The Mark Groves Podcast

Themes: Politics, COVID, Individualism, Fear, Health, Government, Accountability, Truth, News & Media, Misinformation, Authenticity, Belonging, Transformation, Conflict, Mental Health Summary:  In this solo episode, I share my thoughts and grief on what has occurred over these last few years as a result of the pandemic. I believe in having open and honest discourse and avoiding inflammatory language that only pushes us further apart. I want to invite curiosity back into our experiences and encourage us to hold manipulative and dishonest individuals and groups accountable while keeping in mind that love and truth always win in the end! Let’s come together to change this world. Discover: Alternative viewpoints on how information as delivered to us during the pandemic The usage of “misinformation” labels, nudge tactics, divisiveness, gaslighting, narcissism, and other abusive tactics Why we must stand up as a village to hold the media and governing bodies accountable and demand truth and change 00:00 Intro  00:53 Nudge tactics 02:45 Misinformation 03:56 You’re not free to choose if your freedom is at stake 07:22 There wasn’t enough data 10:16 They turned us against each other 13:34 Divisiveness, gaslighting, and narcissism 16:30 The importance of discourse without inflammatory language 21:52 We need to come together to make change Links: Emails referenced - The Virality Project: Twitter Files revealed that the US government and major social media companies worked hand-in-hand with Stanford University to censor or limit true information about Covid-19, suppress “true vaccine side effects” and “true posts which could fuel [vaccine] hesitancy.” The emails and documents were provided to Matt Taibbi by Twitter CEO Elon Musk. The documents, dubbed the "Twitter Files" and retweeted by Musk, were selected from "thousands of internal documents obtained by sources at Twitter." Matt Taibbi is an award winning author, journalist, and contributing editor for Rolling Stone. (Sources: New York Post, The Maine Wire, TRT World) Join me on Felt! Sign up for my newsletter here Follow me on Substack here Instagram | @createthelove Facebook | @createthelove Sponsors: Create the Love Cards | Use code CTLCARDS15 for 15% off at createthelove.com/cards Our Sponsors:* Check out Avocado Green Mattress: https://avocadogreenmattress.com/GROVESAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

Themes: Psychology, Relationships, Anxiety, Resilience, Attachment Theory, Transformation, Conflict Summary:  Join me in a fascinating exploration of psychology and relationships with Jillian Turecki, a certified relationship coach, teacher and writer who for 20 years has taught others how to transform their relationships with themselves. Under the tutelage of Tony Robbins and world-renowned family therapist Cloe Madanes and fueled by an insatiable curiosity about what makes a relationship thrive, Jillian has helped thousands through her teaching and writing revolutionize their relationship with themselves so that they transform their relationships with others.    In this episode, we explore the fascinating experiences in relationships that are often overlooked or labeled with pop-psychology terms like anxious and avoidant. Listen in to hear Jillian’s perspective on what women and men need most, how to be more objective to understand your partner better, and more of her greatest learnings from being in a relationship. Discover: Why attachment theory only scratches the surface of understanding each other The biggest reasons why relationships fail What men and women want and need most in relationship and how to understand each other better 00:00 Intro  00:54 Jillian’s journey from yoga to relationship coach 10:36 Yoga and the mind 14:15 Somatic awareness 18:03 The loneliness of not being with yourself 19:52 The toxic dance of push-pull 26:43 How much anxiety in a relationship is too much? 28:25 We over-pathologize others as anxious or avoidant  38:24 Asking for your needs to be met 40:28 Greatest learnings in relationship 44:13 Men and their needs in a relationship 49:31 The importance of being appreciated and understood 54:01 The complexity we hold due to familial dynamics Links: Website: www.jillianturecki.com Podcast: https://listen.qcodemedia.com/jillianonlove IG: @jillianturecki Tik Tok: @jillian.turecki Twitter: @JillianTurecki Sponsors: Open | Try Open for 30 days free! Go to withopen.com/createthelove and use code CREATETHELOVE to sign up. WeWork | Get 50% off your first workspace booking with WeWork On Demand! Go to we.co/mark and use code WORKWITHMARK. Our Sponsors:* Check out Avocado Green Mattress: https://avocadogreenmattress.com/GROVESAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

