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Vanessa & Xander Marin | QCODE
Meet Vanessa and Xander Marin, your new BFF couple friends! She’s a sex therapist with 20 years of experience and he’s a regular dude. Together they’re the shockingly open, slightly nerdy, and seriously funny couple you want to grab sushi with. They share the ups and downs in their relationship while giving you step-by-step techniques for improving yours. Subscribe for your weekly double date full of totally do-able sex tips, practical relationship advice, hilarious and honest stories of what really goes on behind closed bedroom doors, and so much more. It’s the sex education you WISH you’d had!
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May 16, 2024 • 42min
Episode 156: What To Do When It’s Been A While… (The Dry Spell Episode)
The podcast discusses the challenges of rebuilding intimacy after a dry spell, empowering listeners to enhance their sex life, the importance of reviews and the Dipsy app, reasons behind dry spells, common mistakes couples make, and strategies for overcoming intimacy challenges through communication and understanding.

May 9, 2024 • 1h 4min
Episode 155: Am I The Asshole? In-Laws Edition
In this episode discussing in-law issues, topics include dietary preferences, back-handed compliments, dinner table mishaps, managing offensive language, setting boundaries with family members, preserving family memories, handling difficult conversations, and aligning financial goals in relationships.

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May 2, 2024 • 52min
Episode 154: How To Stop Feeling Resentment In Your Relationship
The podcast explores the prevalence and impact of resentment in relationships, focusing on its origins from unexpressed needs and boundaries. It discusses unequal partnership efforts, societal expectations, and strategies for addressing and overcoming resentment through effective communication and self-care.

Apr 25, 2024 • 46min
Episode 153: The Secret Foreplay Technique You Don’t Even Know About
Delve into the world of all-day, non-sexual foreplay and the magic it can bring to your relationship. Explore chore play, the importance of communication, and enhancing intimacy through simple acts like hugging. Get practical tips for spicing up your sex life and creating deeper connections with your partner.

Apr 18, 2024 • 59min
Episode 152: Breaking Down A Text Fight
Explore the evolution of a text fight over facial hair, uncovering deeper issues of body confidence and broken trust. Gain communication tips from dissecting a couple's conflict. Learn about emotional support, relationship boundaries, and navigating misunderstandings in relationships.

Apr 11, 2024 • 53min
Episode 151: How To Get Your Partner To Open Up About Sex (Even If They’re Resistant)
Learn how to encourage your partner to open up about sex with creative strategies and intimate conversations. Explore the importance of communication in relationships, overcoming barriers like shame and fear, and using compliments to initiate discussions. Discover how discussing past experiences can enhance intimacy, and get insights from the 'Sex Talks' book on improving sexual communication.

Apr 4, 2024 • 1h 1min
Episode 150: Smash Or Pass? We Try The Wildest Sex Tips You’ve Ever Heard (Volume 3)
Exploring unconventional sex tips like using a glove, nose dive method, and the Countdown Method. The hosts share their live reactions and label some tips as 'hard pass'. Discussions on lubricated glove sensations, Dipsea app, Cozy Earth bedding, and humorous 'hamster thing' revelation.

Mar 28, 2024 • 45min
Episode 149: Partner Having Penis Performance Problems? Here’s What To Do - And What Not To Do
“This, uh, isn’t working…” Most of us have experienced a partner having some performance issues in the bedroom, and feeling wildly confused about what to do. How do you react? What do you say? And let’s be honest, most of us women take these moments personally. We get into our heads thinking things like, “Am I not attractive enough? Am I bad at sex??” Today we’re breaking down for you why penis performance issues happen, and how men need you to respond in those extra-sensitive moments. Xander is also helping us non-penis owners understand what’s really going on inside men’s heads, and the pressures men feel around sex. Links & Resources: Guide: Sexual Mastery Package (https://shop.vmtherapy.com/sexual-mastery-package/) If you enjoyed this episode, make sure to subscribe for your weekly double date full of totally doable sex tips, practical relationship advice, hilarious and honest stories of what really goes on behind closed bedroom doors and so much more. It's the sex education you wish you had! Go to Zocdoc.com/pillow (https://www.zocdoc.com/) and download the Zocdoc app to sign-up for FREE and book a top-rated doctor. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Mar 21, 2024 • 1h 3min
Episode 148: “Help Me See Where My Partner Is Coming From!” (Advice Episode)
Listen to this podcast for insights and tips on understanding your partner better, nurturing empathy in relationships, and navigating unmet expectations and sudden changes. Discover the importance of communication, curiosity, and finding mutual compromises to maintain harmony and connection in your relationship.

Mar 14, 2024 • 52min
Episode 147: Your Sexual Fantasies Revealed
Discover the secrets behind sexual fantasies, including unique phrases like 'twerp' and 'torp'. Explore the evolution and myths surrounding fantasies, challenging stereotypes and advocating for open exploration. Learn about diverse fantasies like exhibitionism and dominance scenarios, and get introduced to a sexual bucket list resource.