Language of Love with Dr. Laura Berman

We hear so much about low libido, but what about the women who feel alive with desire, who crave connection and intimacy, and don’t always know where to put all that energy? If that’s you, I see you. If you love a woman like that, listen closely. In this Language of Love Bite, I dive into what high desire women secretly wish their partners knew. You’re not too much. You’re not too needy. Your sensuality is sacred and it deserves to be honored, not dimmed. I share five powerful truths that can shift how we understand desire, along with a beautiful, simple 5-minute eye-gazing ritual to help you reconnect without pressure, agenda, or words. Just presence. Just being seen. I talk about: Why desire isn’t just physical: it’s energetic and emotional How initiating sex is often a bid for closeness, not control The heartbreak of dimming yourself to make others comfortable Why presence matters more than performance in bed How your desire, fully expressed, becomes a gift to the relationship   Whether you’re a high-desire woman or you love one, this episode is here to remind you: Your sensual energy isn’t something to fix. It’s a power to honor. If you’re craving tools that blend intimacy, healing, and pleasure, grab Sex Magic, because true connection begins when we stop performing and start seeing each other, soul to soul. And don’t forget to visit my website to explore 7 Days to Better Sex, a transformational program designed to put you in the driver’s seat of your sex life, actively creating the passion you crave and deserve. Because this isn’t about fixing yourself… it’s about reclaiming your power. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Have you ever lost someone you love and found yourself wondering… where did they go? Are they still near? Can they feel me? In this episode of Language of Love Conversations, I’m joined by Anita Moorjani. A bestselling author and globally respected speaker, Anita has been a guiding light for me and for many who have walked through grief. When I lost my mother 12 years ago, her book Dying to Be Me helped me feel less alone and more connected to something beyond this life. Anita’s story is nothing short of miraculous. After a four-year battle with cancer, her body shut down completely. Doctors declared she wouldn’t make it. But during a 30-hour near-death experience, Anita crossed over into what she describes as the most loving, peaceful, and joy-filled space imaginable. There was no pain. No fear. Just pure freedom. And yet, she could still feel her family’s sorrow. She wanted so badly to comfort them, to let them know she was okay. She was in a much better place now, but had no body, no words. What she experienced during that time challenged everything she’d ever believed. In this episode, Anita opens up about what she saw on the other side and how even the soul of her estranged father met her in love. What she learned changed her life. It just might change yours, too. We talk about: Anita’s experience with cancer, death, and healing What she learned about love, forgiveness, and who we really are How your loved ones keep supporting you after they’re gone Why you don’t have to keep grieving to show your love, and how healing helps you and them How her father’s spirit helped her live without fear Ways you can raise your energy to connect with those who have passed What spirit looks like, if it has a body, and if it changes over time How her healing affected the doctors and medical staff Advice for those who lost a partner and wonder if it’s okay to love again What instant manifestation looks like after death Why some disturbing dreams aren’t messages from loved ones, and how real messages come through Anita’s thoughts on reincarnation and soul plans and the 360-degree tapestry of life The three main truths she learned on the other side Why life can feel like a video game with more going on behind the scenes If Anita’s story speaks to you, you can read her  book Dying to Be Me. or visit her website.  You can also find her on LinkedIn and YouTube. There’s a Sedona retreat coming soon for those interested. If you’re grieving, you don’t have to go through it alone. Check out the Good Grief Course on my website for support and guidance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What do same-sex fantasies really mean? You’re in a loving, heterosexual relationship. You feel close to your partner—emotionally and physically. And yet… your imagination is taking you somewhere unexpected. Somewhere that involves desire, intimacy, and sex—with the same gender. In this episode of Language of Love Session, we dive into this very experience through Chelsea’s story. She’s been with her male partner for years. Their bond is strong. The love is real. But lately, her mind has been drifting. Recurring sexual fantasies about women have started popping up—quietly, insistently, and powerfully. She hasn’t acted on them. She doesn’t want to end her relationship. But she can’t help but wonder: “Does this mean I’m gay or bi? Or are same-sex fantasies just… fantasies?” This session unpacks what fantasies are