Perfectionism Rewired

Explore the sneaky ways self-comparison manifests in perfectionists. Discover the difference between self-awareness and self-coaching, as well as why typical self-comparison tips often backfire. Learn how unrealistic standards amplify feelings of inadequacy and the importance of embracing your individuality. Shift your mindset from punitive self-judgment to celebrating your achievements and understanding the roots of your perfectionistic tendencies. It’s time to feel as amazing on the inside as your life looks on the outside!

Dive into the quirks of overexplaining and discover how perfectionists often get caught in a web of their own words. Explore the science behind this habit, revealing its emotional toll and ties to self-worth. Learn why it's crucial to break free from overthinking and reclaim your joy. The discussion offers tools to foster resilience, helping you transition from anxiety and validation-seeking to a more fulfilling life. Embrace the journey towards clearer communication and a more joyful existence!

Are you constantly seeking 100% certainty before taking a leap? You're not alone! This discussion explores how perfectionism can trap you in uncertainty, hindering your progress. Learn to identify your own uncertainty avoidance and discover practical strategies to break free from it. Embrace the idea that uncertainty is a learnable skill and that moving forward without all the answers is possible. It's time to enjoy the life you've crafted and take those confident steps into the unknown!

Are you stuck waiting for the perfect moment? Discover why chasing ideal conditions can sabotage your life. Learn to recognize how perfectionism leads to procrastination and embrace the opportunities right in front of you. Gain insights into reshaping your mindset to foster self-trust and mental well-being. Stop giving away your power and start enjoying the life you've worked hard to create. It's time to take action and play joyfully in your own arena!

Ever feel like you’re waiting for confidence to magically appear? Instead, it’s all about taking action and embracing courage. Perfectionists often confuse insecurity with careful preparation, and that's holding them back. The discussion highlights how engaging in life, rather than waiting on the sidelines, can dramatically boost self-trust. Learn how to joyfully jump into your life, letting go of the need for external validation in the pursuit of authenticity and confidence.

Perfectionists often get stuck waiting for the perfect moment, relying on external validation and certainty. This mindset creates paralysis and hinders personal growth. The discussion emphasizes embracing action, even in uncertainty, as a powerful tool for empowerment. By transforming from a passive stance to one of proactive engagement, individuals can experience profound personal growth and joy in their lives. Get ready to quit waiting and start fully participating in the life you've built!

Discover the keys to feeling empowered and calm through impeccable boundaries. Explore how these boundaries can transform your relationships and enhance personal growth. Learn the difference between healthy self-care and controlling behaviors. Find out why perfectionists struggle with boundary-setting and the incredible benefits of mastering this skill. It's time to upgrade from exhaustion to excitement and truly feel amazing on the inside!

Listeners dive into the chaos of perfectionism and discover how to tackle life's constant disruptions. Strategies for enhancing flexibility and emotional resilience take center stage. Learn to set boundaries and cultivate a sense of calm amid uncertainty. The podcast also reveals how your source of confidence affects your adaptability. Plus, find out how to lighten your burden and feel less overwhelmed with actionable tips that transform inner feelings to match outward appearances.

Explore why self-pride is essential for perfectionists and how to shift your mindset towards valuing personal achievements. Learn to escape feelings of inadequacy with practical tips and discover five reasons to feel proud of yourself. Delve into the importance of embracing pride as a transformative skill, redefine your perception of perfectionism, and find ways to cultivate resilience against stress. It's time to unlock self-trust and empower your emotional well-being.

Do compliments make you uncomfy? Tired of constantly achieving and never feeling satisfied?  Discover the *real reason* you’re still chasing validation from other people (it has nothing to do with accomplishments or self-esteem) and how to stop relying on external praise + recognition. Perfectionism Optimized client, bravely shares her story of being an Oscar-winning superstar vying for attention, feeling undeserving of praise and constructing her whole life around getting approval (and avoiding rejection). Hear step-by-step how she dropped the fears of not being good enough + being judged by others, let go of needing anyone’s approval and rewired recognition on her own terms.  If you want to make sure the Approval Trap never trips you up again, and want proven, science-backed tools to become SO CERTAIN about the value you bring, become RESILIENT + RESOURCEFUL during your most stressful moments and finally feel as amazing on the inside as your life looks on the outside, you belong inside Perfectionism Optimized, private 1-1 coaching. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/optimized Listen to the Full Episode To Hear:Why Achievements Feel Empty and How to Change ThatHow lies we tell ourselves hold us back from seeing our own valuePractical steps to start giving yourself the praise you deserve. Resources Mentioned:Decoding Your Unconscious Motivational Patterns (Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 80)Perfectionism Optimized: Patented, proven science-backed tools  that help you take charge of your perfectionism and learn to celebrate your achievements the healthy way.Credible Scientific Sources Cited In Ep. 236Burton, K. D., Lydon, J. E., D'Alessandro, D. U., & Koestner, R. (2006). The differential effects of intrinsic and identified motivation on well-being and performance: Prospective, experimental, and implicit approaches to self-determination theory. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 91(4), 750-762. https://doi.org/10.1037/0022-3514.91.4.750Deci, E. L., & Ryan, R. M. (2015). Intrinsic Motivation and Self-Determination in Human Behavior. SpringerLink. https://doi.org/10.1007-978-1-4899-2271-7Nepon, T. (2024). Perfectionism, Self-Image Goals and Compassionate Goals in Health and Mental Health: A Longitudinal Analysis - Taryn Nepon, Gordon L. Flett, Paul L. Hewitt, 2024. https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/10.1177/07342829241239997 Perfectionism Rewired is committed to truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge research on perfectionism, interoception + neuroscience, for the practical perfectionist who wants to enjoy the life they've worked so hard to create.