intentions and recognizing specific cues, embracing growth and curiosity, and practicing present-moment awareness for reduced worries and improved well-being.

Every single episode of Perfectionism Rewired is now digitally remastered and container store organized (complete with tags + categories) for your listening pleasure. Go beyond your podcast player's limited search and find the exact episode you're looking for at perfectionismrewired.com Perfectionism Rewired is committed to truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge research on perfectionism, interoception + neuroscience, for the practical perfectionist who wants to enjoy the life they've worked so hard to create.

Feel like you're always a thousand steps behind where you “should” have been? Procrastination for perfectionists is this invisible thing that no one sees or understands - and the longer it goes on, the anxiety moves in and then you’ve got multiple forces sucking the life out of you. Discover how to mute the constant noise in your head and melt away the pressure of avoidance.Want to stop procrastinating permanently forever using proven, science-backed tools that actually work? Then you gotta check out the Perfectionism Rewired Accelerator 6 Week fast-track Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/acceleratorListen to the full episode to hear:Two unique tools for immediate and long-term overcoming procrastinationWhy working through the struggle of procrastinating produces 6x faster resultsHow to deal with procrastination using your brain's neurotransmittersEPSISODE 185 TIMESTAMPS:00:00-Introduction01:41-Perfectionism procrastination03:21-The No. 1 Habit to Deal with Procrastination 04:53-Building Your Internal Commitment 06:25-Overcoming Procrastination with Unconventionally Awesome Methods 08:00-Overcome Procrastinating from the Inside Out 09:05-Practical Techniques to Take Immediate Action 10:19-Neuroscience Insights for 6x Faster Learning 12:25-How To Stop Procrastinating forever14:59-Cut Out The Suckage of Stop Procrastinating  Perfectionism Rewired is committed to truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge research on perfectionism, interoception + neuroscience, for the practical perfectionist who wants to enjoy the life they've worked so hard to create.

Are you overworking but feel like you're underperforming? Discover the remarkable story of Jordan, high-achieving lawyer who believed time efficiency was the problem, working tirelessly yet still falling behind. With his demanding career on the line, hear how altering perfectionistic perceptions and embracing playful experimenting strengthens your full stature of dignity as a fulfilled perfectionist. Want to go from Overworked to Optimized using proven, science-backed tools then you gotta check out the  Perfectionism Rewired Accelerator 6 Week fast-track Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/acceleratorListen to the full episode to hear:Harmonizing your high standards with high-stakes careerHow experimenting leads to breakthroughs in perception and efficiencyWhy perfectionists overwork yet oblivious to their own underperforming"I don't have a time management problem. I had a perception problem." - Jordan, Attorney + Perfectionism Optimized clientEPSISODE 184 TIMESTAMPS:00:00-Introduction01:45-Jordan's struggle with a dynamic family and a demanding career02:48-Inefficiency Despite Working Long Hours03:15-Uncovering the root cause of Jordan's time challenges04:26-Experiments to loosen Rigid Perfectionistic Patterns06:15-Realigning Focus and rediscovering joy07:29-Harmonizing your high standards with high-stakes career08:33-Addressing the Core of overcoming perfectionism10:07-Go from overworked to optimized Perfectionism Rewired is committed to truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge research on perfectionism, interoception + neuroscience, for the practical perfectionist who wants to enjoy the life they've worked so hard to create.