Themes: Trusting Yourself, Intuition, True Liberation, Self Love, Authenticity, Transformation Summary:  Comin’ at ya with a quick espresso shot of love on embracing change and trusting our internal guidance system. I hope my reflections inspire you to gain insight into your own circumstances and ways of being in the world. Discover: Why you need to trust yourself when you say yes to change  How we’re being asked to orient ourselves from intellectual/logical to intuitive/heart centered  True liberation and how can we find it 00:00 Intro  00:17 Trust your intuition 03:00 True liberation 03:49 Orient through your sensations 05:37 Start asking the right questions Links: Join me on Felt! Sign up for my newsletter here Follow me on Substack here Instagram | @createthelove Facebook | @createthelove Sponsors: Organifi | Use code CREATETHELOVE for 20% off sitewide at organifi.com/createthelove Create the Love Cards | Use code CTLCARDS15 for 15% off at createthelove.com/cards Our Sponsors:* Check out Avocado Green Mattress: https://avocadogreenmattress.com/GROVESAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

Themes: Relationships, Romantic Relationships, Relationship Struggles, Couples Therapy, Communication, Healing, Conflict Summary:  Back for the second time is my good friend, Nick Solaczek. Nick is a relationship coach and teacher specializing in romantic relationships with an emphasis on safe conversations, conscious relationship principles, mindfulness, authenticity and boundary setting. Nick works closely with IMAGO theory in his practice, believing that the image we project has a significant influence on who we are attracted to and how we show up in our relationship.  In this episode, we jam on how to create stronger romantic relationships, how our childhood experiences are responsible for many of our triggers in our adult relationships, the influence of fear and how it guides our actions, and more juicy relational truths. Tune in to hear Nick share mic-drops on how to communicate more clearly to ask for what we want and how to use struggle to strengthen our partnerships instead of drive us apart.  Nick also teaches us about his relational theory, The Developmental Mountain, which he shares in depth in his new course: Romantic Relationship Reset. Get the link and a discount below! Discover: Core relational dynamics of romantic relationships and which ones you and your partner relate to How and why opposites attract when it comes to romantic relationships The power of fear and its presence in our interactions with our partners The benefits of both individual and couples therapy when it comes to long term relationships  The power of IMAGO dialogue as a powerful method of communication for couples 00:00 Intro  02:12 How we have historically approached couples work 06:34 Romance is propagandized by culture 10:14 We all have conflicts in the kitchen 18:24 Relational dynamics of the Seeker, Maximizer, Minimizer 25:40 How childhood experiences show up in adult relationships 26:48 We show and respond to emotion differently 29:56 The power of fear 34:54 The struggle is normal 41:47 Ways to ask for what you want 48:01 Why we deal with things the way we do 50:35 The Developmental Mountain 57:32 The Relationship Reset Links: Special offer: $50 off Nick’s course "Romantic Relationship Reset" with promo code: CREATE50 Website: www.nicksolaczek.com Course: www.nicksolaczek.com/mark Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nicksolaczek/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@coachingwithnick Sponsors: Cozy Earth | Use code GROVES for 40% off sitewide at cozyearth.com Cymbiotika | Use code GROVES at checkout for 15% off your first purchase at cymbiotika.com. (Save up to 45% off when you buy a bundle!) Our Sponsors:* Check out Avocado Green Mattress: https://avocadogreenmattress.com/GROVESAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

