The Mark Groves Podcast

Themes: Marriage, Love, Relationships, the Cinderella Complex, Breakups Summary: Today I'm joined by the wonderful duo that is Beau Nelson and Shannon Heth, authors of Cinderella, You Bitch: Rescue Your Relationships from the Fairy-Tale Fantasy. In this episode, we speak about our society’s obsession with having a fairytale love story and happy endings. As kids, we’ve all heard the story of how Cinderella or other fairytale princesses found their prince charming, got married, and lived happily ever after, giving us unrealistic expectations of how relationships should be when we become adults. Listening to this episode will help you see the reality of a being in a relationship and how you can create the ending you desire. Shannon Heth is a marketing and communications specialist who crafts creative strategy and stories for global brands. The president and founder of public relations agency Milk Creative Communications, her client work has appeared in The New York Times, Vogue, Bon Appetit, and the Los Angeles Times. An accomplished storyteller, Shannon has also penned a number of articles for newspapers and magazines. She lives in Vancouver, BC with her two young sons. Beau Nelson is a creator. As an internationally recognized celebrity makeup artist he has worked with women like Kristen Stewart, Zoe Kravitz, Christina Hendricks, and Iman. As a photographer/director, he has collaborated with legendary brands like Chanel, Tom Ford, Dior, Violet Grey, and Chantecaille Cosmetics. And as a multi-passionate creative, he’s been involved in countless other artistic endeavors from fragrance development, to songwriting, to visual art. Beau has spent years studying and practicing principles of personal transformation and lives in Los Angeles, California. 00:00 Intro 01:30 Cinderella, You Bitch 05:56 The fairytale trap 10:01 Being responsible versus taking responsibility 12:19 Separating reality from fantasy 15:36 Stop finding happiness in other people 19:00 Sometimes breakups are a good thing 22:58 The problem with idolizing weddings & marriage 29:01 Problematic language used to describe love 32:57 Getting out of the fairytale trap 39:53 The magic of starting conversations with strangers 46:34 Acknowledging your feelings & celebrating yourself   Discover: The reason why so many of us live with a “Cinderella complex” and how we can get out of this fairytale trap Why Shannon and Beau think breakups are a good thing The importance of celebrating your achievements and recognizing your feelings   Links: Shannon Heth | Instagram  Beau Nelson | Instagram Cinderella, You Bitch: Rescue Your Relationships from the Fairy-Tale Fantasy   Sponsors: Cured Nutrition | Use code CREATETHELOVE for 20% all products at curednutrition.com/createthelove Organifi | Use code CREATETHELOVE for 20% off all products at organifi.com/createthelove Create the Love Cards | Use code CTLCARDS15 for 15% off at createthelove.com/cards Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Themes: Relationships, Conflict, Patriarchy, Individualism, Sexuality, Masculinity Summary: Today I'm honoured to welcome Terry Real back on the podcast. An internationally recognized family therapist, speaker, and author, and the founder of the Relational Life Institute (RLI), Real has worked with thousands of individuals, couples, and fellow therapists to help people create the connection they desire in relationships. His groundbreaking, bestselling book, I Don’t Want to Talk About It: Overcoming the Secret Legacy of Male Depression, established him as one of the most respected voices in the treatment of men and male depression and his expertise on men’s mental health and relationship issues have been featured on Good Morning America, The Today Show, 20/20, The Oprah Winfrey Show and in The New York Times, among many others. In his practice, Real works with couples on the brink of disaster; he sees how individualism and patriarchy poisons our most intimate relationships. The excellent news: warmer, closer, more passionate relationships are possible if you have the right tools. In Terry's new book, US: Getting Past You and Me to Build a More Loving Relationship, he shows people how to stop working on themselves as individuals and start working on their relationship as a couple.   