Pillow Talks

Explore the thin line between defensiveness and self-defense in relationships. Listeners share relatable stories, from parenting challenges to minor household disputes, shedding light on misunderstandings. Discover practical tips for fostering empathy and clear communication, helping break the cycle of reacting defensively. Learn how to validate your partner's feelings without always agreeing. Plus, gain insights into enhancing emotional awareness and accountability to nurture deeper connections.

Dive into a riveting couples coaching session where a real couple tackles their intimate challenges head-on. They explore the complexities of mismatched sexual desires and the pressures of balancing work and family life. Communication barriers are examined, highlighting how to foster connection despite stress. Discover practical tips for breaking out of relationship ruts and enhancing intimacy with achievable steps. Tune in for this enlightening discussion and a special surprise announcement that wraps up their journey!

🎉 We made it to 200 episodes! 🎉It’s wild to think about how far this podcast has come. There’s one thing we know for sure… we couldn’t have come this far without YOU. That’s why for this very special episode, we decided to celebrate by letting you ask us……absolutely ANYTHING.And you didn’t disappoint.From personal confessions to relationship deep dives to behind-the-scenes business secrets, no topic was off-limits.Tune in for an unfiltered, hilarious, and heartfelt conversation where we tackle:💬 Personal Qs – Would Vanessa ever let Xander shave his beard?❤️ Relationship Qs – Are we still in couples therapy?💼 Business Qs – Have we ever recorded a podcast while totally annoyed with each other?And SO much more! Stick around to the end because we’re teasing something big we’ve been working on behind the scenes… you’re going to want to be on our email list for this one. 👀Links & Resources:🔑 Take The Intimacy Quiz: Your Key To Love That Lasts – Find out exactly what your relationship needs most right now and get personalized guidance to start making real changes today! 👉 https://vmtherapy.com/5keys🏆 March Matchups: The Ultimate Bedroom Bracket – Cast your votes as we put 8 bedroom positions head-to-head, and help us pick the winning position for a brand-new free step-by-step guide! Follow along on Instagram @vanessaandxander and make sure you’re on our email list to get the final results!Stay Connected:📩 Join our email list – Be the first to know about exclusive offers, new products, and exciting updates: https://vmtherapy.com/subscribe📲 Follow us on Instagram – @vanessaandxander for behind-the-scenes fun, Q&As, and more tips on love and intimacy.🎧 Subscribe & Review – New episodes drop every Thursday! Don’t forget to subscribe and leave us a review — it helps us keep creating content you love.==========================THANKS TO OUR SPONSORS ==========================👏 Thanks ZocDoc. Download the ZocDoc app to sign-up for FREE and book a top-rated doctor. ➡︎ https://zocdoc.com/pillow👏 Thanks Cure. Get 20% off your first order. Stay hydrated and feel your best! ➡︎ https://curehydration.com/PILLOW👏 Thanks Dipsea. Get a 30 day free trial ➡︎ https://dipseastories.com/pillow

We’re back with a fan-favorite series—Am I The Asshole? 🎉 You know we love diving into the wildest relationship dilemmas, and today’s lineup is extra spicy. We’re tackling situations that might hit way too close to home, like: 🚨 Masturbating - do you have to tell your partner every time? 🚨 Journaling about a past relationship—cheating or harmless? 🚨 Going through a partner’s phone (they found what?? 👀) 🚨 A partner picking up an annoying new voice… and refusing to drop it Sounds messy, right? We’re breaking it ALL down, sharing our takes on who’s the asshole, and of course—we want to hear yours too! Get ready to laugh, cringe, and maybe rethink your own opinions on these situations! 🎧 Want More AITA? If you love these episodes, don’t miss our past Am I The Asshole? deep dives: 🎧 EP 187, EP 155, EP 135, EP 125 📲 Stay Connected with Us! 💌 Join our email list for exclusive BTS + first access to everything we create 📸 Follow us on Instagram and tell us—who do YOU think is the asshole in these stories? 🎥 Subscribe on YouTube to watch this episode & more 💖 Links & Resources – Take Your Intimacy to the Next Level 💋 Give your partner the best foreplay they’ve ever had! → Ultimate Foreplay Guides Transform your sex life with expert-backed techniques designed to maximize pleasure for both of you. 📖 Want to talk about sex in a way that actually works? → Sex Talks: The NYT Best-Selling Book Discover the 5 key conversations that will unlock deeper connection, better communication, and hotter intimacy in your relationship. Which one are you diving into first? Let us know! 💬 ========================== THANKS TO OUR SPONSORS ========================== 👏 Thanks OneSkin. Get started today with 15% off using code **PILLOW** ➡︎ https://oneskin.co. 👏 Thanks Hungryroot. Get 40% off your first box and a free item of your choice for life ➡︎ https://hungryroot.com/pillow 👏 Thanks Blissy. Get better sleep, hair, and skin with Blissy. Get an additional 30% off ➡︎ https://blissy.com/PILLOWPOD. 👏 Thanks Beam. Get up to 40% off for a limited time when you go to ➡︎ https://shopbeam.com/PILLOW.

Initiating sex should be exciting, yet many couples struggle with it. Common issues include one partner always taking the lead and awkward, lazy attempts to connect. The need for proper timing and clear communication is emphasized to enhance intimacy. The podcast discusses overcoming societal expectations and personal challenges, including menopause. It offers creative strategies to make initiation more inviting and enjoyable, while emphasizing mutual respect and understanding each other's boundaries in relationships.

Ever wondered how to manage mismatched libidos? Discover tips for addressing sexual frustration and navigating sensitive topics like the 'death grip' in a fun and informative way. Learn about intriguing phenomena like sexsomnia and its impact on relationships. The hosts share advice on balancing chores with intimacy, highlighting the importance of open communication. Plus, embrace the imperfections of sexual experiences while fostering deeper connections with practical insights that ensure your love life stays vibrant.

Dive into a playful and enlightening discussion about spicing up your love life! Explore 90 engaging prompts designed to enhance intimacy and communication with your partner. Discover why open conversations about sex can lead to a better connection and hear real listener tales that spark laughter and blushes. The hosts passionately share their own candid answers, all while introducing an innovative card deck to make these interactions fun and less awkward. Get ready to transform your relationship one prompt at a time!

Discover the empowering secrets of the Cowgirl position, as experts unravel its pleasure potential and tackle common insecurities. Learn how to move confidently and outlast discomfort with practical tips. Fun variations like Captain Morgan Cowgirl add excitement to the mix! Dive into discussions about body image, communication in relationships, and how to embrace your own pleasure. Transform self-conscious moments into confident connections while mastering the art of intimacy. Get ready to feel like a total badass in the bedroom!

Ever wondered what your partner secretly wishes you'd stop doing in the bedroom? This discussion dives into common complaints, from communication blunders to awkward initiation attempts. Surprising grievances about kissing and aftercare surface, along with practical tips for improvement. The hosts emphasize the importance of open dialogue, exploring how clear communication can enhance intimacy and satisfy both partners. Humor and personal anecdotes add a light touch, making it relatable and informative!

Ever wondered what lurks behind spicy social media comments? The hosts explore the challenges of online feedback and the need for deeper conversations. They tackle spicy topics like quickie intimacy, communication, and consent, all while addressing societal taboos surrounding sexual discussions. From navigating fantasies to prioritizing intimacy in relationships, this episode is packed with insights to help build stronger connections. Plus, tips for busy parents to keep romance alive amidst the chaos!