You Are Not A Frog

Making the right decision can feel tricky, especially when they involve important life transitions. But there's a way out, and it starts with asking ourselves some fundamental questions around why we want what we want, and what we truly hope to gain when we get it.Download the episode’s podsheet. You can use it for reflection and to submit for your appraisal as part of your CPD.Download your free Overwhelm SOS guideJoin the You Are Not a Frog Facebook groupThe Mole and the Mountain: A little book about finding freedom – Jane’s bookHow to Stop Making Decisions Based on Fear – Episode 162 with Henri StevensonHow to Get Moving Again When You Feel Stuck – Episode 207 with Nicola Rylett-JonesMentioned in this episode:FrogFest Virtual –  How to Be a Boundary Hunter Join us on November 25th. Ticket included with FrogXtra Gold membership.

If you're questioning whether a job or a relationship is right for you, it's worth exploring further, and taking those thoughts seriously. Remember that change is often a sign of growth, not failure. So focus on the potential positives that can arise from change, rather than asking “what if it doesn’t work?”Download your free Overwhelm SOS guideHow to Ditch the Saviour Complex and Feel More Alive – Episode 88, with Rob BellHow to Decide if You Need to Stay or Leave a Difficult Situation – Episode 201, with Corrina Gordon-BarnesHow to Live With No Regrets – Episode 123, with Georgina ScullFinding Your North Star – Episode 208Download the episode’s podsheet. You can use it for reflection and to submit for your appraisal as part of your CPD.Join the You Are Not a Frog Facebook groupMentioned in this episode:FrogFest Virtual –  How to Be a Boundary Hunter Join us on November 25th. Ticket included with FrogXtra Gold membership.

It’s easy to to find ourselves thinking that money holds the key to our happiness, security, and freedom. We can project our desires and aversions onto money, believing that once we have “enough”, we can finally get the life we want. But thinking like this often keeps us from truly living our lives; instead we're stuck constantly chasing the next thing.⭐️ Work Well Webinars Money is a story we create, not something with inherent power. It's a piece of paper; a digit in a computer we assign value to. But by disentangling our sense of self from our relationship with money, we can reclaim our personal agency and free up a lot of creative energy.Even while recognising that everyone’s financial situations are different, dysfunctional money stories lead to a constant need to chase, where we're forever stuck in a loop of wanting more but never feeling satisfied. But by untangling our sense of self-worth from our financial status, we can start to experience a life that flows more naturally, with and without the constraint of money.🤔 Take Our Quiz & Get a Personalised Episode Playlist Listen to this episode toLearn how our narratives about money can influence our actions and happiness, and how changing these narratives can free up creative energy.Understand how to disentangle our sense of self from our relationship with money, leading to a life that flows more naturally.Discover how acknowledging that money has no inherent power can shift our perspectives and affect our personal and professional development.Episode highlights[00:02:57] Our response to money[00:05:47] Money stories on a global level[00:09:25] Our individual money stories[00:13:20] The "lack-of-funding" problem within the NHS[00:16:29] The "time is money" story[00:19:31] Excavating your own money stories[00:21:52] Projections of money meaning[00:25:22] Selfishness and self-image[00:31:53] Healing unhelpful money stories[00:34:22] Tackling our projections head-on[00:43:25] Dealing with money conflicts[00:48:02] Money as an expression of appreciation[00:51:20] Every big change begins with a big lie[00:54:57] Agnes' top tipsAbout the guestAgnes Otzelberger is a trainer and therapist, working people who feel burnt out and stuck. She’s particularly interested in the relationship people have with money and how it affects their sense of self, their relationships with others, and their impact on the world. Agnes helps people untangle their sense of self from their relationship with money and break down unhelpful money narratives.Website LinkedIn | FacebookResourcesWatch the video version on YouTubeHow to Stop Your Finances Controlling Your Career – Episode 142, with Dr Tommy PerkinsDefining Your Own Success in Life – Episode 107, with Dr Claire KayeDownload the episode’s podsheet. You can use it for reflection and to submit for your appraisal as part of your CPD.Agnes’ CU*money courseJoin the You Are Not a Frog Facebook groupEnjoyed this episode?Write a review and share this with your friends.Connect with RachelHave any questions? Contact Rachel through these platforms:LinkedIn: @Dr-Rachel-MorrisTwitter: @DrRachelMorrisEmail: hello@youarenotafrog.comFind out more about our trainingMentioned in this episode:FrogFest Virtual –  How to Be a Boundary Hunter Join us on November 25th. Ticket included with FrogXtra Gold membership.

