You Are Not A Frog

If you’re caught in a cycle of constant work, you might feel like you can't afford even a short break. But that only leads to burnout, so what do you do if you feel you’re too busy to take a break?LinksHow to Avoid Amygdala Hijack Part 1 – Episode 169How to Avoid Amygdala Hijack Part 2 – Episode 171Download your THRIVE Week PlannerDownload your Overwhelm SOS guideMentioned in this episode:Join FrogXtra The monthly membership for doctors and busy professionals in high stress jobs, who want to beat burnout, and thrive in work and life.

Discover how to find your voice at work and use it effectively in this insightful podcast. From overcoming self-doubt and imposter syndrome to exploring intuition and fostering belonging, learn valuable strategies for authentic self-expression and effective communication in professional settings.

Comparing ourselves to others can be toxic, and lead us to ignore our own needs, and forget our unique limits. It’s time to follow our own path, to note when we're "shoulding" on ourselves, to stop feeling guilty about our differences, and to ditch the idea that we're somehow wrong for having different constraints.Download the Thrive Week PlannerDownload the episode’s podsheet. You can use it for reflection and to submit for your appraisal as part of your CPD.Join the You Are Not a Frog Facebook groupHow to Escape the Tyranny of the ‘Shoulds’ – Episode 196 with Charlotte HousdenLife’s Too Short NOT to Love What You Do – Episode 209, with Dr Sarah GouldingHow to Have More Impact with Less Effort – Episode 159Mentioned in this episode:Join FrogXtra The monthly membership for doctors and busy professionals in high stress jobs, who want to beat burnout, and thrive in work and life.

Making the right decision can feel tricky, especially when they involve important life transitions. But there's a way out, and it starts with asking ourselves some fundamental questions around why we want what we want, and what we truly hope to gain when we get it.Download the episode’s podsheet. You can use it for reflection and to submit for your appraisal as part of your CPD.Download your free Overwhelm SOS guideJoin the You Are Not a Frog Facebook groupThe Mole and the Mountain: A little book about finding freedom – Jane’s bookHow to Stop Making Decisions Based on Fear – Episode 162 with Henri StevensonHow to Get Moving Again When You Feel Stuck – Episode 207 with Nicola Rylett-JonesMentioned in this episode:The Anti-Burnout System Take back control of your time and your workload — before burnout makes the decision for you.Join FrogXtra The monthly membership for doctors and busy professionals in high stress jobs, who want to beat burnout, and thrive in work and life.

If you're questioning whether a job or a relationship is right for you, it's worth exploring further, and taking those thoughts seriously. Remember that change is often a sign of growth, not failure. So focus on the potential positives that can arise from change, rather than asking “what if it doesn’t work?”Download your free Overwhelm SOS guideHow to Ditch the Saviour Complex and Feel More Alive – Episode 88, with Rob BellHow to Decide if You Need to Stay or Leave a Difficult Situation – Episode 201, with Corrina Gordon-BarnesHow to Live With No Regrets – Episode 123, with Georgina ScullFinding Your North Star – Episode 208Download the episode’s podsheet. You can use it for reflection and to submit for your appraisal as part of your CPD.Join the You Are Not a Frog Facebook groupMentioned in this episode:Join FrogXtra The monthly membership for doctors and busy professionals in high stress jobs, who want to beat burnout, and thrive in work and life.

