Pillow Talks Episode 160: These 4 Communication Mistakes Cause Breakups
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Jun 13, 2024 Learn about the Four Horsemen of Communication and how they can predict relationship breakdowns with over 90% accuracy. Discover the detrimental effects of criticism, contempt, defensiveness, and stonewalling in relationships. Get tips on improving communication skills, addressing toxic behaviors, and taking breaks during conflicts to foster healthier relationships.
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Gottman's Four Horsemen Insight
- John Gottman discovered the Four Horsemen to predict divorce with over 90% accuracy.
- These behaviors strongly impact relationship survival from the first few conflict minutes.
Avoid Criticism With Early Complaints
- Avoid criticism by focusing on specific complaints instead of attacking character.
- Speak up early about issues to prevent criticisms from snowballing.
Anniversary Forgetting Example
- Forgetting an anniversary can lead to criticism if it attacks character.
- Complaining states feelings, while criticism generalizes to personality flaws.