You Are Not A Frog

If you were in a life-or-death scenario and the only path out was over hot coals, would you take it? Of course. But when it comes to situations that are making us uncomfortable or even miserable, we seldom want to experience that discomfort to get to what we know will be better for us.⭐️ Book Your FrogFest Ticket Now In this quick dip episode, Rachel explores the importance of considering the long-term impact of our work, and offers a single question you can ask yourself right now, to discover what you really want to do with your one wild and precious life.If you’re on a burning platform or in a situation that could get worse, you can make a change – even if it's a small one. Any change can help you break free from the status quo.Listen to this episode toDiscover the importance of considering the long-term impact of your work on your well-being, mindset, character, and relationshipsLearn practical steps to recognise short-term discomfort, assess risks and benefits, seek external perspectives, and take action towards positive changeUnderstand what happens if you ignore the impact of your work, and how to create a fulfilling work life by addressing this problemEpisode highlights[00:02:12] Walking across hot sand[00:04:20] The burning platform[00:06:46] What is your work doing to your mind, your character, and your relationships?[00:08:14] Should I stay or should I go?[00:09:19] Where to go for guidance[00:10:07] Taking actionResourcesTHRIVE Weekly PlannerWatch the video version on YouTubeMore episodes of You Are Not a Frog:How to Live With No Regrets – Episode 123 with Georgina ScullHow to Say F**k it and Become Ridiculously Relaxed (even about stuff that REALLY matters) – Episode 130 with Jon C ParkinShould I Stay or Should I Go? – Episode 89 with Corrina Gordon-BarnesDownload the episode’s podsheet. You can use it for reflection and to submit for your appraisal as part of your CPD.Enjoyed this episode?Write a review and share this with your friends.Connect with RachelHave any questions? Contact Rachel through these platforms:LinkedIn: @Dr-Rachel-MorrisTwitter: @DrRachelMorrisEmail: hello@youarenotafrog.comFind out more about our trainingMentioned in this episode:FrogFest Virtual –  How to Be a Boundary Hunter Join us on November 25th. Ticket included with FrogXtra Gold membership.

If you’re in a job where you use your brain a lot, it can be easy to feel disconnected from your body and emotions. This in turn can lead to a lack of self-awareness and even difficulty in expressing yourself. That lack of awareness changes how we outwardly express ourselves, even in ways we’re not aware of.But by becoming consciously connected with our body, we can get a bit more control over our thoughts, feelings, and behaviours, and over how others see us.⭐️ Book Your FrogFest Ticket Now This week, Rachel is joined by coach and trainer Helen Leathers, who shows us how our posture, our movements, even the way we dress, can affect not only our mood, but how we’re perceived at work. She also shares a practical exercise that can help us cultivate stillness, so we appear more confident and open.It’s natural for those of us in cerebral jobs to see the body as just a vessel for the brain. But if we disconnect for too long, we can find it harder to tap into, understand, and express difficult feelings like stress and overwhelm.But there are simple things you can do to reconnect with your body, to literally shake off those negative feelings, and to “fake it ‘til you become it”.🤔 Take Our Quiz & Get a Personalised Episode Playlist Listen to this episode toLearn practical steps to cultivate self-awareness and express yourself more effectivelyDiscover how becoming consciously connected with your body and emotions can lead to positive changes in your lifeUnderstand the practical applications of embodiment, and separate it from the pseudoscienceEpisode highlights[00:04:50] Consciously connecting body and mind[00:13:28] How posture and movement affects how we're perceived[00:16:34] Fake it 'til you become it[00:17:41] How we dress is a signal to our body[00:19:52] Embodiment and overwhelm[00:28:08] Acknowledging where feelings sit in our body[00:32:37] Shake it off[00:38:58] Does it matter where in your body you feel something?[00:43:35] Helen's embodiment tipsAbout the guestHelen Leathers is a transformational coach with expertise in helping people use their body to access thoughts and emotions. She helps women who feel lost or overwhelmed to find their way in life again, and teaches doctors coaching and communication skills.Website | LinkedIn | Instagram | YouTubeResourcesTHRIVE Weekly PlannerWatch the video version on YouTubeTiny Habits, Big Changes – Episode 2, with Dr Katherine HickmanWhat Happens When We’re Really Listened to – Episode 180, with Tom DillonDoctors’ Transformational Coaching Diploma – Use the code FROGSPAWN for an exclusive discountDownload the episode’s podsheet. You can use it for reflection and to submit for your appraisal as part of your CPD.Enjoyed this episode?Write a review and share this with your friends.Connect with RachelHave any questions? Contact Rachel through these platforms:LinkedIn: @Dr-Rachel-MorrisTwitter: @DrRachelMorrisEmail: hello@youarenotafrog.comFind out more about our trainingMentioned in this episode:FrogFest Virtual –  How to Be a Boundary Hunter Join us on November 25th. Ticket included with FrogXtra Gold membership.