It’s easy to to find ourselves thinking that money holds the key to our happiness, security, and freedom. We can project our desires and aversions onto money, believing that once we have “enough”, we can finally get the life we want. But thinking like this often keeps us from truly living our lives; instead we're stuck constantly chasing the next thing.⭐️ Work Well Webinars Money is a story we create, not something with inherent power. It's a piece of paper; a digit in a computer we assign value to. But by disentangling our sense of self from our relationship with money, we can reclaim our personal agency and free up a lot of creative energy.Even while recognising that everyone’s financial situations are different, dysfunctional money stories lead to a constant need to chase, where we're forever stuck in a loop of wanting more but never feeling satisfied. But by untangling our sense of self-worth from our financial status, we can start to experience a life that flows more naturally, with and without the constraint of money.🤔 Take Our Quiz & Get a Personalised Episode Playlist Listen to this episode toLearn how our narratives about money can influence our actions and happiness, and how changing these narratives can free up creative energy.Understand how to disentangle our sense of self from our relationship with money, leading to a life that flows more naturally.Discover how acknowledging that money has no inherent power can shift our perspectives and affect our personal and professional development.Episode highlights[00:02:57] Our response to money[00:05:47] Money stories on a global level[00:09:25] Our individual money stories[00:13:20] The "lack-of-funding" problem within the NHS[00:16:29] The "time is money" story[00:19:31] Excavating your own money stories[00:21:52] Projections of money meaning[00:25:22] Selfishness and self-image[00:31:53] Healing unhelpful money stories[00:34:22] Tackling our projections head-on[00:43:25] Dealing with money conflicts[00:48:02] Money as an expression of appreciation[00:51:20] Every big change begins with a big lie[00:54:57] Agnes' top tipsAbout the guestAgnes Otzelberger is a trainer and therapist, working people who feel burnt out and stuck. She’s particularly interested in the relationship people have with money and how it affects their sense of self, their relationships with others, and their impact on the world. Agnes helps people untangle their sense of self from their relationship with money and break down unhelpful money narratives.Website LinkedIn | FacebookResourcesWatch the video version on YouTubeHow to Stop Your Finances Controlling Your Career – Episode 142, with Dr Tommy PerkinsDefining Your Own Success in Life – Episode 107, with Dr Claire KayeDownload the episode’s podsheet. You can use it for reflection and to submit for your appraisal as part of your CPD.Agnes’ CU*money courseJoin the You Are Not a Frog Facebook groupEnjoyed this episode?Write a review and share this with your friends.Connect with RachelHave any questions? Contact Rachel through these platforms:LinkedIn: @Dr-Rachel-MorrisTwitter: @DrRachelMorrisEmail: hello@youarenotafrog.comFind out more about our trainingMentioned in this episode:Join FrogXtra The monthly membership for doctors and busy professionals in high stress jobs, who want to beat burnout, and thrive in work and life.The Anti-Burnout System Take back control of your time and your workload — before burnout makes the decision for you.

What happens when we're not feeling well, or when we're feeling overwhelmed at work? Often, we turn to our colleagues for support. But what happens when that support doesn't come, or it's not as helpful as we’d hoped?🛟 Download your free Overwhelm SOS guideWhen we're all in the same boat, it's tricky to get a different perspective. Even well-meaning advice from a colleague can feel misplaced or missing the mark, as it’s shaped by their own experiences and limitations. This can leave us feeling resentful and even more stressed than before.⭐️ Work Well Webinars We need to look outside our immediate work environment, to seek out "useless friends”, understand why we're asking for advice and be clear about what we hope to gain from itIn this quick dip episode, Rachel lays out where to seek help when we’re stressed, and some pitfalls to watch out for.Our colleagues – even the most supportive ones – mean well. But often, so do those who aren’t in a position to help. So we need to make sure to get an outside perspective so we don’t become resentful or frustrated, and damage our work relationships.🤔 Take Our Quiz & Get a Personalised Episode Playlist Listen to this episode toHandle disappointment if colleagues aren’t able to support youFind friends who can give you an unbiased perspectivePinpoint your needs, set clear expectations, and avoid the pitfalls of short-term solutionsEpisode highlights[00:02:01] What we expect of our colleagues[00:04:50] Our colleagues are human[00:11:38] You're all in the same boat[00:14:24] Knowing what you want[00:17:45] Our colleagues' hidden agendas[00:18:56] Being demanding and entitled[00:19:57] Continuing down the wrong pathResourcesTHRIVE Weekly PlannerWatch the video version on YouTubeDownload your free Overwhelm SOS guideFinding Your North Star – Episode 208Why You Should Expect Pushback and What to do About it – Episode 177Very Nice People and Other Deadly Perils –Episode 56Download the episode’s podsheet. You can use it for reflection and to submit for your appraisal as part of your CPD.Enjoyed this episode?Write a review and share this with your friends.Connect with RachelHave any questions? Contact Rachel through these platforms:LinkedIn: @Dr-Rachel-MorrisTwitter: @DrRachelMorrisEmail: hello@youarenotafrog.comFind out more about our trainingMentioned in this episode:Join FrogXtra The monthly membership for doctors and busy professionals in high stress jobs, who want to beat burnout, and thrive in work and life.

