Multiamory: Rethinking Modern Relationships

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In this discussion with Alex Alberto, a queer author and filmmaker, they tackle the often misunderstood dynamics of metamours in polyamory. Alex highlights the importance of viewing metamours as allies rather than rivals, sharing personal stories that celebrate Metamore Day. They address the emotional complexities of relationships, the challenges of jealousy, and the need for open communication. With insights from their memoir and upcoming film, Alex encourages listeners to embrace these connections for a richer, more understanding non-monogamous experience.

Diana Adams, an international legal leader and Executive Director of the Chosen Family Law Center, teams up with Brett Chamberlain, founder of the Organization for Polyamory and Ethical Non-monogamy. Together, they dive into the importance of advocacy for LGBTQ and non-monogamous relationship rights. They discuss legislative initiatives, the need for inclusive legal frameworks, and the significance of community resilience in activism. Listeners gain insight into tangible actions for supporting diverse family structures and the fight against systemic discrimination.

In this lively discussion, the hosts tackle listener questions about building local polyamory communities, emphasizing the need for clear communication and inclusive environments. They explore coping with feelings of guilt and missing non-nesting partners, offering practical strategies to navigate these complex emotions. The conversation also covers the dynamic nature of new relationships and the significance of emotional honesty, encouraging vulnerability and connection among listeners eager to cultivate connections.

Excitement fills the air as the hosts announce the release of their new audiobook on modern relationships. They highlight practical communication tools that cater to a variety of relationship styles. The positive reception and high ratings showcase its appeal to both loyal fans and new listeners. A vibrant community played a key role in bringing this project to life, making it a must-listen for anyone interested in enhancing their relationship skills.

This discussion dives deep into denial in relationships, exploring how it serves as a defense mechanism to buffer emotional pain. Personal anecdotes reveal the struggle of ignoring red flags and the consequences of avoiding painful truths. They also examine how denial complicates coping with loss, and its potential to distort our perception of time. Through self-reflection exercises, listeners learn to recognize behaviors and confront self-deception, ultimately advocating for acceptance as a pathway to healing.

Dive into the intriguing complexities of fairness in non-monogamous relationships. Discover the crucial distinctions between equity and equality, and how these concepts play out among multiple partners. Explore the impact of perceived fairness on relationship satisfaction and learn practical communication strategies. Personal anecdotes and recent research illustrate the nuances of shared responsibilities and emotional burdens. Embrace a community dialogue on fostering equity and navigating the dynamics of love, care, and connection.

Discover how we often show more kindness to friends than to romantic partners. The conversation dives into the emotional dynamics between friendships and love, exploring why entitlement can creep into relationships. The hosts share insights on communication strategies to bridge gaps and foster understanding. They emphasize the importance of maintaining a balance between friendship and romance, encouraging reflection on personal identity within these connections. Find out how proximity affects relationships and the value of open dialogue in sustaining kindness.

In a world filled with distractions, the importance of attentiveness in relationships shines through. The discussion dives deep into how distractions, especially from phones, can create feelings of neglect. Strategies for minimizing these distractions are explored, along with the concept of 'bids for attention' from partners. The emotional toll of partner fubbing is highlighted, particularly for those with anxious attachment styles. Listeners learn about the significance of perceived responsiveness and setting clear communication expectations to strengthen their connections.

Abbey, co-founder of the Evolving Love Project, dives into the intricacies of non-monogamous parenting. She shares insights on creating age-appropriate discussions about diverse family structures, combating societal stigma, and fostering resilience in children. Abbey also highlights balancing adult relationships with parental duties, offering personal stories about navigating guilt and flexibility. With over a decade of non-monogamous experience, her perspectives aim to normalize these conversations and support families in embracing alternative lifestyles.