Multiamory: Rethinking Modern Relationships

Delve into healthy vs. unhealthy relationship expectations, importance of communication, evolution of relationships, fostering growth, balancing giving/receiving in relationships, and clinical research opportunities.

What can be done if you and your partner have different sexual preferences or vastly different sex drives? What are some alternatives to the mainstream suggestions?Join our amazing community of listeners at multiamory.supercast.com. We offer sliding scale subscriptions so everyone can also get access to ad-free episodes, group video discussions, and our amazing Discord community.Multiamory was created by Dedeker Winston, Jase Lindgren, and Emily Matlack.Our theme music is Forms I Know I Did by Josh and Anand.Follow us on Instagram @Multiamory_Podcast and visit our website Multiamory.com. We are a proud member of the Pleasure Podcasts network. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In a captivating conversation, Kitty Chambliss, a polyamorous speaker and author, delves into her new work, the Jealousy Survival Guide. She shares her personal experiences with jealousy, emphasizing that it's a common struggle even for seasoned polyamorous individuals. Kitty offers practical strategies for managing jealousy with grace and compassion. The discussion also highlights the importance of self-awareness and clear communication, especially in navigating non-monogamous relationships and fostering healthier connections.

The discussion takes a critical look at the idea that love is all you need, arguing it overshadows vital aspects like compatibility and communication. Listeners are prompted to explore the dangers of codependency and the importance of personal happiness. The hosts use humor to stress that strong desire alone doesn't guarantee a successful relationship. They also emphasize evaluating sacrifices in partnerships and navigating boundaries effectively, encouraging reflection on what truly supports healthy connections.

Exploring the concept of conscious monogamy vs. traditional monogamy, challenging societal norms and advocating for intentional choices in relationships. The podcast discusses the importance of self-awareness, open communication, and customization in creating fulfilling partnerships, while highlighting parallels between monogamous and polyamorous relationships.

Ruby Bouie Johnson, a sex therapist and founder of PolyDallas Millennium, dives into the essential role of intersectionality in polyamorous communities. She discusses the evolution of PolyDallas and the necessity for true inclusivity, emphasizing the voices of marginalized groups. Ruby also addresses the unique challenges faced by the black polyamorous community amidst sociopolitical tensions. The importance of kink-aware therapy and the experiences of diverse identities in navigating non-monogamy are highlighted, promoting a deeper understanding of belonging and empowerment.

The discussion dives into the emotional impact of unresolved conflicts in relationships, focusing on healing old wounds. Strategies for effective communication and the different ways people accept apologies are explored. The hosts emphasize self-forgiveness and mutual responsibility to rebuild trust. Mindfulness techniques are introduced to navigate feelings of betrayal. The importance of reshaping personal narratives and recognizing when to set boundaries for a healthier dynamic is also highlighted, offering listeners valuable tools for emotional healing.

Discover the intriguing concept of apology languages, a tool for enhancing communication and resolving conflicts in relationships. The hosts discuss how people have unique preferences in expressing and receiving apologies, emphasizing the importance of sincerity and genuine ownership. Personal anecdotes illustrate how misunderstandings can arise from misaligned apology styles. The conversation dives deep into the necessity of restitution and accountability in effective apologies, highlighting cultural influences on forgiveness and the need for impactful behavioral change.

The Multiamory crew is thrilled to speak with lawyer Diana Adams, who runs a law firm based in New York and Frankfurt that primarily provides family law and mediation services to the LGBTQ community, polyamorous families, same-sex couples, platonic co-parents, and non-nuclear families. In this episode, we learned actionable steps poly families and parents can take right now to start protecting themselves, and her predictions for how poly marriage rights may changing.Join our amazing community of listeners at multiamory.supercast.com. We offer sliding scale subscriptions so everyone can also get access to ad-free episodes, group video discussions, and our amazing Discord community.Multiamory was created by Dedeker Winston, Jase Lindgren, and Emily Matlack.Our theme music is Forms I Know I Did by Josh and Anand.Follow us on Instagram @Multiamory_Podcast and visit our website Multiamory.com. We are a proud member of the Pleasure Podcasts network. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Exploring the essentials of modern relationships, the hosts tackle crucial questions for new partners to ensure clarity and understanding. They introduce a memorable acronym, M.O.V.I.E.S., to help navigate these discussions. Humor and personal anecdotes enrich the dialogue as they discuss the importance of open communication about relationship goals and sexual health. The episode also addresses navigating shared events and the dynamics of hierarchy in polyamorous settings, empowering listeners to foster transparency and connection.