Women in medicine are often undervalued and taken less seriously than their male counterparts. They’re also made to feel less safe at work, and encounter pushback when they make a complaint.This week’s guest is Professor Dame Jane Dacre, and the episode is recorded in partnership with the Physician Mums Facebook Group (PMGUK). In her discussion with Rachel, Dame Jane lays out what needs to change at structural and interpersonal levels.She invites members of the industry to shine a light on inappropriate behaviour and develop a zero-tolerance approach towards sexism and misconduct. She also describes ways in which leadership courses, mentoring, and resources can be provided to empower women to advance in their careers. And she encourages men and women to be allies, speak up against inequality, and support each other in challenging situations.This discussion follows up on the 2020 report into the gender pay gap chaired by Dame Jane, and while progress is happening, women are still undervalued and face barriers to success. But by raising awareness about the gaps in pay and authority, we can create an environment where everyone is valued and has equal opportunities to thrive.⭐️ Work Well Webinars Listen to this episode toLearn about the efforts being made to address the gender pay gap in medicine and the progress that has been made so farUnderstand the concept of the authority gap and its impact on women in various fieldsGain insights into the importance of supporting and empowering women in the workplace and taking collective action to challenge cultural norms and inequalitiesEpisode highlights[00:05:23] Follow-up on the gender pay gap report[00:08:12] Addressing sexual misconduct in medicine[00:09:56] Expectations of women in medicine[00:14:17] The authority gap[00:16:33] Finding allies[00:20:42] Systemic failures leading to women not being heard[00:24:08] Everyday misconduct[00:26:27] Jane's story[00:30:07] The benefits of a non-linear career[00:37:09] The importance of authenticity and kindness[00:37:51] Sponsorship over mentoring[00:38:35] Maternal guilt[00:42:28] A letter to Jane's younger selfAbout the guestProfessor Dame Jane Dacre is an Emeritus Professor of Medical Education at UCL. She supports women in the medical workplace, and is actively involved in addressing the gender pay gap in medicine. She works with organisations like the Department of Health, the NHS, and the British Medical Association to narrow the gap, and runs a course to help future women leaders develop their skills.LinkedIn | TwitterResourcesTHRIVE Weekly PlannerJoin the Physician Mums Facebook Group (PMGUK)More episodes of You Are Not a Frog:How to Be a Professional Woman – Episode 41 with Dame Jane DacreThe Glass Slipper and Other Challenges for Women in Medicine – Episode 158, with Professor Chloe Orkin and Dr Nuthana BhayankaramHow to Be a (Happy) Working Parent – Episode 121 with Corrina Gordon BarnesDownload the episode’s workbook and CPD form. You can use them for reflection and to submit for your appraisal.Medical Women Talking – Jane’s podcastEnjoyed this episode?Write a review and share this with your friends.Connect with RachelHave any questions? Contact Rachel through these platforms:LinkedIn: @Dr-Rachel-MorrisTwitter: @DrRachelMorrisEmail: hello@youarenotafrog.comFind out more about our training