Discover: How to move beyond your traumas and stressors and shift from thinking in terms of me and you to a different consciousness - the consciousness of us How patriarchy poisons our intimate relationships What's happening in your body when you're activated in conflict — plus scripts to help you move beyond your knee-jerk reactions and into your wiser, more collaborative self What's really behind defensiveness How men are programmed to squash what is most needed in their intimate relationships: vulnerability   Links: Check out Terry's first episode on the Mark Groves Podcast: The End of Women Caretaking Men terryreal.com US: Getting Past You and Me to Build a More Loving Relationship   Sponsors: Cured Nutrition | Use code CREATETHELOVE for 20% all products at curednutrition.com/createthelove Organifi | Use code CREATETHELOVE for 20% off all products at organifi.com/createthelove Create the Love Cards | Use code CTLCARDS15 for 15% off at createthelove.com/cards Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Themes: Relationships, Non-Monogamy, Polyamory, Sexuality, Communication Summary: The Multiamory Podcast was created by Emily Matlack, Dedeker Winston, and Jase Lindgren in 2014 to fill the lack of voices about polyamory who were young and accessible to a modern audience. They were also tired of hearing all the same old, traditional, sometimes toxic dating advice. After years of creating episodes, connecting with listeners, and growing an amazing community, they have broadened their own views on relationships and are now helping people in a wide variety of relationship formats from polyamory, to monogamy, to Relationship Anarchy. Emily, Dedeker, and Jase believe in looking to the future of relationships, not maintaining the status quo of the past. They value ethics over tradition, and believe that a healthy world is one where everybody has agency in their relationships. Today, with three and a half million podcast downloads and a rapidly growing community, they are dedicated to providing the best possible transformational information, including new research, practical communication tools, a diverse group of guest experts, and more.    Discover: Different types of monogamy (yes, they exist!) The variety of ways that non-monogamy is practiced How Emily, Jase and Dedeker came together as a triad and some of the challenges they faced What do to if you’re in a monogamous relationship and want to explore non-monogamy Links: www.multiamory.com Instagram: @multiamory_podcast Twitter: @Multiamory  Patreon: patreon.com/multiamory  Polysecure by Jessica Fern Multiamory Relationship Radar   Sponsors: Cured Nutrition | Use code CREATETHELOVE for 20% all products at curednutrition.com/createthelove Organifi | Use code CREATETHELOVE for 20% off all products at organifi.com/createthelove Create the Love Cards | Use code CTLCARDS15 for 15% off at createthelove.com/cards Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Themes: Relationships, Dating, Self-Worth, Attachment Theory Summary: So excited to have Violet Benson, aka the Meme Queen, on the show today! Violet hosts the incredibly popular podcast, Almost Adulting (previously known as Too Tired To Be Crazy) and is most known for her viral brand, Daddy Issues, which has caught the attention of many celebs and over 5 million followers over the years. The Almost Adulting podcast is one of today’s most popular mental health podcasts, using humour and heartfelt advice to prompt candid conversations about mental health and wellness. It features public figures peeling back their personas to divulge their “inner demons," and I myself had the pleasure of being on the show recently. I enjoyed our conversation so much that I knew I had to have Violet on the podcast, so here we are!  Discover: How a toxic workplace inspired Violet to create her viral page, @daddyissues How Violet transformed her relationship with her father How we deal with haters and rude comments as public figures Our thoughts on shows like Love is Blind and the Bachelor Violet's attachment style and her personal dating struggles Links: Almost Adulting Podcast Check out my episodes on Almost Adulting - Pt 1 and Pt 2 Instagram: @almostadulting, @violetbenson, @daddyissues   Sponsors: Cured Nutrition | Use code CREATETHELOVE for 20% all products at curednutrition.com/createthelove Organifi | Use code CREATETHELOVE for 20% off all products at organifi.com/createthelove Create the Love Cards | Use code CTLCARDS15 for 15% off at createthelove.com/cards Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Themes: Depression, Addiction, Fulfillment, Health, Healing Summary: Joe Sheehey is the Founder and CEO of the leading cannabinoid wellness brand, Cured Nutrition. As a former NASA contributing aerospace engineer, he led much of his life doing what he was “supposed to." Now, he is committed to pushing boundaries and changing the narrative around cannabis to contribute to a future of health that looks much different than the past. Discover: How the pain of misalignment and doing what he was "supposed to" led Joe down a path freckled with anxiety, depression, substance abuse and suicidal attempts What gave Joe the push to leave his comfortable job and follow his passion Joe's mission to de-stigmatize cannabis and educate users on its benefits Links: Instagram: @curednutrition CURED is extending an exclusive offer to you, my listeners. You can try any of their products for 20% off by visiting curednutrition.com/createthelove and using coupon code CREATETHELOVE at checkout.   