Are You confusing self criticism with self improvement? Don't get it twisted, learn why self loathing's misunderstood nature of perfectionism and how to stop falling into the hidden traps it sets. CLG shares invaluable insights for Type-A overachievers who are tired of wasting time with ineffective conventional approaches that leave you stagnating + struggling with the same perfectionistic pitfalls. Listen for a IRL techniques *that actually work* in dissolving the I Hate Myself meltdowns. Ready to show up more powerfully for your family and want proven, science-backed tools you can use for generations to come? Then you gotta check out the Perfectionism Rewired Accelerator 6 Week fast-track Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/acceleratorListen to the full episode to hear:How your brain and nervous system can be rewired to change your self-perception on commandPlayful Strategies to break self-critical cycles and ease into a more nourishing sustainable approach to self-improvementWhy Psycho-Cybernetics Helps Perfectionists Create A New Self-Image EPSISODE 183 TIMESTAMPS:00:00-Introduction01:30-The often-misunderstood Nature of Perfectionism 02:29-Dopamine's Role in Self Criticize Cycle03:44-How Self Criticism Perpetuates Your Worst Patterns04:17-When What Used To Work Stops Working For Ya05:20-Perfectionist Parents + Legacy of Self Loathing05:52-Techniques to Shatter the I Hate Myself Meltdowns06:17-Why Traditional Approaches Don't Work for Perfectionists08:24-Mistaking Criticizing for Deeply Caring09:00-When Being Kind To Yourself Feels Wrong (and that's okay!)10:06-Acceptance Does NOT Equal Apathy10:26-Visualization of Life Without Being Self-Critical11:34-Fastest Way to Figure Out What's Causing Your Perfectionistic Habits  Perfectionism Rewired is committed to truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge research on perfectionism, interoception + neuroscience, for the practical perfectionist who wants to enjoy the life they've worked so hard to create.

Discover how to evolve from the roles of victim, rescuer and villain inside the Drama Triangle to creator, coach and challenger inside the Winner's Triangle. Plus how to upgrade to the Empowerment Mindset where you shift focus from scarcity to possibilities, reactive to proactive, ensuring every decision aligns with your goals and visions.Ready to turn your perfectionism from a crippling force into powerful asset with proven, science-backed tools? You gotta check out the Perfectionism Rewired Accelerator 6 Week fast-track Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/acceleratorListen to the full episode to hear:How to evolve from the roles of victim, rescuer and villain to creator, coach and challengerHard work, guess work and framework approaches to empowermentSecret to redefining how you perceive and use your perfectionist traitsStep-by-Step Evolving Drama Triangle ProcessIdentify Your Triangle Role: Recognize when you're in the victim, rescuer or persecutor role within the Drama Triangle.Embrace the Winner's Triangle: Actively move towards becoming a creator, coach or challenger.Develop Self-Sovereignty: Start making choices that reflect your true self and living from an inside out approach.Implement Active Learning: Stop accumulating and start implementing.Focus on What You Want: Concentrate on your desires instead of fears or limitations.Open Up to Possibilities: Embrace uncertainty and see it as a playground of opportunities. EPSISODE 182 TIMESTAMPS:00:00-Introduction01:53-Drama Triangle Explained02:07-One Small Action You Can Take Right Now02:31-The Winner's Triangle: A New Perspective03:35-Visualizing the Winner's Triangle: Become a Creator04:05-Embracing Self Sovereignty and Overcoming Inadequacy04:59-Questions to Embody the Creator Role in the Empowerment Triangle06:23-Shifting Focus from Scarcity to Possibilities07:07-Rescue Ranger to Caring Coach08:08-Empowering Everyone through the Coach Approach09:30-Example of Hero turning into a Coach10:00-Evolving From Villain to Challenger11:59-What All Winner's Triangles Have In Common12:39-Agreements vs Expectations13:13-Perfectionism Rewiring Made Easy 14:21-Upcoming Episode Teaser: Overcoming Over-Giving in Perfectionists  Perfectionism Rewired is committed to truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge research on perfectionism, interoception + neuroscience, for the practical perfectionist who wants to enjoy the life they've worked so hard to create.