Saying what you really feel – especially in a high-stress job – is no easy task. Crucial conversations are often avoided for fear of damaging relationships. These unaired grievances get bottled up and over time can increase our level of stress.⭐️ Work Well Webinars But there are three core conditions for effective conversation that can help here: empathy (stepping into someone else’s shoes), unconditional respect (accepting the other’s right to be as they are), and congruence (expressing our thoughts and feelings authentically).Sadly, ignoring a problem with another person – or avoiding giving negative feedback – won't make them go away. On the contrary, too many important things going unsaid can lead to a toxic environment where stress levels rise, relationships break down, and productivity suffers.But, by stepping into the other party’s shoes, respecting their right to be as they are, and expressing our own thoughts authentically, we can create a more psychologically safe environment where issues are dealt with respectfully.🤔 Take Our Quiz & Get a Personalised Episode Playlist Listen to this episode toLearn about the three core conditions for effective conversationUnderstand how balancing these conditions can improve communication and lead to healthier relationshipsDiscover strategies to identify and address conversations you've been avoiding, reducing stress and unresolved conflictsEpisode highlights[00:03:50] Where people struggle to say what they mean[00:04:44] Bringing your whole self to work[00:08:59] The 3 core conditions for being with people[00:17:56] What to do if you're stuck in a "must-win" mindset[00:22:10] Saying what you really mean[00:27:27] Identifying your emotions[00:31:01] When to ask for help[00:34:20] How to give difficult feedback[00:39:42] How to take difficult feedback[00:43:54] When tricky feedback situations become unpleasant[00:48:53] Lasy's top tipsAbout the guestLasy encourages people to bring their authentic selves to work, promoting a healthier and more honest work environment. She co-founded Conscious Business People to advocate for bringing our entire personality to come to work, over surface-level perks like dress-down Fridays. Her mission is to make people see work as part of their life and to enhance authenticity in the workplace.Website | LinkedInResourcesTHRIVE Weekly PlannerWatch the video version on YouTubeMore episodes of You Are Not a Frog:How to Get Moving Again When You Feel Stuck – Episode 207 with Nicola Rylett-JonesHow to Challenge Upsetting Behaviour – Episode 192 with Dr Chris TurnerWhat Happens When We’re Really Listened to – Episode 180 with Tom DillonDownload the episode’s podsheet. You can use it for reflection and to submit for your appraisal as part of your CPD.Mentioned in this episode:The Anti-Burnout System Take back control of your time and your workload — before burnout makes the decision for you.Join FrogXtra The monthly membership for doctors and busy professionals in high stress jobs, who want to beat burnout, and thrive in work and life.

We often set goals in the belief they’ll make us happier. But setting goals alone might not be enough to truly help us thrive.In this quick dip, Rachel discusses why that’s the case, and offers a different approach to finding satisfaction and success.⭐️ Work Well Webinars It all begins with a shift in focus from goals to desires. Instead of starting with specific goals, we should first identify what we truly desire and what our basic needs are. This helps us align our actions and routines with what truly matters to us.Life’s too short to not love what you do, and vice versa. So it’s time to look at our own desires and needs, ask “What truly matters to me?”, and determine whether they’re aligned. Doing this will move you closer to a more fulfilling and satisfying life.🤔 Take Our Quiz & Get a Personalised Episode Playlist Listen to this episode toStop starting with goals and focus on your desires and needsLearn about the four elements of your North Star and how they can guide youUnderstand the problem with outcome-based goals and why process goals are more effectiveEpisode highlights[00:01:31] Stop starting with goals[00:03:27] The four elements of your North Star[00:05:13] Figure out your "why"[00:06:01] Making space for your needs[00:08:30] THRIVE Week Planner[00:13:09] The problem with outcome-based goalsResourcesTHRIVE Weekly PlannerWatch the video version on YouTubeMore episodes of You Are Not a Frog:Life’s Too Short NOT to Love What You Do – Episode 209Finding Your North Star – Episode 208Download the episode’s podsheet. You can use it for reflection and to submit for your appraisal as part of your CPD.Enjoyed this episode?Write a review and share this with your friends.Connect with RachelHave any questions? Contact Rachel through these platforms:LinkedIn: @Dr-Rachel-MorrisTwitter: @DrRachelMorrisEmail: hello@youarenotafrog.comFind out more about our trainingMentioned in this episode:Join FrogXtra The monthly membership for doctors and busy professionals in high stress jobs, who want to beat burnout, and thrive in work and life.