Overexplaining

Oct 27, 2024

Dive into the quirks of overexplaining and discover how perfectionists often get caught in a web of their own words. Explore the science behind this habit, revealing its emotional toll and ties to self-worth. Learn why it's crucial to break free from overthinking and reclaim your joy. The discussion offers tools to foster resilience, helping you transition from anxiety and validation-seeking to a more fulfilling life. Embrace the journey towards clearer communication and a more joyful existence!

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Why Overexplaining Happens

Over-explaining stems from a fear of being misunderstood or judged.
It causes cognitive dissonance leading to rambling and excessive talking.

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Perfectionism Fuels Overexplaining

Perfectionists' care and detail orientation becomes a double-edged sword.
These strengths turn into liabilities when they manifest as over-explaining.

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Childhood Roots of Overexplaining

Childhood experiences shape over-explaining as a defense mechanism.
Feeling misunderstood and having conditional self-worth fuel this pattern.

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Tired of getting tangled in your own words? Overcomplicating it? Asking "Does that make sense?" at the end of every sentence? Discover why you can't stop talking (even though you REALLY want to), the science behind overexplaining for perfectionists, how overexplaining is harmful to your health mentally, emotionally and physically, and why its a coping skill you want to retire ASAP.

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TIMESTAMPS:

00:00-Understanding the Science Behind Overexplaining
02:24-Why Perfectionists Are More Likely To Overexplain
05:18-Control Tactics and Overexplaining
08:46-Self Worth vs. Self Esteem
12:32-The Emotional Charge Behind Overexplaining
14:02-Toll of Overexplaining on Mental + Physical Health
16:18-How Interoception Kills The Need To Overexplain
20:39-TRUTH BOOTH What Overexplaining Really Is
22:33-Steps to Resilience and Reducing Overexplaining

Resources Mentioned In Episode 244:

Perfectionism Optimized 1-1 Private Coaching
Impeccable Boundaries Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 239
Care-ing vs Carrying Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 202
Interoception + Self-Regulation Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 194
Inner Critic Be-Gone Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 212
Emotional Overexplaining Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 173
Proving Yourself At Work Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 232

Citations/Sources:

Barrett, L. F., & Simmons, W. K. (2015). Interoceptive predictions in the brain. Nature Reviews. Neuroscience, 16(7), 419–429. https://doi.org/10.1038/nrn3950

‌Price, C. J., & Hooven, C. (2018). Interoceptive Awareness Skills for Emotion Regulation: Theory and Approach of Mindful Awareness in Body-Oriented Therapy (MABT). Frontiers in Psychology, 9. https://doi.org/10.3389/fpsyg.2018.00798

Ventura-Bort, C., Wendt, J., & Mathias Weymar. (2021). The Role of Interoceptive Sensibility and Emotional Conceptualization for the Experience of Emotions. Frontiers in Psychology, 12. https://doi.org/10.3389/fpsyg.2021.712418

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