Are you choosing protection over connection? Gain insight into how perfectionistic traits affect relationships by understanding the Drama Triangle. Learn practical tools to shift from a fear-based mindset to mamba mentality as we break down the roles of Victim, Rescue Ranger (Hero), and Villain and how perfectionists play all 3 roles with ourselves!Ready to trade toxic stress for joyful success with proven, science-backed tools? You gotta check out the Perfectionism Rewired Accelerator 6 Week fast-track Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/accelerator EPSISODE 181 TIMESTAMPS:00:00-Introduction 01:26-Choosing Connection Over Protection in Relationships 01:50-Two Powerful Tools for Empowerment 02:08-Understanding Power Dynamics in Perfectionism 02:33-The Drama Triangle for Perfectionists 03:36-Exploring Victim Mentality 04:25-Identifying Victim Signs in Perfectionists 07:15-The Role of the Rescue Ranger (Karpman Drama Triangle)09:33-Overcoming Hero Syndrome 11:05-Understanding the Villain Role 13:29-Breaking Free from the Drama Triangle into the Winner's Triangle16:17-Moving Beyond the Drama Triangle 19:08-Leveraging the Perfectionism Rewired Accelerator  Perfectionism Rewired is committed to truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge research on perfectionism, interoception + neuroscience, for the practical perfectionist who wants to enjoy the life they've worked so hard to create.

Do you thrive under pressure? Find it hard to chill even while on vacation? Chronic stress is a silent affliction many perfectionists experience daily without realizing it. Discover sneaky symptoms of burnout, the subtle yet profound ways chronic stress manifests and how to recognize it in your daily life. Understand the science on why stress addiction = same impact on your neurobiology as drug addition and how to de-stress as a perfectionist. On paper, you’ve got it together— isn’t it time you felt like it? Whether it's becoming much more DECISIVE in everything you do, stop playing out worst case scenarios in your head or JOYFULLY PRESENT AMBITIOUS again, Perfectionism Optimized, private 1-1 coaching gives you the life-long skills to *finally feel* as amazing on the inside as your life looks on the outside. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/rewireListen to the Full Episode To Hear:How to identify the chronic stress in your lifeSneaky symptoms of burnout for perfectionistsThe impact of stress addiction on your mind, body and performancePractical strategies to build resilience and de-stress effectively EPSISODE 180 TIMESTAMPS:00:00-I'm So Stressed Out01:51-Take The Chronic Stress Quiz03:31-What Cocaine + Stress Have in Common04:50-Why Your Stress Isn't Relieved Yet06:06-Stress Cocktail + Why Perfectionists Are addicted to stress08:05-How Your Stress Tolerance Puts Your Health At Risk09:12-The Missing Ingredient in Your Stress Management 10:34-Impact of Burnout for perfectionists11:15-The Perfect Strategy For Staying Stressed Out13:20-Training Yourself for Patterns of Joy + Success Sources + CitationsBurton, G. J., & Jauniaux, E. (2011). Oxidative stress. Baillière’s Best Practice & Research. Clinical Obstetrics & Gynaecology/Baillière’s Best Practice and Research in Clinical Obstetrics and Gynaecology, 25(3), 287–299. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.bpobgyn.2010.10.016Chu, B., Marwaha, K., Sanvictores, T., Awosika, A. O., & Ayers, D. (2024, May 7). Physiology, Stress Reaction. Retrieved June 14, 2024, from Nih.gov website: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/books/NBK541120/Handley, A. K., Egan, S. J., Kane, R. T., & Rees, C. S. (2014). The relationships between perfectionism, pathological worry and generalised anxiety disorder. BMC Psychiatry, 14(1). https://doi.org/10.1186/1471-244x-14-98Larijani, Roja, and Mohammad Ali Besharat. “Perfectionism and Coping Styles with Stress.” Procedia—Social and Behavioral Sciences 5 (2010): 623–27. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.sbspro.2010.07.154Sirois, F. M., J. Monforton, and M. Simpson. “If Only I Had Done Better: Perfectionism and the Functionality of Counterfactual Thinking.” Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin 36, no. 12 (2010): 1675–92. https://doi.org/10.1177/0146167210387614 Perfectionism Rewired is committed to truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge research on perfectionism, interoception + neuroscience, for the practical perfectionist who wants to enjoy the life they've worked so hard to create.