What happens when we're not feeling well, or when we're feeling overwhelmed at work? Often, we turn to our colleagues for support. But what happens when that support doesn't come, or it's not as helpful as we’d hoped?🛟 Download your free Overwhelm SOS guideWhen we're all in the same boat, it's tricky to get a different perspective. Even well-meaning advice from a colleague can feel misplaced or missing the mark, as it’s shaped by their own experiences and limitations. This can leave us feeling resentful and even more stressed than before.⭐️ Work Well Webinars We need to look outside our immediate work environment, to seek out "useless friends”, understand why we're asking for advice and be clear about what we hope to gain from itIn this quick dip episode, Rachel lays out where to seek help when we’re stressed, and some pitfalls to watch out for.Our colleagues – even the most supportive ones – mean well. But often, so do those who aren’t in a position to help. So we need to make sure to get an outside perspective so we don’t become resentful or frustrated, and damage our work relationships.🤔 Take Our Quiz & Get a Personalised Episode Playlist Listen to this episode toHandle disappointment if colleagues aren’t able to support youFind friends who can give you an unbiased perspectivePinpoint your needs, set clear expectations, and avoid the pitfalls of short-term solutionsEpisode highlights[00:02:01] What we expect of our colleagues[00:04:50] Our colleagues are human[00:11:38] You're all in the same boat[00:14:24] Knowing what you want[00:17:45] Our colleagues' hidden agendas[00:18:56] Being demanding and entitled[00:19:57] Continuing down the wrong pathResourcesTHRIVE Weekly PlannerWatch the video version on YouTubeDownload your free Overwhelm SOS guideFinding Your North Star – Episode 208Why You Should Expect Pushback and What to do About it – Episode 177Very Nice People and Other Deadly Perils –Episode 56Download the episode’s podsheet. You can use it for reflection and to submit for your appraisal as part of your CPD.Enjoyed this episode?Write a review and share this with your friends.Connect with RachelHave any questions? Contact Rachel through these platforms:LinkedIn: @Dr-Rachel-MorrisTwitter: @DrRachelMorrisEmail: hello@youarenotafrog.comFind out more about our trainingMentioned in this episode:FrogFest Virtual –  How to Be a Boundary Hunter Join us on November 25th. Ticket included with FrogXtra Gold membership.

Women in medicine are often undervalued and taken less seriously than their male counterparts. They’re also made to feel less safe at work, and encounter pushback when they make a complaint.This week’s guest is Professor Dame Jane Dacre, and the episode is recorded in partnership with the Physician Mums Facebook Group (PMGUK). In her discussion with Rachel, Dame Jane lays out what needs to change at structural and interpersonal levels.She invites members of the industry to shine a light on inappropriate behaviour and develop a zero-tolerance approach towards sexism and misconduct. She also describes ways in which leadership courses, mentoring, and resources can be provided to empower women to advance in their careers. And she encourages men and women to be allies, speak up against inequality, and support each other in challenging situations.This discussion follows up on the 2020 report into the gender pay gap chaired by Dame Jane, and while progress is happening, women are still undervalued and face barriers to success. But by raising awareness about the gaps in pay and authority, we can create an environment where everyone is valued and has equal opportunities to thrive.⭐️ Work Well Webinars Listen to this episode toLearn about the efforts being made to address the gender pay gap in medicine and the progress that has been made so farUnderstand the concept of the authority gap and its impact on women in various fieldsGain insights into the importance of supporting and empowering women in the workplace and taking collective action to challenge cultural norms and inequalitiesEpisode highlights[00:05:23] Follow-up on the gender pay gap report[00:08:12] Addressing sexual misconduct in medicine[00:09:56] Expectations of women in medicine[00:14:17] The authority gap[00:16:33] Finding allies[00:20:42] Systemic failures leading to women not being heard[00:24:08] Everyday misconduct[00:26:27] Jane's story[00:30:07] The benefits of a non-linear career[00:37:09] The importance of authenticity and kindness[00:37:51] Sponsorship over mentoring[00:38:35] Maternal guilt[00:42:28] A letter to Jane's younger selfAbout the guestProfessor Dame Jane Dacre is an Emeritus Professor of Medical Education at UCL. She supports women in the medical workplace, and is actively involved in addressing the gender pay gap in medicine. She works with organisations like the Department of Health, the NHS, and the British Medical Association to narrow the gap, and runs a course to help future women leaders develop their skills.LinkedIn | TwitterResourcesTHRIVE Weekly PlannerJoin the Physician Mums Facebook Group (PMGUK)More episodes of You Are Not a Frog:How to Be a Professional Woman – Episode 41 with Dame Jane DacreThe Glass Slipper and Other Challenges for Women in Medicine – Episode 158, with Professor Chloe Orkin and Dr Nuthana BhayankaramHow to Be a (Happy) Working Parent – Episode 121 with Corrina Gordon BarnesDownload the episode’s workbook and CPD form. You can use them for reflection and to submit for your appraisal.Medical Women Talking – Jane’s podcastEnjoyed this episode?Write a review and share this with your friends.Connect with RachelHave any questions? Contact Rachel through these platforms:LinkedIn: @Dr-Rachel-MorrisTwitter: @DrRachelMorrisEmail: hello@youarenotafrog.comFind out more about our training