Themes: Relationships, Connection, Health, Mental Health, Transformation, Belonging, Purpose Summary:  Today I’m nerding out with Dr. Robert Waldinger, professor of psychiatry at Harvard Medical School and co-author of The Good Life: Lessons From the World’s Longest Scientific Study on Happiness. Dr. Waldinger is also a Zen master (Roshi) who teaches meditation worldwide. In this episode, we explore Dr. Waldinger’s fascinating research on what makes a “good life” based on the longest study of adult life that has ever been done - the Harvard Study of Adult Development. He shares his insights on the power of relationships and how they affect our mental and physical health, practical tips for improving our happiness, and how to create and nurture thriving relationships. This is a pod you won’t want to miss! Discover: The power of relationships and how they affect our mental and physical health The types of relationships we need to thrive The impact of conflict and how to use it to nurture relationships How to improve the quality of our relationships Ways to build resilience and cope with conflict 00:00 Intro  01:55 What is the happiness study? 04:34 Relationships help us live longer 09:26 Impacts of life events 11:03 High-conflict relationships 12:27 Stress and the body 14:11 Attachment styles and relationship longevity 17:21 Relationships and the body 19:26 Social fitness 21:20 Be curious 24:30 Stratifying the data 27:42 Effects of the study on participants 31:39 Being in Zen 33:28 Religion and spiritual practice 36:39 Rituals and habits 38:38 Study results and expanding the research Links: Website | Harvard Study of Adult Development Book | The Good Life: Lessons from the World's Longest Scientific Study of Happiness Sponsors: Cured Nutrition | Use code CREATETHELOVE for 20% off sitewide at curednutrition.com/createthelove Create the Love Cards | Use code CTLCARDS15 for 15% off at createthelove.com/cards Our Sponsors:* Check out Avocado Green Mattress: https://avocadogreenmattress.com/GROVESAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

Themes: Self Worth, Self-Love, Health, Sustainability, Rituals, Human Behaviour, Wellness, Rituals, Purpose Summary:  Join me in this captivating, gem-filled conversation with Chervin Jafarieh, founder of Cymbiotika and one of the most respected and influential health experts in the world. Chervin combines studies in Eastern and Western medicine, orthomolecular medicine, epigenetics, physiology, nutrition, detoxification, biodynamic agriculture, and philosophy to wake people up to their highest potential. He is committed to seeking knowledge, revealing the truth, and exercising keen discernment in all areas of life. In this episode, Chervin guides us on an engaging journey that touches all of these topics and opens our eyes to the symbiotic states of being that our minds, bodies, and souls are craving right now. Discover: Current energies of the collective of humanity and how it affects our wellbeing The importance of grounding, hydration, and finding equilibrium for optimal health Technology today and how it’s affecting the health of our community The importance of discipline and rituals in achieving wellness, and the value of being part of growth-minded communities Important foods and supplements and designing a food & fitness system that fits your lifestyle 00:00 Intro  01:23 Where is humanity at this time? 04:45 Social media is the ultimate paradox of our time 10:28 AI vs. epigenetics 20:02 The internet of eyes - AI and surveillance hidden in plain sight 24:28 Technology’s effect on our health and nature 33:00 The power of discipline 36:11 Programming and energy exchange on a cellular level 39:19 What humans desire most 39:52 Our body is an ecosystem with a specific set of instructions 50:50 The greatest source of addiction 53:02 What we all crave the most 1:02:43 Victim mentality & virtuosity 1:09:19 It’s time to reconnect to our intuition and our body 1:11:08 Practical supplementing of food and vitamins for better health 1:14:31 Tend the garden 1:18:43 Food is a merging of worlds 1:24:50 Follow the synchronicities Links: Website | cymbiotika.com - use code GROVES for 15% off sitewide! Instagram | @chervin333 + @cymbiotika   TikTok | @realcymbiotika Podcast | Wake The Fake Up (listen to my episode with Mark here!) Sponsors: Open | Try Open for 30 days free! Go to withopen.com/createthelove and use code CREATETHELOVE to sign up. Cymbiotika | Use code GROVES at checkout for 15% off your first purchase at cymbiotika.com. (Save up to 45% off when you buy a bundle!) Create the Love Cards | Use code CTLCARDS15 for 15% off at createthelove.com/cards Our Sponsors:* Check out Avocado Green Mattress: https://avocadogreenmattress.com/GROVESAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