Sponsors: Organifi | Use code CREATETHELOVE for 20% off all products at organifi.com/createthelove Create the Love Cards | Use code CTLCARDS15 for 15% off at createthelove.com/cards Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Themes: Relationships, Monogamy, Polyamory, Communication, Psychedelic Medicine, Sexuality Summary: Today I'm honoured to be joined by the man, the myth, the legend: Aubrey Marcus. Aubrey is the founder of Onnit, a lifestyle brand based on a holistic health philosophy he calls Total Human Optimization.  Aubrey also currently hosts the Aubrey Marcus Podcast, a motivational destination for conversations with the brightest minds in athletics, business, mindset and spirituality with over 35 million downloads on iTunes. He regularly provides commentary to outlets like Entrepreneur, Forbes, The Tim Ferriss Show, and The Joe Rogan Experience. He has been featured on the cover of Men’s Health, is the host of the Fit For Service Fellowship, and is the author of the NYT Bestselling book Own The Day, Own Your Life from HarperCollins.   Discover: Being yourself at the cost of belonging Aubrey's journey into polyamory and the lessons he learned from his experience in an open relationship How Aubrey's relationship developed with his now wife, Vylana, and how they make monogamy work for them Tips and practices for deepening intimacy and keeping the “honeymoon phase” alive Aubrey's thoughts on marriage and 'til death do us part'   Links: Instagram: @aubreymarcus Aubrey Marcus Podcast | How To Prepare For True Love with Aubrey & Vylana Marcus Fit for Service Untrue by Wednesday Martin, PhD Sex at Dawn by Christopher Ryan and Cacilda Jetha   Sponsors: Organifi | Use code CREATETHELOVE for 20% off all products at organifi.com/createthelove Create the Love Cards | Use code CTLCARDS15 for 15% off at createthelove.com/cards Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Themes: Relationships, Marriage, Divorce, Religion, Masculinity, Intuition, Health Summary: I met today's guests through my partnership with Organifi and upon hearing their story, I knew I had to have them on the podcast to share it with you! Chase + Mimi were childhood sweethearts and married in their early 20’s. After 3 years they actually separated and divorced, never thinking they would see each other again. They both hit physical, emotional, mental and spiritual rock bottom in 2017-18. Call it Source, the universe or divine intervention — after 3 years of intense self development and personal epiphanies, their new lives crossed paths organically and six months later Mimi was officially moving in with Chase to start 'Part 2’ of their relationship. Now Chase + Mimi host The Medicin Podcast and are passionate about helping people proactively create deep, healthy, passionate partnership supported by healthy + conscious lifestyles. Discover: Chase and Mimi's journey from high school sweethearts to married couple, to divorced for three years and back together again How Chase and Mimi's religious upbringing influenced their idea of how a marriage "should" look an ultimately contributed to their split Why we get scared when our partners step into their full power and expression The problem with having expectations whether they be in relationships, with health or at work What to do when your partner isn't interested in growing How to know if you should stay in a relationship or leave Links: themedicin.com Instagram: @mimi_themedicin @themedicinpodcast @the_chasen_one  Uplevel your immune system with Chase & Mimi's mushroom supplement, Immune Intel!  What Femininity Wants with John Wineland - the Mark Groves Podcast Sponsors: Organifi | Use code CREATETHELOVE for 20% off all products at organifi.com/createthelove Create the Love Cards | Use code CTLCARDS15 for 15% off at createthelove.com/cards Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Themes: Spirituality, Personal Growth, Addiction Recovery, Psychedelic Therapy Summary: Today’s episode is with someone I've had the pleasure of listening to for years, now — an incredible teacher with so much insight. Luke Storey, formerly a celebrity fashion stylist, is a motivational speaker and thought leader who has spent the past 23 years relentlessly searching the world over to design the ultimate lifestyle. Using The Life Stylist Podcast as his delivery platform, Luke share his strategies for healing, happiness, and high-performance living each week to inspire people worldwide to transform their mind, body, and spirit. His show covers an