Saying what you really feel – especially in a high-stress job – is no easy task. Crucial conversations are often avoided for fear of damaging relationships. These unaired grievances get bottled up and over time can increase our level of stress.⭐️ Work Well Webinars But there are three core conditions for effective conversation that can help here: empathy (stepping into someone else’s shoes), unconditional respect (accepting the other’s right to be as they are), and congruence (expressing our thoughts and feelings authentically).Sadly, ignoring a problem with another person – or avoiding giving negative feedback – won't make them go away. On the contrary, too many important things going unsaid can lead to a toxic environment where stress levels rise, relationships break down, and productivity suffers.But, by stepping into the other party’s shoes, respecting their right to be as they are, and expressing our own thoughts authentically, we can create a more psychologically safe environment where issues are dealt with respectfully.🤔 Take Our Quiz & Get a Personalised Episode Playlist Listen to this episode toLearn about the three core conditions for effective conversationUnderstand how balancing these conditions can improve communication and lead to healthier relationshipsDiscover strategies to identify and address conversations you've been avoiding, reducing stress and unresolved conflictsEpisode highlights[00:03:50] Where people struggle to say what they mean[00:04:44] Bringing your whole self to work[00:08:59] The 3 core conditions for being with people[00:17:56] What to do if you're stuck in a "must-win" mindset[00:22:10] Saying what you really mean[00:27:27] Identifying your emotions[00:31:01] When to ask for help[00:34:20] How to give difficult feedback[00:39:42] How to take difficult feedback[00:43:54] When tricky feedback situations become unpleasant[00:48:53] Lasy's top tipsAbout the guestLasy encourages people to bring their authentic selves to work, promoting a healthier and more honest work environment. She co-founded Conscious Business People to advocate for bringing our entire personality to come to work, over surface-level perks like dress-down Fridays. Her mission is to make people see work as part of their life and to enhance authenticity in the workplace.Website | LinkedInResourcesTHRIVE Weekly PlannerWatch the video version on YouTubeMore episodes of You Are Not a Frog:How to Get Moving Again When You Feel Stuck – Episode 207 with Nicola Rylett-JonesHow to Challenge Upsetting Behaviour – Episode 192 with Dr Chris TurnerWhat Happens When We’re Really Listened to – Episode 180 with Tom DillonDownload the episode’s podsheet. You can use it for reflection and to submit for your appraisal as part of your CPD.Mentioned in this episode:FrogFest Virtual –  How to Be a Boundary Hunter Join us on November 25th. Ticket included with FrogXtra Gold membership.

We often set goals in the belief they’ll make us happier. But setting goals alone might not be enough to truly help us thrive.In this quick dip, Rachel discusses why that’s the case, and offers a different approach to finding satisfaction and success.⭐️ Work Well Webinars It all begins with a shift in focus from goals to desires. Instead of starting with specific goals, we should first identify what we truly desire and what our basic needs are. This helps us align our actions and routines with what truly matters to us.Life’s too short to not love what you do, and vice versa. So it’s time to look at our own desires and needs, ask “What truly matters to me?”, and determine whether they’re aligned. Doing this will move you closer to a more fulfilling and satisfying life.🤔 Take Our Quiz & Get a Personalised Episode Playlist Listen to this episode toStop starting with goals and focus on your desires and needsLearn about the four elements of your North Star and how they can guide youUnderstand the problem with outcome-based goals and why process goals are more effectiveEpisode highlights[00:01:31] Stop starting with goals[00:03:27] The four elements of your North Star[00:05:13] Figure out your "why"[00:06:01] Making space for your needs[00:08:30] THRIVE Week Planner[00:13:09] The problem with outcome-based goalsResourcesTHRIVE Weekly PlannerWatch the video version on YouTubeMore episodes of You Are Not a Frog:Life’s Too Short NOT to Love What You Do – Episode 209Finding Your North Star – Episode 208Download the episode’s podsheet. You can use it for reflection and to submit for your appraisal as part of your CPD.Enjoyed this episode?Write a review and share this with your friends.Connect with RachelHave any questions? Contact Rachel through these platforms:LinkedIn: @Dr-Rachel-MorrisTwitter: @DrRachelMorrisEmail: hello@youarenotafrog.comFind out more about our trainingMentioned in this episode:FrogFest Virtual –  How to Be a Boundary Hunter Join us on November 25th. Ticket included with FrogXtra Gold membership.