We all experience shame from time to time, but when it becomes toxic, we can end up in a shame spiral from which it's difficult to escape. When we’re called out on something about which we feel shameful, it can make us defensive. And so often, no-one can punish us as harshly as we punish ourselves.In this quick dip episode, Rachel shares her strategy to break free from shame spirals and cultivate a healthier mindset; by sharing our shame, taking some perspective, and seeking support from others. She unpacks her SHAME model that was inspired by a recent spiral, which is a simple five-step framework for working through the sensations of shame and finding a way to be kinder to ourselves.Shame doesn’t make us better people – it only makes us harder on ourselves and leads to us being defensive. So this episode offers a chance to break free of that spiral, remember that we’re human, and remind ourselves we’re doing our best.Listen to this episode toDiscover how shame can impact our internal mindset and contribute to burnoutLearn about the complex nature of shame and how it shows upExplore strategies and techniques to break free from shame spirals and cultivate a healthier mindsetEpisode highlights[00:02:09] What's on your pop bottle label?[00:03:14] When our actions clash with our values[00:07:30] What our ingrained stories tell us[00:13:20] Share your shame[00:14:35] Hang outwith useless friends[00:15:37] Awe[00:16:42] Multiple identities[00:19:17] Empathy and understandingResourcesTHRIVE Weekly PlannerWatch the video version on YouTubeHow Do You Say No When Someone Might Die? – Episode 193Why Can’t I Say No? – Episode 163How Perfectionism and Shame Lead to Stress and Burnout – 152 with Sandy MilesHow to Avoid Becoming the Second Victim – Episode 92 with Dr Caraline Wright & Dr Lizzie SweetingTara Brach leads a Guided Meditation: The Practice of RAINDownload the episode’s workbook and CPD form. You can use them for reflection and to submit for your appraisal.Enjoyed this episode?Write a review and share this with your friends.Connect with RachelHave any questions? Contact Rachel through these platforms:LinkedIn: @Dr-Rachel-MorrisTwitter: @DrRachelMorrisEmail: hello@youarenotafrog.comFind out more about our trainingMentioned in this episode:FrogFest Virtual –  How to Be a Boundary Hunter Join us on November 25th. Ticket included with FrogXtra Gold membership.

When we’re presented with a difficult problem, naturally we use logic and reasoning to solve it. But some problems – like stress and burnout – can’t be solved with logic alone.The left hemisphere is the area of the brain focused on tasks, logic, and problem-solving. But the right hemisphere deals with relationships, connections, and new perspectives. It’s also visual and metaphorical, so it can help us see problems in a different way. So our right brain can help us live more easily with problems that can’t be solved by the left.This week, executive coach Yda Bouvier explains how introducing visuals can activate our right brain and give us new perspectives and insights, which can help us understand complex issues, improve problem-solving, and enhance our connection with others.Over-relying on our left brain can leave us struggling with complex relationships, focusing too much on threats, and making it harder to adapt. But by incorporating more visuals and movement, we can tap into the power of our right brain and unlock new insights and possibilities.Listen to this episode toLearn how using the right brain can help us manage high-stress jobsDiscover how visuals, metaphor, and movement can activate the right brain and give us new perspectivesUnderstand the role of the right brain in problem-solving, intuition, and dealing with complex situationsEpisode highlights[00:02:55] The right brain[00:05:28] Left brain vs right brain[00:08:41] Yda's journey[00:10:47] Are we usingrelying too much on our left brain?[00:15:08] The impact of switching to right-brain thinking[00:18:02] How does the right brain help solve wicked problems?[00:22:40] The left brain and the ego[00:25:27] Making practical use of the right brain[00:30:22] Left and right brains in relation[00:32:52] The power of metaphor and images in communication[00:44:05] Exercise: What to do with a big problemAbout the guestYda Bouvier is an executive coach with 15 years of experience helping individuals and teams navigate challenges and develop their potential. Yda has a background in strategy consulting and holds a degree in physics. She is the author of the book "Leading with the Right Brain" and is passionate about incorporating right-brain thinking into problem-solving and decision-making processes.LinkedIn | WebsiteResourcesTHRIVE Weekly PlannerWatch the video versionHow to Stop Worrying When There’s a Lot to Worry About – Episode 106, with Dr Caroline WalkerHow to Feel Happy, Calm, and Connected – Episode 170,Dr Giles P Croft withLeading with the Right Brain – Yda’s bookDownload the episode’s workbook and CPD form. You can use them for reflection and to submit for your appraisal.Enjoyed this episode?Write a review and share this with your friends.Connect with RachelHave any questions? Contact Rachel through these platforms:LinkedIn: @Dr-Rachel-MorrisTwitter: @DrRachelMorrisEmail: hello@youarenotafrog.comFind out more about our trainingMentioned in this episode:FrogFest Virtual –  How to Be a Boundary Hunter Join us on November 25th. Ticket included with FrogXtra Gold membership.