Are you tired of getting by? Ready to move beyond burn out? Discover the *real reason* you're burning out (it has nothing to do with meditation or caffeine intake) and how to stop settling for a life running on 20% battery. Hear from Perfectionism Optimized client Kevin bravely shares his story of being the all-star perfectionist parent addicted to stress, on the verge of divorce living in a pressure-cooker of his own making and resentful AF. Discover how he moved beyond band-aid solutions for being burnt out, let go of the need for control and rewired to become a playful parent, partner and person.If you want to make sure Burn Out NEVER HAPPENS TO YOU AGAIN and want proven, science-backed tools to INTERRUPT the perfectionistic habits currently holding you hostage, you belong inside Perfectionism Optimized private 1-1 coaching.  Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/rewire Listen to the Full  Episode To Learn:Why you want to alter how you perceive and react to your signs of burnoutHow adverse childhood experiences contribute to.over functioningWhat Kevin did step-by-step to go from from over-functioning stress addiction to rewire and redefine success on his own terms Resources Mentioned:Perfectionism Optimized: empowers perfectionists and high-achieving, Type A individuals to take charge, leverage their perfectionistic tendencies and quit fighting against their perfectionism forever using proven neuroscience so you can feel as amazing as your life looks and become the powerhouse you’re designed to be.The Body Keeps Score: A book that delves into how the body stores stress and trauma, emphasizing the importance of treating both mind and body. EPSISODE 179 TIMESTAMPS:00:00-Introduction01:23-Understanding the real root of why Perfectionists are Burned Out02:41-Kevin's Story: From Stress Addict to Playful Parent04:05-Exploring the Roots of Over functioning06:17-If I do it all perfect and stay in control then I AM SAFE07:11-Diving Deep into the Psychology of Perfectionism09:16-Olivia Benson, Special Victims Unit + Owning Your Over Functioning10:20-How Shooting Up Heroin is just like Using Perfectionism To Manage Stress12:15-Assessing the Impact of Burnout + Doing Life at 20%13:42-Holistic Approach to Healing Perfectionism16:10-Why Band-Aid Solutions Like Therapy Make Burnout Worse17:18-Developing Customized Proven Pathways that Integrate your Somatic18:32-The Simple Science Of Tracking Detailed Data for Progress21:55-How to Recognize Early Signs of Burnout22:47-Celebrating Kevin's Transformation and Triumph25:19-Who Will You Choose to Be? Warning Label or Shining Example? Sources + Citations:Burton, G. J., & Jauniaux, E. (2011). Oxidative stress. Baillière’s Best Practice & Research. Clinical Obstetrics & Gynaecology/Baillière’s Best Practice and Research in Clinical Obstetrics and Gynaecology, 25(3), 287–299. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.bpobgyn.2010.10.016Chu, B., Marwaha, K., Sanvictores, T., Awosika, A. O., & Ayers, D. (2024, May 7). Physiology, Stress Reaction. Retrieved June 14, 2024, from Nih.gov website: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/books/NBK541120/Handley, A. K., Egan, S. J., Kane, R. T., & Rees, C. S. (2014). The relationships between perfectionism, pathological worry and generalised anxiety disorder. BMC Psychiatry, 14(1). https://doi.org/10.1186/1471-244x-14-98Larijani, Roja, and Mohammad Ali Besharat. “Perfectionism and Coping Styles with Stress.” Procedia—Social and Behavioral Sciences 5 (2010): 623–27. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.sbspro.2010.07.154Sirois, F. M., J. Monforton, and M. Simpson. “If Only I Had Done Better: Perfectionism and the Functionality of Counterfactual Thinking.” Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin 36, no. 12 (2010): 1675–92. https://doi.org/10.1177/0146167210387614 Perfectionism Rewired is committed to truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge research on perfectionism, interoception + neuroscience, for the practical perfectionist who wants to enjoy the life they've worked so hard to create.