Themes: Parenting, Ego, Social Media, Child Development Summary:  Today I’m excited to welcome Dr. Shefali to the podcast. I have been a longtime fan of her work, and as I step into parenthood myself, this episode comes at the perfect time! In it, we dive into concepts from her most recent book, The Parenting Map, and explore the traditional parenting paradigm (and why it’s not working anymore), plus how to develop awareness around your behaviours to foster a deeper connection with your kids. Dr. Shefali received her doctorate in clinical psychology from Columbia University. Specializing in the integration of Western psychology and Eastern philosophy, she brings together the best of both worlds for her clients. She is an expert in family dynamics and personal development, teaching courses around the globe. She has written four books, three of which are New York Times best-sellers, including her two landmark books, The Conscious Parent and The Awakened Family. Discover: The traditional parenting paradigm and why it’s not working anymore Why shifting from control to connection is key in conscious parenting How to nurture your child’s essence, so they develop resilience and self-worth Why our children trigger us (hint: it’s about you, not them) How your past pain influences the way you parent How social media impacts your child’s self-worth and self-image How to identify your child’s ego pattern 00:00 Intro  01:05 The traditional parenting paradigm 05:28 Conscious parenting 11:28 It’s not your kid; it’s you 12:52 Parents are not aware that their love is conditional 16:43 Parenting from ego & parenting as spiritual growth 26:08 Recognizing your ego patterns 28:56 Projecting onto your kids 34:40 The impact of social media on parents and kids 42:37 Repairing parenting mistakes 44:13 Dismantling the ego 48:40 It’s a difficult time to raise children Links: Website | drshefali.com Instagram | @doctorshefali Book | The Parenting Map Sponsors: Organifi | Use code CREATETHELOVE for 20% off sitewide at organifi.com/createthelove Create the Love Cards | Use code CTLCARDS15 for 15% off at createthelove.com/cards Our Sponsors:* Check out Avocado Green Mattress: https://avocadogreenmattress.com/GROVESAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

Themes: Freedom of Speech, Censorship, Social Media, Cancel Culture, Mental Health Summary:  Join me for an insightful conversation with Greg Lukianoff: attorney, New York Times best-selling author, and President and CEO of the Foundation for Individual Rights and Expression (FIRE). Greg co-authored one of my all-time favourite books, The Coddling of the American Mind: How Good Intentions and Bad Ideas Are Setting Up a Generation for Failure, with Jonathan Haidt. This New York Times best-seller expands on their September 2015 Atlantic cover story of the same name and is an absolute MUST read. In this episode, we discuss some main themes from the book, including free speech, why it matters, the dangers of censorship, and more. Discover: The importance of free speech and why diverse viewpoints are essential for growth, peace and a thriving democracy The dangers of censorship and why diverse thought, even when offensive, is necessary to develop critical thinking Why society tends to put someone in a box based on an opinion or belief (and why it’s lazy) 00:00 Intro  01:09 Why Greg is passionate about free speech 05:10 When is censorship okay? 08:15 Handling pushback to free speech 13:08 Being placed in a box for your beliefs 17:39 Moral certitude 19:54 Free speech and private companies 24:59 The noble lie 27:21 Lack of viewpoint diversity on campuses 29:52 The benefits of free speech 37:40 Disagreement and diverse thought 42:45 Biases in mainstream media 47:31 Conservative = evil? 53:38 Group polarization 56:39 Talking back to the voices in your head 1:00:34 Interpersonal trust 1:02:56 Conflicts and disagreements in relationships 1:08:01 How to be advocates of free speech Links: Website | thefire.org Book | The Coddling of the American Mind Instagram | @thefireorg Sponsors: Create the Love Cards | Use code CTLCARDS15 for 15% off at createthelove.com/cards Our Sponsors:* Check out Avocado Green Mattress: https://avocadogreenmattress.com/GROVESAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

Themes: Childhood Wounds, Family Systems, People-Pleasing, Relationships, Self-Worth Summary:  I think it’s safe to say that none of us had a perfect childhood, and we all carry around behaviours and unhealed pain that doesn’t serve us. But it doesn’t have to be that way: our past may have created our patterns, but we can change them with some self-awareness and the right tools. Join my bestie Vienna Pharaon and me as we dive into understanding and overcoming wounds from our Family of Origin, so you can move beyond your frustrating patterns in life and love and into a more liberated way of being. Vienna is a licensed marriage and family therapist and one of New York City’s most sought-after relationship therapists. She has practiced therapy for more than fifteen years and is the founder and owner of the group practice Mindful Marriage and Family Therapy. Her first book, The Origins of You, hits shelves on February 21st, 2023. Discover: How unhealed pain or “wounds” from our Family of Origin manifest in our adult behaviours Why it’s so difficult to hold the paradox of being both disappointed with and grateful for our upbringing Five common “origin wounds” and how they show up in our adult lives How to identify and start to heal the origin wounds that hold you back 00:00 Intro  02:10 How childhood wounds impact us today 13:57 You don’t need to have a traumatic childhood to have wounds 18:19 Being both disappointed with and grateful for aspects of your upbringing 29:23 Examples of origin wounds  32:35 The belonging wound 36:53 The prioritization wound 45:15 Safety and trust wounds 55:42 How to begin healing  Links: Website | viennapharaon.com Instagram | @mindfulmft Book | The Origins of You 6 Week LIVE Coaching Experience with Vienna Sponsors: Cozy Earth | Use code GROVES for 40% off sitewide at cozyearth.com Open | Try Open for 30 days free! Go to withopen.com/createthelove and use code CREATETHELOVE to sign up Create the Love Cards | Use code CTLCARDS15 for 15% off at createthelove.com/cards Our Sponsors:* Check out Avocado Green Mattress: https://avocadogreenmattress.com/GROVESAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

Themes: Career, Purpose, Media, Divorce, Breakups, Parenting Summary:  This week I’m honoured to welcome the master mechanic himself, Ant Anstead, to the show. Ant and I met serendipitously a few years back when he took my Breakup Recovery Course, and I’ve been blessed to call him a friend ever since. Ant is the CEO and co-founder of Radford Motors and is responsible for overseeing the build process of every single bespoke, hand-made vehicle to meet exacting customer specifications. For many years, Ant built bespoke cars for elite clients and collectors all over the world and is best known for hosting car-centric television shows such as Celebrity IOU: Joyride, Radford Returns, For the Love of Cars and Wheeler Dealers, the number one most distributed show on The Discovery Channel.  Join us as we chat about Ant’s career journey, life (and divorce) in the public eye, parenthood, and more. Discover: How Ant transitioned from being a police officer to playing football to building cars How he turned his passion for cars into a career His journey into television How he deals with the media, clickbait and life in the public eye Ant’s perspective on parenting in the social media generation and his top advice for fathers 00:00 Intro  02:31 Ant’s police career 11:13 Flipping and building cars 16:05 Turning your passion into a career 21:19 Starring on a television show 27:27 Being in the public eye 31:34 Clickbait & the media 35:02 Getting hate for hosting Wheeler Dealers 43:01 Social media trolls 47:30 Divorce 54:50 Fatherhood 1:03:55 Upcoming works 1:06:48 Radford Racing School 1:12:29 Mark as a father-to-be Links: Website | ant-anstead.com + radford.co Instagram | @ant_anstead + @radfordmotors Sponsors: Cozy Earth | Use code GROVES for 40% off sitewide at cozyearth.com Create the Love Cards | Use code CTLCARDS15 for 15% off at createthelove.com/cards Our Sponsors:* Check out Avocado Green Mattress: https://avocadogreenmattress.com/GROVESAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands