
Where Should We Begin? with Esther Perel
Every Monday morning step into the office of iconic psychotherapist Esther Perel and listen in as real people in search of insight bare the raw, intimate, and profound details of their stories. From breakups and open relationships to workplace conflicts and fractures in the family, it’s a place to hear our own stories reflected in the lives of others. So…where should we begin? Part of the Vox Media Podcast Network.
Latest episodes

Jan 20, 2022 • 17min
Esther Calling - Will He Make The Space For Me
A woman grapples with having her new boyfriend's deceased wife's memory looming large in their relationship. They discuss the emotional complexities of dating someone with a rich past while navigating personal insecurities. The conversation emphasizes the need for honest communication to create space for new love. Listeners gain insights into embracing vulnerability, which is crucial for fostering intimacy. Through storytelling and shared reflections, they explore building a new home together amidst lingering attachments.

Jan 13, 2022 • 19min
Esther Calling - It's a Matter of Pride
In this engaging discussion, a young man shares his experiences with navigating romance and commitment among high-achieving women. He grapples with the tension between his desire for a serious relationship and the ambivalence of his romantic interests. Esther Perel expertly guides the conversation to explore themes of pride and unreciprocated feelings, prompting listeners to reflect on how personal ambition shapes intimacy. The dialogue delves into the complex emotional landscapes of love, career, and societal pressures, offering valuable insights for anyone seeking deeper connections.

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Dec 30, 2021 • 58min
I Can Be Strong and Be Taken Care Of
As Esther says, love is at once an affirmation and a transcendence of who we are. But when one partner grows up as the child taking care of his mother is it any surprise that he experiences the romantic needs of his partner as a repeat of that same responsibility rather than an affirmation of love. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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Dec 23, 2021 • 1h 6min
I Don't Mean to Be Mean, But...
Tension brews as two partners with opposing communication styles clash in a candid therapy session. Esther finds herself amidst an emotional whirlwind, realizing the influence of in-laws in their marriage. The discussion dives into the complexities of boundaries, highlighting the often-overlooked importance of nurturing open dialogue. As feelings of loss and emotional vulnerability surface, the couple navigates their way through resentment and struggles for intimacy, seeking insights to reclaim connection and understanding.

Dec 16, 2021 • 17min
An Intimate Evening with Esther Perel
Join an intimate storytelling night that blends humor with deep vulnerability. Engage in a game of reflections on broken promises and the struggle of self-care. Explore emotional complexities as listeners grapple with personal grief against societal expectations. Delve into the challenges of parenthood and the importance of open communication about sexuality. Lastly, uncover how sensory sensitivities shape experiences and the transformative power of live performances in individual journeys.

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Dec 9, 2021 • 58min
Before We Got Together I Identified As Gay
In a heartfelt discussion, a young couple navigates the complexities of their relationship against the backdrop of their evolving identities. One partner, previously identifying as straight, explores his feelings as the other embraces her queer identity. They tackle the challenges of commitment, societal expectations, and the emotional weight of addiction in their families. Through candid conversations, they share insights into the intricacies of love, vulnerability, and the quest for connection while contemplating polyamory and the significance of open dialogue in their journey.

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Dec 2, 2021 • 53min
Where Are They Now - A Romantic Revival
In a heartfelt reunion, a couple revisits their journey with Esther Perel after a decade. They candidly discuss the transformative effects of therapy on their relationship, navigating grief from loss and embracing love. The talk explores the complexities of family dynamics, memory sharing, and the power of vulnerability in fostering deep connections. They share how they've rekindled romance and sought adventure together, emphasizing the importance of nurturing their bond amidst life's challenges. This intimate reflection showcases resilience and growth through shared experiences.

Nov 25, 2021 • 60min
Friendship - My Reliable Gift
In a heartfelt conversation, two lifelong friends, who have navigated the ups and downs of their bond for two decades, dive into the complexities of their relationship. They discuss how identity, cultural backgrounds, and personal growth have shaped their friendship. Vulnerability and communication emerge as key themes as they reflect on the challenges of male friendship amidst societal expectations. Their journey underscores the importance of open dialogue and intentionality in nurturing deep connections despite the inevitability of change.

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Nov 18, 2021 • 19min
Esther Calling - Losing My Best Friend
A listener grapples with losing her best friend to a rushed marriage. Esther guides her through the complexities of friendship during major life transitions. They discuss the importance of open communication and empathy, especially as personal beliefs shift. The episode explores deep emotional connections, highlighting how external influences can strain bonds. It also touches on the challenges of navigating family dynamics, emphasizing the need for effective expression in relationships.

Nov 11, 2021 • 19min
Esther Calling - My Partner's Privilege
A thought-provoking phone call reveals the impact of contrasting upbringings on relationships. A woman grapples with resentment towards her partner's privilege while navigating their shared love. The conversation dives into how differing financial backgrounds can create tension, yet also open pathways to empathy and understanding. By exploring personal histories, the discussion highlights the importance of gratitude and communication in forging connections. Ultimately, it emphasizes turning challenges into newfound strengths within partnerships.