Pillow Talks

75% of people say that nagging is an issue in their relationship. So we thought it was time we gave our take on this controversial topic.   We’re talking about the differences between nagging, reminding, and micromanaging. When is it nagging versus your partner not carrying their share of the mental load? What do you do when you can’t trust your partner to get something done without nagging?   We also got into a pretty vulnerable conversation about the role nagging has in our day-to-day relationship.   Plus, we’re walking you through specific steps to help stop nagging because the reality is, no one likes to nag and no one likes to receive nagging…   Links & Resources: Workbook:   Mental Load Workbook (https://vmtherapy.thrivecart.com/mental-load-workbook/)   If you enjoyed this episode, make sure to subscribe for your weekly double date full of totally doable sex tips, practical relationship advice, hilarious and honest stories of what really goes on behind closed bedroom doors and so much more. It's the sex education you wish you had!   Get 15% off OneSkin with the code PILLOW at www.oneskin.co (https://www.oneskin.co/)   Thanks Cozy Earth. CozyEarth.com (https://cozyearth.com/) and get 35% off when you use the code PILLOWTALKS Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Discover what partners wish you'd stop doing in the bedroom as anonymous responses reveal pet peeves and red flags. Learn about the importance of open communication, erogenous zones, clitoral stimulation preferences, and enhancing intimacy through clear communication.

Surprise! We’re in couples therapy. We sat down and recorded one of our most vulnerable episodes yet all about why we’re in therapy and how it’s going. We talked about what to look for in a potential therapist (and where to look) and gave some tips on how to ask your partner to go to therapy with you. We also got surprisingly deep about the resistance one of us had to going to therapy in the first place… Links & Resources:Visit our Homepage (https://vmtherapy.com/) If you enjoyed this episode, make sure to subscribe for your weekly double date full of totally doable sex tips, practical relationship advice, hilarious and honest stories of what really goes on behind closed bedroom doors and so much more. It's the sex education you wish you had! Thanks Dipsea. Get a 30 day free trial when you go to DipseaStories.com/pillow (https://www.dipseastories.com/pillow). Thanks Babbel. Visit Babbel.com/pillow (https://www.babbel.com/pillow) for 55% off your subscription. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Explore the impact of negative body image on sex, including personal experiences and techniques for overcoming insecurities. Delve into the perception of penis size and the influence of societal pressure. Discover the relationship between body image and sexual desire, and the importance of verbalizing our body thoughts.

Exploring the concept of laziness in bed, the impact on relationships, and ways to break the cycle. Discussing gender dynamics, communication, and the importance of active participation in sexual encounters. Addressing reasons behind perceived laziness and empowering couples to enhance intimacy together.

Discover the challenges of sustaining romance in long-term relationships, explore why men may not be as romantic and how partners can encourage more romance. Get ideas for romantic gestures and ways to inspire more romance. Learn tips for getting your partner to be more romantic, including avoiding comparisons and focusing on love and appreciation. Shifting the mindset on romance and protecting surprises in relationships. Introducing a challenge to increase intimacy and exploring a diverse sex challenge.

Explore your sex personality type and what it says about your desires and experiences in the bedroom. Discover the challenges and dynamics between givers and receivers, and the importance of balance in sexual relationships. Learn about the desires and characteristics of passion pursuers and how to navigate relationships with them. Get insights on navigating different personality types and the significance of emotional intelligence in relationships. Plus, exciting announcements and a chance to win a prize!

Snip snap! We’re back with part 2 of Xander’s vasectomy journey. (Start with part 1 if you want to hear his story.) This time we’re answering all your questions about the process from start to finish (literally, all 30 “finishes”).   Did Xander have any pain during sex after the procedure? Did his sex drive change? Do his balls hang lower? Is his semen a different color, texture, or volume, and does it smell funny now? Did his vasectomy make him feel less masculine?   Plus, we share tons of advice about how to talk to your male partner about getting a vasectomy!   Links & Resources: Check out our homepage (https://vmtherapy.com/)   If you enjoyed this episode, make sure to subscribe for your weekly double date full of totally doable sex tips, practical relationship advice, hilarious and honest stories of what really goes on behind closed bedroom doors and so much more. It's the sex education you wish you had!   Thanks Cozy Earth. CozyEarth.com (https://cozyearth.com/) and get 35% off when you use the code PILLOWTALKS   Thanks EarthBreeze!  EarthBreeze.com/pillow (https://earthbreeze.com/pillow) to subscribe to Earth Breeze and save 40%! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

We asked you to share your funniest foreplay fails, and you REALLY delivered! Today we’re sharing the dangers of jalapeños, why you shouldn’t chew gum during oral, and some bad Cosmo advice about armpits!   But we couldn’t leave it at just your stories; we had to include some of our funniest fails as well. Trust us, you definitely want to hear what happened the very first time Vanessa ever gave someone a blowjob, and the time Xander didn’t really make it to foreplay…   If you want to avoid your own foreplay fail, we’re also sharing our #1 resource for having the best foreplay experience of your life!   Links & Resources: Guide: The Foreplay Guides (https://vmtherapy.com/foreplay)   If you enjoyed this episode, make sure to subscribe for your weekly double date full of totally doable sex tips, practical relationship advice, hilarious and honest stories of what really goes on behind closed bedroom doors and so much more. It's the sex education you wish you had!   Thanks Dipsea. Get a 30 day free trial when you go to DipseaStories.com/pillow (https://DipseaStories.com/pillow). Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Xander got a vasectomy! They discuss the entire process, finding the right doctor, the procedure itself, aftercare, and more. Hilarious details about preparing for the procedure and post-procedure test. They plan to answer burning questions about the procedure in part 2. Also, discussion on risks, cost, anesthesia, positioning, and post-vasectomy testing.