There are times working in medicine or other high-stress jobs, when you feel trapped and unhappy. And maybe you’ve told yourself you have no other option but to stay put. These “shoulds” can come from societal expectations or the idea that you’ve put so much into your job already that it would be silly – or even irresponsible – to quit now.⭐️ Work Well Webinars These myths and pressures keep us feeling stuck, and prevent us from exploring alternative possibilities within or outside of our current field.This week, Rachel is joined by Dr Sarah Goulding, who breaks open those myths, and shows how we can uncover new possibilities. It all starts by recognising we’re not defined solely by our roles, and embracing the idea that it's okay to change and to pursue work that aligns with our strengths and passions.Sarah also has a set of self-coaching questions that can help us discover what we’re going to do with our “one wild and precious life”.Listen to this episode toDiscover how to find a way of working that doesn't harm your well-being and allows you to be passionate and energetic in and out of workExplore the myths and societal pressures that keep us feeling trapped in our current careers and learn how to break free from themGain valuable insights into the importance of reflecting on your skills and experiences to uncover new career possibilities within or outside of medicineEpisode highlights[00:03:17] The job-for-life fallacy[00:07:53] Toxic expectations of gratitude[00:09:57] Availability bias and the sunk cost fallacy[00:15:41] Reinventing yourself[00:18:05] When's the right time to make a change?[00:20:55] Satisfaction outside of work[00:21:20] Your one wild and precious life[00:26:14] 2,000 weeks left[00:27:46] Taking imperfect action[00:31:16] Career crafting[00:33:26] Self-coaching questions[00:38:42] Crafting your joyful career path[00:45:36] The "I will be happy when..." myth[00:47:10] Sarah's top tipsAbout the guestSarah is a Career Coach for Doctors, passionate about the power of finding your place to thrive. She has 7 jobs, including GP; educator; mentor; and Head of Development at the Joyful Doctor.Website | Instagram | LinkedInResourcesTHRIVE Weekly PlannerWatch the video version on YouTubeWhy We’re Ditching the Term ‘Imposter Syndrome’ – Episode 112, with Dr Sarah GouldingFinding Your North Star – Episode 208Bringing Your Best Self to Work – Episode 67, with Dr Sarah GouldingDownload the episode’s podsheet. You can use it for reflection and to submit for your appraisal as part of your CPD.Enjoyed this episode?Write a review and share this with your friends.Connect with RachelHave any questions? Contact Rachel through these platforms:LinkedIn: @Dr-Rachel-MorrisTwitter: @DrRachelMorrisEmail: hello@youarenotafrog.comFind out more about our trainingMentioned in this episode:FrogFest Virtual –  How to Be a Boundary Hunter Join us on November 25th. Ticket included with FrogXtra Gold membership.