really about—why they don’t always match our lived desires, and how you can explore them without fear or shame. You don’t need a label to ask the question. You’re allowed to be curious. If you’ve ever wondered what your fantasies might mean—or if they mean anything at all—this one’s for you. We explore: Why same-sex fantasies are far more common than you think (especially for women) What the Kinsey Scale can teach you about the fluidity of sexual desire How to separate fantasy from identity—and why they don’t always need to match Why you don’t have to act on a fantasy for it to be meaningful, fun, or real The difference between curiosity, confusion, and true longing And if you’re exploring new territory in your mind or your relationship, I’d love to hear from you. Email me at languageoflovepod@gmail.com—your story could help someone else feel more seen.  Visit my website or dive into my latest book, Sex Magic, for a transformative look at pleasure and self-discovery. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

You know that weird knot in your stomach when your partner doesn’t text back? Or that moment when, after an argument, you just totally shut down? What if I told you those little patterns don’t just mess with your relationship—they sneak into your sex life too? In this Language of Love Bite, we’re getting real about something we all bring to the bedroom but almost never talk about: your attachment style. I’m talking about how the way you love is literally the way you touch. Whether you’re anxious, avoidant, secure, or somewhere in between, those patterns show up in bed—and not always in ways you expect. This isn’t about slapping a label on you. It’s about freeing you. Because once you get what’s really going on, you can change the script—and finally experience the kind of intimacy your body and heart have been starving for. Here’s what  uncover together: Why anxious attachment can make sex feel like a test you’re scared to fail—and why rejection hits like a gut punch. Why avoidant attachment might have you pulling away from closeness, even when you’re totally turned on. How disorganized attachment turns desire into a confusing, scary mix—often tied to old wounds you didn’t even realize were still there. What secure attachment really feels like—being safe, present, and emotionally connected during sex. And the one powerful question that reveals your true sexual attachment needs—and opens the door to healing Whether you're over-giving in bed, emotionally checking out, or somewhere in the middle, this episode offers a mirror—and a map. Your patterns aren’t permanent. With awareness, your attachment style can evolve. And sex? It can become a space of deep healing, not just habit. Want to go deeper? Grab my book Sex Magic for body-based tools that rebuild trust, safety, and sacred connection. Feeling seen by this episode? Share your story: Email languageoflovepod@gmail.com Because how you love… is how you touch. And you deserve to feel safe enough to surrender. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The truth is, death doesn’t sever bonds. Love doesn’t end with a last breath. And if you’ve ever longed for one more moment, one more word, one more chance to say I love you… This might change everything.  In this powerful episode, I sit down with my dear friend Rebecca Rosen, a celebrated evidential medium and soul guide, for a live, unfiltered session that bridges worlds. Together, we explore how grief, while devastating, can also become a doorway, not just to healing, but to a connection far deeper and more enduring than you ever thought possible. Like so many of you, I’ve wrestled with the ache of loss, and I’ve also seen how that ache cracks us wide open to experiences that defy logic but speak straight to the soul. The truth is, our loved ones aren’t gone. They’re speaking… just in a different language. And once you learn how to hear them, you’ll realize they’ve been with you all along.  We dive into: Why mediumship isn’t reserved for a “special few,” and that we all have the gift of intuition How grief, trauma, and even daily stress can block your ability to connect—and how to shift it The difference between the 3D, 4D, and 5D realms (and how to access higher guidance) What the Akashic Records are and how they can reveal messages from your soul family How to spot signs from your loved ones and strengthen your trust in their presence Simple practices to raise your vibration, heal energetically, and create "heaven on earth" The truth about soul contracts, soul groups, and why even loss can serve your spiritual growth If you’ve ever doubted the whispers of your heart, this conversation will awaken you to a love that never dies. Press play. Open your mind. And prepare to meet them again, for the first time. P.S. Don’t miss Rebecca’s What’s Your Heaven?—a breathtaking guide to finding peace now, not just in the afterlife. Visit her website or Instagram for more inspiring resources. Your story matters. Have you received a sign? A dream? A message you can’t explain? Email me at languageoflovepod@gmail.com—your experience could be the proof someone else needs to believe.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Does your partner feel more like a roommate than a lover lately? You’re definitely not alone—and you’re not wrong for wanting more. In this Language of Love Session, I help Shauna, who’s been with her partner for three years. She misses the early days—the surprise love notes, spontaneous date nights, the simple act of hand-holding. Now? It feels like they’re stuck in a routine, more like roommates navigating a to-do list than lovers sharing a life. She’s tried dropping hints, even having honest conversations, but nothing seems to shift. Her question: How do I ask for more romance without making him feel like he’s failing? Together, we dig into why passion so often fades in long-term relationships—and how to revive that spark with intention, not pressure. You’ll learn: Why the “infatuation phase” ends—and what comes next in a healthy love story The sex-romance stalemate: what it is and how it silently sabotages connection How to give your partner a roadmap to romance (without it feeling like a chore) Why men and women often feel loved in very different ways—and how to bridge the gap How emotional and physical intimacy feed each other in a lasting relationship What role sexual availability plays in inspiring affection—and how to talk about it The subtle ways your own behavior might be discouraging romance (and how to shift it) When to seek couples therapy—and why it’s not just for marriages in crisis Plus, I share a simple, powerful communication strategy that invites your partner into deeper connection—without shame, blame, or ultimatums. If you feel stuck in a routine that no longer feels like love, this episode is your invitation to begin again. Have a question about your own love life? Email me at languageoflovepod@gmail.com to be featured in a future episode—or even join me live on the show. Looking for tools to deepen your connection and reignite your passion? Head over to my website for expert-backed resources designed to help you heal, grow, and thrive in your relationships. Explore my 7 Days to Better Sex program and take my free quiz to discover what you truly want in love. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

You just had sex… and now you feel worse." The bodies were close, the chemistry was there, maybe even fireworks. But now you're lying there, staring at the ceiling, wondering why do I feel so damn empty? Maybe there was  no emotional spark, just physical contact—and now you're caught in the afterglow of regret. You’re not broken. You’re not alone. And no, you’re not crazy for wanting more than just skin-on-skin. In this episode of Language of Love Bite, we’re talking about lonely sex—why it happens, how to spot it, and how one honest sentence can shift everything. It’s raw. It’s real. And it might just save your next connection from becoming another ghost in your bed. We're going deep on: Why sex doesn’t automatically equal intimacy – How physical closeness can still leave you feeling disconnected    The “maintenance sex” trap – When sex becomes transactional (and why quickies aren’t the problem)   Why emotional foreplay matters – Especially for those with responsive desire or “feminine” energy    How past trauma or dissociation can creep into the bedroom – Leaving you feeling alone even when you’re not    The one sentence that can transform your connection – A simple invitation to bring hearts (not just bodies) closer   Feeling disconnected even in a sexually active relationship? You’re not the only one.  Share your story: Email languageoflovepod@gmail.com—your experience could help someone else feel less alone. Craving a deeper connection? Grab my book Sex Magic for tools on sacred intimacy. Because you deserve sex that makes you feel whole—not hollow. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What happens when the worst thing you can imagine… actually happens? When Larry Carlat’s son, Rob, died by suicide, it shattered his world. Yet from that profound heartbreak emerged something unexpected: deep connection, renewed purpose, and a love more powerful than he ever imagined possible. In this raw and deeply moving Language of Love Conversation, I sit down with Larry Carlat—writer, father, and an unexpected guide through grief. His book, A Space in the Heart: A Survival Guide for Grieving Parents, weaves memoir with grounded wisdom, offering solace not just for bereaved parents, but for anyone navigating the loss of a loved one. But Larry isn't your typical grief expert. He didn't seek out groups. Spirituality wasn't his starting point. He wasn't even sure he believed in an afterlife—until grief cracked him wide open, leading to an extraordinary journey. Together, we explore: Losing his son Rob—and the love that outlived him How Larry went from a “lone wolf” to grief coach, group leader, and friend to fellow grievers The healing magic of community, even for guys who never thought they’d talk about their feelings Psychedelic journeys and psychic mediums—how Larry reconnected with Rob on the other side Why grief is one of the most potent paths to spiritual awakening What men need (but rarely ask for) when they’re in pain—and how Larry is creating safe spaces for them to cry, connect, and heal The truth about guilt, shame, and the choice to live again—even after unimaginable loss Larry’s story is a vital reminder: we don’t have to "move on" to move forward. Joy and sorrow can coexist. If you’re grieving or supporting someone who is, this conversation offers a beacon of hope and understanding. If this episode speaks to your heart, there’s more support waiting for you. A Space in the Heart: A Survival Guide for Grieving Parents is a powerful read for anyone navigating the impossible. For men navigating grief, check out Larry’s work at griefforguys.com or reach him at lcarlat@gmail.com. Curious about connecting beyond loss? The Grief Healing Collective offers live sessions, resources, and community. Start with my Good Grief Course for practical tools. If you’ve felt your loved one close or want to, this episode is for you. Share your story: languageoflovepod@gmail.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Are you looking for more ways to spice things up in the bedroom? We’ve all heard the usual—lingerie, toys, candlelit date nights, maybe even a threesome. But have you ever wondered if the real magic has been there all along, just waiting for you to try? What if feeling more, instead of doing more, is what really lights the fire? Curious to find out?  In this special Language of Love Bite, I dive into something that’s not just my newest obsession—it’s the subject of my brand-new book: Sex Magic. The truth is, the pandemic—and everything that came after it—opened my eyes. I started seeing more and more people, whether in monogamous or non-monogamous relationships, desperately looking for ways to spice things up. And while the desire was valid, the strategies? Often risky. I heard from couples exploring threesomes, opening their relationships, chasing novelty in ways that were threatening the very foundations of their connection. But what if I told you that there are powerful, beautiful, time-tested ways to bring that spark back—and they’ve been around for thousands of years? That’s where Sex Magic comes in. In this episode, I share: Why traditional advice on “spicing it up” only goes so far What the ancient traditions of Tantra, Taoism, and Kundalini can teach us about modern intimacy How to move sexual energy through your whole body—and even beyond A ritual you can use to manifest your desires during orgasm (yes, really) How sex magic can create emotional intimacy, spiritual connection, and even…miracles Whether you're solo or partnered, curious or all-in, this episode is your invitation to explore a whole new dimension of pleasure, connection, and personal power. Want to take it further? When you grab your copy of Sex Magic, you’ll also receive bonus tools: My Quantum Sex web course A beautiful Sex Magic Ritual Journal A live initiation replay to help you get started Visit drlauraberman.com/sexmagic to learn more.  And if you try these practices or manifest something juicy, I want to hear from you! Email me at languageoflovepod@gmail.com—your story might inspire someone else to claim their magic. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Have you ever looked across the room at your partner and thought, “When did we become roommates instead of lovers?” Maybe you’re still affectionate, still loving—but the sexual connection? Practically nonexistent. If that sounds familiar, you’re not alone. In fact, nearly 1 in 5 marriages are considered “sexless,” but that doesn’t mean your spark is gone for good. In this Language of Love Bite, we’re diving deep into the real reasons couples stop being intimate—and exactly how to rebuild your sex life step-by-step, even if it’s been months (or years). By the end of this episode, you’ll know exactly what to say to your partner—and how to start feeling sexy together again. In this episode, we’re breaking down: The top 3 culprits behind sexless relationships (it’s not just stress!) Why emotional safety is the real aphrodisiac The exact words to use when you want to bring up the lack of sex—without it getting awkward The sensual (not sexual) ritual that jumpstarts physical intimacy without pressure A proven sex therapy technique called sensate focus that helps you reawaken desire The gentle roadmap from no sex… to next-level pleasure If conversations feel too loaded, find a certified sex therapist via AASECT. Don’t miss out on 7 Days to Better Sex —a game-changing guide designed to bring more passion and connection into your relationship. Plus, take my  Free  quiz to discover new ways to strengthen your bond and take your relationship to the next level. And be sure to check out my newest  book, Sex Magic, to take your sex life to an entirely new level.  You can also check my video  on Rebuilding Connection in Relationships Have a love language success story or a challenge you’re facing? I’d love to hear from you! Email me at languageoflovepod@gmail.com —your story might just inspire others in a future episode. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices