Be Proud of Yourself: Training Your Brain to SEE Your Value

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Sep 11, 2024

Explore why self-pride is essential for perfectionists and how to shift your mindset towards valuing personal achievements. Learn to escape feelings of inadequacy with practical tips and discover five reasons to feel proud of yourself. Delve into the importance of embracing pride as a transformative skill, redefine your perception of perfectionism, and find ways to cultivate resilience against stress. It's time to unlock self-trust and empower your emotional well-being.

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ANECDOTE

Joyless Achievement Cycle

Courtney Love Gavin shares how achieving goals no longer brings joy for perfectionists.
The more they achieve, the more disconnected they feel from happiness inside.

INSIGHT

Pride Breaks Inadequacy Cycle

Being proud of yourself is mission critical for perfectionists to value themselves during high performance.
Operating from inadequacy limits feelings of sufficiency and reduces accomplishment.

INSIGHT

Pride Doesn't Kill Motivation

Fear of losing motivation prevents perfectionists from feeling proud now.
Denying pride now to feel it in the future diminishes self-worth and drive.

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Discover why being proud of yourself is a mission critical skill for all perfectionists and how to rewire your brain to see your value. Un-learn the misconceptions currently getting in the way of you being proud of you and how to exit the inadequacy cycle. Thinking I don't have anything to be proud of? I'm giving you 5 reasons that you can be proud of yourself + the tool I use everyday to be proud of myself NO MATTER HAT I have or haven't accomplished.

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TIMESTAMPS:

00:00-Perfectionists + Valuing Yourself Beyond Achievements

01:52-Upgrading From "Being Successful to Be Proud Of You"

03:15-Why being proud is USEFUL SKILL for perfectionists

04:57-Living a life stuck in inadequacy

06:03-Fear of Losing Motivation if Proud Now

07:48-Finding something to be proud of: $3,000,000 challenge

08:31-Attaching productivity to proud aka POISON

09:50-Passive failing vs. active failing

11:17-Feeling proud without eradicating negative emotions

12:56-Shrinking the part of your brain that triggers stress

SOURCES REFERENCED In Ep. 237

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Neff, K. D. (2009). The Role of Self-Compassion in Development: A Healthier Way to Relate to Oneself. Human Development, 52(4), 211–214. https://doi.org/10.1159/000215071
Nepon, T. (2024). Perfectionism, Self-Image Goals and Compassionate Goals in Health and Mental Health: A Longitudinal Analysis - Taryn Nepon, Gordon L. Flett, Paul L. Hewitt, 2024. https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/10.1177/07342829241239997

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