

Pillow Talks
Vanessa & Xander Marin
Meet Vanessa and Xander Marin, your new BFF couple friends! She’s a sex therapist with 20 years of experience and he’s a regular dude. Together they’re the shockingly open, slightly nerdy, and seriously funny couple you want to grab sushi with. They share the ups and downs in their relationship while giving you step-by-step techniques for improving yours. Subscribe for your weekly double date full of totally do-able sex tips, practical relationship advice, hilarious and honest stories of what really goes on behind closed bedroom doors, and so much more. It’s the sex education you WISH you’d had!
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Apr 18, 2024 • 59min
Episode 152: Breaking Down A Text Fight
Explore the evolution of a text fight over facial hair, uncovering deeper issues of body confidence and broken trust. Gain communication tips from dissecting a couple's conflict. Learn about emotional support, relationship boundaries, and navigating misunderstandings in relationships.

Apr 11, 2024 • 53min
Episode 151: How To Get Your Partner To Open Up About Sex (Even If They’re Resistant)
Learn how to encourage your partner to open up about sex with creative strategies and intimate conversations. Explore the importance of communication in relationships, overcoming barriers like shame and fear, and using compliments to initiate discussions. Discover how discussing past experiences can enhance intimacy, and get insights from the 'Sex Talks' book on improving sexual communication.

Apr 4, 2024 • 1h 1min
Episode 150: Smash Or Pass? We Try The Wildest Sex Tips You’ve Ever Heard (Volume 3)
Exploring unconventional sex tips like using a glove, nose dive method, and the Countdown Method. The hosts share their live reactions and label some tips as 'hard pass'. Discussions on lubricated glove sensations, Dipsea app, Cozy Earth bedding, and humorous 'hamster thing' revelation.

Mar 28, 2024 • 45min
Episode 149: Partner Having Penis Performance Problems? Here’s What To Do - And What Not To Do
“This, uh, isn’t working…” Most of us have experienced a partner having some performance issues in the bedroom, and feeling wildly confused about what to do. How do you react? What do you say? And let’s be honest, most of us women take these moments personally. We get into our heads thinking things like, “Am I not attractive enough? Am I bad at sex??” Today we’re breaking down for you why penis performance issues happen, and how men need you to respond in those extra-sensitive moments. Xander is also helping us non-penis owners understand what’s really going on inside men’s heads, and the pressures men feel around sex. Links & Resources: Guide: Sexual Mastery Package (https://shop.vmtherapy.com/sexual-mastery-package/) If you enjoyed this episode, make sure to subscribe for your weekly double date full of totally doable sex tips, practical relationship advice, hilarious and honest stories of what really goes on behind closed bedroom doors and so much more. It's the sex education you wish you had! Go to Zocdoc.com/pillow (https://www.zocdoc.com/) and download the Zocdoc app to sign-up for FREE and book a top-rated doctor.

Mar 21, 2024 • 1h 3min
Episode 148: “Help Me See Where My Partner Is Coming From!” (Advice Episode)
Listen to this podcast for insights and tips on understanding your partner better, nurturing empathy in relationships, and navigating unmet expectations and sudden changes. Discover the importance of communication, curiosity, and finding mutual compromises to maintain harmony and connection in your relationship.

Mar 14, 2024 • 52min
Episode 147: Your Sexual Fantasies Revealed
Discover the secrets behind sexual fantasies, including unique phrases like 'twerp' and 'torp'. Explore the evolution and myths surrounding fantasies, challenging stereotypes and advocating for open exploration. Learn about diverse fantasies like exhibitionism and dominance scenarios, and get introduced to a sexual bucket list resource.

Mar 7, 2024 • 1h 8min
Episode 146: Are You Nagging? Or Is Your Partner Being Childish?
75% of people say that nagging is an issue in their relationship. So we thought it was time we gave our take on this controversial topic. We’re talking about the differences between nagging, reminding, and micromanaging. When is it nagging versus your partner not carrying their share of the mental load? What do you do when you can’t trust your partner to get something done without nagging? We also got into a pretty vulnerable conversation about the role nagging has in our day-to-day relationship. Plus, we’re walking you through specific steps to help stop nagging because the reality is, no one likes to nag and no one likes to receive nagging… Links & Resources: Workbook: Mental Load Workbook (https://vmtherapy.thrivecart.com/mental-load-workbook/) If you enjoyed this episode, make sure to subscribe for your weekly double date full of totally doable sex tips, practical relationship advice, hilarious and honest stories of what really goes on behind closed bedroom doors and so much more. It's the sex education you wish you had! Get 15% off OneSkin with the code PILLOW at www.oneskin.co (https://www.oneskin.co/) Thanks Cozy Earth. CozyEarth.com (https://cozyearth.com/) and get 35% off when you use the code PILLOWTALKS

Feb 29, 2024 • 1h 5min
Episode 145: What Your Partner Secretly Wishes You’d Stop Doing In The Bedroom
Discover what partners wish you'd stop doing in the bedroom as anonymous responses reveal pet peeves and red flags. Learn about the importance of open communication, erogenous zones, clitoral stimulation preferences, and enhancing intimacy through clear communication.

Feb 22, 2024 • 1h 11min
Episode 144: We’re In Couples Therapy
Surprise! We’re in couples therapy. We sat down and recorded one of our most vulnerable episodes yet all about why we’re in therapy and how it’s going. We talked about what to look for in a potential therapist (and where to look) and gave some tips on how to ask your partner to go to therapy with you. We also got surprisingly deep about the resistance one of us had to going to therapy in the first place… Links & Resources:Visit our Homepage (https://vmtherapy.com/) If you enjoyed this episode, make sure to subscribe for your weekly double date full of totally doable sex tips, practical relationship advice, hilarious and honest stories of what really goes on behind closed bedroom doors and so much more. It's the sex education you wish you had! Thanks Dipsea. Get a 30 day free trial when you go to DipseaStories.com/pillow (https://www.dipseastories.com/pillow). Thanks Babbel. Visit Babbel.com/pillow (https://www.babbel.com/pillow) for 55% off your subscription.

Feb 15, 2024 • 1h 11min
Episode 143: The Body Confidence Episode - How To Feel Good In Your Skin During Sex
Explore the impact of negative body image on sex, including personal experiences and techniques for overcoming insecurities. Delve into the perception of penis size and the influence of societal pressure. Discover the relationship between body image and sexual desire, and the importance of verbalizing our body thoughts.