ever-expanding range of topics including sex and relationships, yoga, meditation, smart drugs, health myths and medical conspiracies, spirituality, mindfulness, health food and supplementation, herbs and alternative medicine, and digs deep into biohacking technologies and tactics. Discover: Luke's personal experience with substance abuse and why he considers his history of addiction a gift Luke's thoughts on the meaning of life, reincarnation and karma How to honour and integrate inner spiritual work and outward material pursuits  Luke's thoughts on altered states of consciousness, psychedelic therapy and plant medicine Links: www.lukestorey.com Instagram: @lukestorey The Life Stylist Podcast (check out my episode here and Luke's episode on addiction recovery and psychedelics here.) Are you ready to block harmful blue light, and look great at the same time? Check out Gilded By Luke Storey and use code MARKGROVES10 for 10% off! Sponsors: Organifi | Use code CREATETHELOVE for 20% off all products at organifi.com/createthelove Create the Love Cards | Use code CTLCARDS15 for 15% off at createthelove.com/cards Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Themes: Epigenetics, the Mind, Subconscious Beliefs, Self Love, Human Potential Summary: Sitting down with today’s guest has been a long-time dream of mine, and I feel so honoured to be able to share this conversation with you. Bruce H. Lipton, Ph.D., cell biologist and lecturer, is an internationally recognized leader in bridging science and spirit. In this episode, Bruce talks about perception as the primary mechanism that controls biology, and I can promise you you're in for a fascinating episode! Bruce was on the faculty of the University of Wisconsin’s School of Medicine and later performed groundbreaking stem cell research at Stanford University. He is the bestselling author of The Biology of Belief, The Honeymoon Effect, and co-author with Steve Bhaerman of Spontaneous Evolution. In 2009, Bruce received the prestigious Goi Peace Award (Japan) in honor of his scientific contribution to world harmony. Discover: Bruce’s groundbreaking stem cell research that helped create the modern science of epigenetics (i.e. the idea that how you see life is how your biology will respond) How 95% of the time we operate from the subconscious beliefs that were programmed in childhood The impact on your life, relationships and biology when these programmed beliefs are critical and unsupportive How to discover what subconscious programs you’re running Three practical ways to reprogram your subconscious mind to replace the disempowering beliefs and begin living a happier and healthier life Links: Visit www.brucelipton.com Instagram: @brucelipton Sponsors: Organifi | Use code CREATETHELOVE for 20% off all products at organifi.com/createthelove Create the Love Cards | Use code CTLCARDS15 for 15% off at createthelove.com/cards Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Themes: Relationships, Attachment Theory, Polyvagal Theory Summary: I know you're going to be pumped about today's guest because her last appearance on the podcast was one of my most listened to episodes ever! Back by popular demand is Sarah Baldwin, a Somatic Experiencing Practitioner and Trauma Coach trained in Polyvagal interventions and on the training team at the Polyvagal Institute. In Sarah's previous episode, she brilliantly broke down Polyvagal theory (i.e. how the autonomic nervous system works) and briefly touched on the intersection of Polyvagal theory and attachment theory. Today, Sarah's back to dive deeper into how these two theories work together subconsciously to inform the way we relate to and connect with others. Discover: How a lack of a secure attachment with our primary childhood caregivers results in the development of insecure attachment styles in order to cope and find safety How the Autonomic Nervous System works and becomes dysregulated as a brilliant and beautiful way to self protect The relationship between who you choose as a partner as an adult and how you were related to in your childhood experiences Steps to regulate your nervous system and create secure attachment within your adult relationships Links: Listen to Sarah's first episode: The Nervous System Explained Follow Sarah on Instagram for regular supportive teachings Sarah offers small group programs, online courses and workshops. Sign up for her email list to get exclusive support, offers and her free workbook "How to Gain Control Over How You Feel" or visit her website at sarahbaldwincoaching.com. Sponsors: Organifi | Use code CREATETHELOVE for 20% off all products at organifi.com/createthelove Create the Love Cards | Use code CTLCARDS15 for 15% off at createthelove.com/cards Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy