Cheaper Than Therapy with Vanessa and Dené

In this solo episode, Vanessa and Dené passed a miniature microphone back and forth in the car to record a conversation they were having on the way to their New Year's retreat.They talked about:1. How their perspective on interdependence differs from the ways others describe it in several personal development and psychology spaces.  2. How a woman’s experience of safety in a relationship can have a lot to do with the emotional load she is carrying.3. Why most of us are actually taking on way more in our day-to-day lives than is meant to be sustainable for our nervous systems.Mental health professionals, we referenced in this episode:Dr. Ellyn Bader / The Couples InstituteEsther PerelDr. Mary Catherine McDonald If you love the conversations we’re bringing you as much as we do, please subscribe, rate, and write a review so we can get the podcast out to even more people!*These live coaching sessions are meant for entertainment purposes only and are not to replace therapy.This podcast is, for sure, Cheaper Than Therapy. Follow Cheaper Than Therapy on Instagram Follow VanessaInstagramTikTokYouTube Follow Dené InstagramTikTok------------------------------ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

This episode is part of a series where we coach one of our listeners through a topic or question. In this coaching session, we sat down with “Anne” to talk about the internal struggle that comes from the societal norm to feel incomplete without a partnership.If you’re interested in joining us for a coaching session, click here.Some Takeaways from this Episode:Differentiating Between Comfort vs Ease: There’s comfort in choosing the societal norm to be in partnership, but ease can be found when we accept that maybe this point in our lives is more about self-expansion rather than comfortExpand on Our Healing: Unpack what the conditioned desire to be chosen for a partnership brings up for us in the context of our healingSurrendering to What Is: Embracing the work of surrendering to the emotional turbulence as waves we will continue to ride throughout our healing journey in this lifetime🎙This podcast is definitely Cheaper than Therapy🌐 Dive Deeper Into The Show: YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@cheaperthantherapypodcast  Instagram: @cheaperthantherapythepodcast TikTok: @cheaperthantherapypod Connect with Vanessa: Instagram: @vanessasbennett TikTok: @thecodayoda YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@vanessabennettlmft5631  Connect with Dené:Instagram: @dene.logan TikTok: @denelogan Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Flynn Skidmore is a therapist, content creator, and business mentor who specializes in helping people create lasting change in their lives, faster. Through Flynn’s courses, community driven content, and work with individuals he finds that clients deepen their self-acceptance and start taking tangible action steps toward getting unstuck. We sat down with Flynn to talk about:1. Figuring out what it is we actually desire to feel in relationships so that we can come up with the best strategy for accomplishing that desired feeling.2. The resistance that often accompanies the realization that we are the creator of our own experience.3. Why it might be helpful to explore what we are doing or who we are with when we like being who we are the most, instead of simply attempting to be an authentic version of ourselves.We know you are going to love hearing the way Flynn offers tangible solutions from an original perspective as much as we did!Connect with Flynn*** InstagramIf you love the conversations we’re bringing you as much as we do, please subscribe, rate, and write a review so we can get the podcast out to even more people!*These live coaching sessions are meant for entertainment purposes only and are not to replace therapy.This podcast is, for sure, Cheaper Than Therapy. Follow Cheaper Than Therapy on Instagram Follow VanessaInstagramTikTokYouTube Follow Dené InstagramTikTok------------------------------ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this live coaching session, we sat down with May to talk about some struggles she’s been having with codependent tendencies.We explore:1. how to know the difference between looking out for someone because you care about them and controlling them2. the opportunities for building resilience that are lost when we protect those we love from difficulty3. how important it is to hold ourselves with compassion in the moments that we’re being controlling, understanding that the need to control is usually linked to our desire to create a sense of safetyIf you love the conversations we’re bringing you as much as we do, please subscribe, rate, and write a review so we can get the podcast out to even more people!*These live coaching sessions are meant for entertainment purposes only and are not to replace therapy.This podcast is, for sure, Cheaper Than Therapy. Follow Cheaper Than Therapy on Instagram Follow VanessaInstagramTikTokYouTube Follow Dené InstagramTikTok------------------------------ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Yasmine Cheyenne is a writer, speaker, and self-healing advocate, born and raised in Brooklyn, NY. She helps people create and strengthen their individual self-care practices by teaching them the tools that empower lasting positive changes in their lives. An Air Force Veteran, Yasmine now focuses on her self-healing workshops as well as her writing. Her book, The Sugar Jar: Create Boundaries, Embrace Self-Healing, and Enjoy the Sweet things in Life, is available for preorder and releases on December 27.We sat down to talk with Yasmine about:1. Using self-healing language as a means to making mental health tools accessible, supporting others in understanding themselves, and becoming their own mental health advocates2. Doing the work of unpacking the unspoken layers of perfectionism wounds that exist in marginalized communities 3. How she came to use the metaphor of a sugar jar to describe the beautiful mess called being human we are all attempting to wade our way through  Yasmine is an absolute treasure! We know this conversation will make you as excited to read her book as we are! Connect with Yasmine*** Pre-Order her book*** Website*** Instagram*** Facebook*** TwitterIf you love the conversations we’re bringing you as much as we do, please subscribe, rate, and write a review so we can get the podcast out to even more people!*These live coaching sessions are meant for entertainment purposes only and are not to replace therapy.This podcast is, for sure, Cheaper Than Therapy. Follow Cheaper Than Therapy on Instagram Follow VanessaInstagramTikTokYouTube Follow Dené InstagramTikTok------------------------------ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this live coaching session, Dené and Vanessa sat down with Pam to talk about her experience of anxiety within a new relationship after a prolonged period of singlehood.They explore:1. How to cultivate a toolkit for self-soothing some of the inevitable discomforts that comes to the surface when we’re opening ourselves up to love.2. Sitting with the difficult truth that we cannot experience love without vulnerability 3. Why the skills Pam cultivated while she was ‘Single on Purpose’ are still important to carry forward with her into her new relationship.If you love the conversations we’re bringing you as much as we do, please subscribe, rate, and write a review so we can get the podcast out to even more people!Dené and Vanessa also share details about their upcoming New Years Retreat, FROM SELF-ABANDONMENT TO INNER BELONGING: THE INTENSIVE happening in Carefree, Arizona at Civana Wellness Resort and Spa, January 1-6, 2023!*These live coaching sessions are meant for entertainment purposes only and are not to replace therapy.This podcast is, for sure, Cheaper Than Therapy. Follow Cheaper Than Therapy on Instagram Follow VanessaInstagramTikTokYouTube Follow Dené InstagramTikTok------------------------------ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Quentin de Camp is a relationship coach, a therapist, and a healing teacher who’s spent the last decade searching, analysing, learning, and modeling the most efficient techniques and tools for self-development and human psychology. and communication, key success factors and more recently neurosciences, well being in workplace, trauma informed and leadership.He supports others in removing what is holding them back, so they can thrive in what they want to achieve in their lives.We sat down with Quentin to talk about:1. the trouble with attaching labels to our identity 2. what people often get wrong about what it means to be an empath or intuitive 3. understanding the distinction between acceptance and self-abandonment 4. why sometimes high standards can be a way of masking a high level of relational fear.You have to take our word for it when we say, this is definitely an episode you don’t want to miss!Connect with Quentin*** InstagramIf you love the conversations we’re bringing you as much as we do, please subscribe, rate and write a review so we can get the podcast out to even more people!Dené and Vanessa also share details about their upcoming New Years Retreat, FROM SELF-ABANDONMENT TO INNER BELONGING: THE INTENSIVE happening in Carefree, Arizona at Civana Wellness Resort and Spa, January 1-6, 2023!*These live coaching sessions are meant for entertainment purposes only and are not to replace therapy.This podcast is, for sure, Cheaper Than Therapy. Follow Cheaper Than Therapy on Instagram Follow VanessaInstagramTikTokYouTube Follow Dené InstagramTikTok------------------------------ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Taune Lyons is an integrative therapist, writer, and coach in the San Francisco, Bay Area. She specializes in understanding our attachment sounding, intentional relating, sexuality, unraveling our conditioning, and the integration of our painful experiences.We sat down with Taune for an IG LIVE to talk about:1. straddling the line between the “disconnection dance” in relationships and acknowledging the inevitable ways our actions end up impacting those around us2. how we can reframe our relational challenges as learning experiences 3. the ways that “Instagram therapy” often misses the nuance of our relational experiencesConnect with Taune*** Instagram*** Website Dené and Vanessa also share details about their upcoming New Years Retreat, FROM SELF-ABANDONMENT TO INNER BELONGING: THE INTENSIVE happening in Carefree, Arizona at Civana Wellness Resort and Spa, January 1-6, 2023!If you love the conversations we’re bringing you as much as we do, please subscribe, rate and write a 5-star review so we can get the podcast out to even more people!*These live coaching sessions are meant for entertainment purposes only and are not to replace therapy.This podcast is, for sure, Cheaper Than Therapy. Follow Cheaper Than Therapy on Instagram Follow VanessaInstagramTikTokYouTube Follow Dené InstagramTikTok------------------------------ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Ep.122 How we process pain In this solo episode, we sat down to unpack some of the feedback we got on one of our recent episodes.We discuss:1. The differentiation between allowing ourselves time to fully feel the most challenging moments in our lives vs letting those moments define us.2. How what we’re grappling with on an individual level is so often mirrored by what we struggle with as a collective3. Our perspectives on how therapy is currently being utilized and how self-help can sometimes turn into one more external source of dependency.Dené and Vanessa also share details about their upcoming New Years Retreat, FROM SELF-ABANDONMENT TO INNER BELONGING: THE INTENSIVE happening in Carefree, Arizona at Civana Wellness Resort and Spa, January 1-6, 2023!If you love the conversations we’re bringing you as much as we do, please subscribe, rate and write a 5-star review so we can get the podcast out to even more people!*These live coaching sessions are meant for entertainment purposes only and are not to replace therapy.This podcast is, for sure, Cheaper Than Therapy. Follow Cheaper Than Therapy on Instagram Follow VanessaInstagramTikTokYouTube Follow Dené InstagramTikTok------------------------------ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this live coaching session, we sat down with Steven to talk about the issues of betrayal and differing levels of desire within a marriage. We explore:how our attachment wounds inevitably start to play out in our adult relationships and how understanding our codependent tendencies becomes the first step we take toward our own healingwhy the people in our lives often start taking us for granted if we’re not treating ourselves with love and respect firstthe importance of maintaining a sense of autonomy - our own interests, communities, and practices of self-care - both inside and outside of a relationshipWe were so grateful to Steven for being so open about a relationship topic that so many of us are grappling with every single day.  Dené and Vanessa also share details about their upcoming New Years Retreat, FROM SELF-ABANDONMENT TO INNER BELONGING: THE INTENSIVE happening in Carefree, Arizona at Civana Wellness Resort and Spa, January 1-6, 2023!If you love the conversations we’re bringing you as much as we do, please subscribe, rate and write a 5-star review so we can get the podcast out to even more people!*These live coaching sessions are meant for entertainment purposes only and are not to replace therapy.This podcast is, for sure, Cheaper Than Therapy. Follow Cheaper Than Therapy on Instagram Follow VanessaInstagramTikTokYouTube Follow Dené InstagramTikTok------------------------------ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.