We’re all seeking the perfect job or career path that will bring us happiness and fulfilment. But while we’re focused on achieving success, we can overlook the bigger stuff – and it’s possible that our current career trajectory might not take us there.That’s why we need to find and then follow our North Star. Finding it starts with prioritising four fundamental needs: feeling fully human, deep connections, meaning and purpose, and growth and learning. By aligning our goals with these needs, we can find true fulfilment.⭐️ Book Your FrogFest Ticket Now In this quick dip episode, Rachel outlines how we can understand what makes us feel alive, cultivate meaningful relationships and activities, and embrace continuous growth in all aspects of our lives.If we carry on putting achievement ahead of our own needs – especially if we’re doing so to please someone else – we may end up feeling empty and unsatisfied.But by tapping into those four fundamental needs, we’ll find ourselves on a path to a more fulfilling and balanced life.Listen to this episode toDiscover the four fundamental needs for true fulfilment in lifeLearn practical steps to align your goals with these fundamental needsUnderstand the consequences of prioritising achievement over fundamental needs and how it can impact your well-beingEpisode highlights[00:03:48] What are you aiming for?[00:06:06] The first core need: physical wellbeing[00:06:51] The second core need: Connection[00:08:00] The third core need: Meaning and purpose[00:08:43] The fourth core need: Learning and growth[00:09:42] The fifth element: A need to achieve[00:10:57] Your north star[00:12:07] Self-awareness[00:14:49] How do you need to live?[00:16:30] Don't get pulled southResourcesTHRIVE Weekly PlannerWatch the video version on YouTubeDefining Your Own Success in Life – Episode 107, with Dr Claire KayeHow to Escape the Tyranny of the ‘Shoulds’ – Episode 196, with Charlotte HousdenHow to Reconnect With Your Purpose in Life – Episode 94, with Dr Richard PileDownload the episode’s podsheet. You can use it for reflection and to submit for your appraisal as part of your CPD.Enjoyed this episode?Write a review and share this with your friends.Connect with RachelHave any questions? Contact Rachel through these platforms:LinkedIn: @Dr-Rachel-MorrisTwitter: @DrRachelMorrisEmail: hello@youarenotafrog.comFind out more about our trainingMentioned in this episode:FrogFest Virtual –  How to Be a Boundary Hunter Join us on November 25th. Ticket included with FrogXtra Gold membership.

We all experience moments of feeling stuck. Sometimes we have the motivation, but something’s in our way. On other days the simplest things can feel like pushing a boulder up a hill. Now matter how competent we know we are, that feeling of inertia can wreak havoc on our self-confidence. If we’re going to get unstuck and move forwards, we first need to find out what’s blocking us.⭐️ Book Your FrogFest Ticket Now The solution is to take a conscious leadership approach. This means shifting our mindset and becoming more aware of our reactions and thought patterns. By recognising when we’re “below the line” and stuck in victim mode, we can consciously shift “above the line” and take control of our actions and reactions.This week, Rachel is joined by executive coach and conscious leadership expert, Nicola Rylett-Jones. Nicola offers practical steps you can take today to embody the role of a conscious leader – even if you don’t consider yourself as having a leadership position.Living below the line makes us feel frustrated, demotivated, and without the ability to make progress. It can also make us less effective leaders and colleagues, more prone to agitation. But by becoming more aware of our triggers, we can work better together with less effort.🤔 Take Our Quiz & Get a Personalised Episode Playlist Listen to this episode toLearn practical steps to overcome feelings of being stuck and gain control of your actions and reactions.Discover how to shift your mindset and become more aware of your reactions and thought patterns.Find out how to embody the role of a conscious leader, even if you don't consider yourself in a leadership position.Episode highlights[00:04:19] How we demotivate ourselves[00:09:38] Conscious leadership[00:14:58] Becoming unstuck[00:29:16] Getting a different perspective[00:34:00] Worrying[00:36:16] Tackling anxiety around complaints[00:38:44] It's time to take action[00:46:17] Guilt as a motivator[00:57:18] Nicola's top tipsAbout the guestNicola Rylett-Jones is a senior leader who has held both regional and national Director roles with some of the UK’s most prestigious organisations. She is currently a Trustee and Deputy Chair of the Institute of Leadership, executive coach and relationship manager for the Welsh Government’s Accelerated Growth Program, and chair of two leading marketing organisations.Website | LinkedInResourcesTHRIVE Weekly PlannerWatch the video version on YouTubePassing the Naughty Monkey Back – Episode 65, with Dr Amit SharmaHow to Escape the Drama Triangle and Stop Rescuing People – Episode 75 with Annie HanekomConversations Which Will Get You Unstuck – Episode 95 with Annie HanekomDownload the episode’s podsheet. You can use it for reflection and to submit for your appraisal as part of your CPD.Apply for Nicola’s Conscious Female Leadership programmeNicola’s Inspirante Business Book ClubLeadership Development – The Institute of LeadershipEnjoyed this episode?Write a review and share this with your friends.Connect with RachelHave any questions? Contact Rachel through these platforms:LinkedIn: @Dr-Rachel-MorrisTwitter: @DrRachelMorrisEmail: hello@youarenotafrog.comFind out more about our trainingMentioned in this episode:FrogFest Virtual –  How to Be a Boundary Hunter Join us on November 25th. Ticket included with FrogXtra Gold membership.