Where Should We Begin? with Esther Perel Esther Calling- I Want Her to Like Me Less
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Aug 14, 2023 
A woman in her 40s shares her relationship journey with Esther Perel, revealing her struggle at a crossroads in finding balance between intense emotions and a comforting partnership. They delve into her complicated history with love, exploring the tension between the thrill of challenge and the acceptance of affection. The conversation touches on her multicultural upbringing and its impact on identity, as well as the emotional turmoil of infatuation and self-worth, encouraging deeper self-reflection and connection.
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The Caller's Dilemma
- The caller, a 44-year-old woman, explains her history of unrequited love and her current predicament.
- She's dating a great woman but sabotages it, wanting her partner to be less available.
Esther's Summary
- Esther Perel summarizes the caller's issue: she chases unavailable love but struggles to accept freely given affection.
- The caller acknowledges this painful truth, admitting it reflects her behavior.
A History of Unrequited Love
- The caller describes her lifelong pattern of pursuing unavailable women, starting with childhood crushes on straight girls.
- She equates love with pursuing and obtaining, fueled by the excitement of the chase.