So you’ve got a problem, maybe a relationship issue at work or difficulties managing your workload. You’ve talked it with friends, but the solution won’t present itself. Often the problem isn't that we lack solutions, but rather that we haven't fully understood what the problem is in the first place.In this quick dip episode, Rachel shares her three-step model to help you identify and address the real problem you’re facing. It involves recognising we have choices, embracing our human needs and limitations, and thinking differently.If we keep doing what we've always done, we'll continue getting the same results. But changing our mindset can give us confidence and the ability to approach situations from a fresh perspective.Listen to this episode toDiscover how to identify and solve the underlying problems that are driving you mad and hindering your progressLearn why focusing on resilience alone might not address the real issues causing stress and underperformanceExplore a practical model that will help you make the right choices, embrace your human needs, and think differently to achieve better outcomesEpisode highlights[00:01:15] What's the real problem?[00:03:21] Making the right choices[00:04:28] Be human[00:05:01] Think differently[00:05:22] Putting the three Cs into practice[00:09:31] What language are you using?[00:11:21] The Shapes ToolkitResourcesWatch the videoTHRIVE Weekly PlannerMore episodes of You Are Not a Frog:How to Be REALLY Productive… Without Losing the Plot – Episode 190 with Graham AllcottHow to Know if You’re Being “Resilience Victim Blamed” – Episode 145How to Say No and Deal with Pushback – Episode 1252 with Annie HanekomDownload the episode’s workbook and CPD form. You can use them for reflection and to submit for your appraisal.Enjoyed this episode?Write a review and share this with your friends.Connect with RachelHave any questions? Contact Rachel through these platforms:LinkedIn: @Dr-Rachel-MorrisTwitter: @DrRachelMorrisEmail: hello@youarenotafrog.comFind out more about our trainingMentioned in this episode:FrogFest Virtual –  How to Be a Boundary Hunter Join us on November 25th. Ticket included with FrogXtra Gold membership.

Corrina Gordon-Barnes shares insights on decision-making, emphasizing questioning thoughts and recognizing the power to leave. The discussion explores managing stress, self-awareness in decision-making, and navigating changes in relationships with love and acceptance.

If you have a high-stakes job like medicine, shame can show up in unexpected and unwelcome places. Doctors have incredibly high societal expectations, with constant pressure to be invulnerable. It’s time to challenge these unrealistic expectations and foster an environment that supports doctors in their vulnerability.This week, we’re featuring one of our most popular and impactful episodes from 2023 to help you identify and combat shame. In this episode, Dr Sandy Miles discusses the impact of shame on doctors and how we can address it by changing the toxic stories we tell ourselves.We all make mistakes, but shame keeps us from being objective and fair, leading us feeling like we’re inherently bad or wrong. Finding ways to be kinder and more supportive to ourselves will help not only our wellbeing, but will brighten the lives of those closest to us.Listen to this episode toDiscover the powerful impact shame has on us, and how our wellbeing and professional identity can be affectedExplore the different ways we respond to shameLearn how to create a healthier and more supportive environmentEpisode highlights[00:04:37] What is shame?[00:11:56] How identities are tied to shame[00:15:16] How people respond to shame[00:17:40] How to respond to shame[00:26:43] Shame and perfectionism in healthcare[00:31:31] How to overcome maladaptive perfectionism[00:34:22] Fostering a growth mindset[00:36:44] How to combat shame[00:47:01] Where to find help[00:48:40] Sandy's top tips for deadling with shameAbout the guestSandy Miles is a practising GP and a medical educator. She is also the co-founder of Acacia Retreat, holding bi-annual retreats for doctors feeling overwhelmed. Passionate to help fellow medical professionals, Sandy has written several research articles about shame and maladaptive behaviours in the medical industry — such as perfectionism in healthcare workers.Sandy gained her Bachelor of Medicine from the University of London and then earned her Master of Science in Medical Humanities from King’s College London.Twitter | FacebookResourcesTHRIVE Weekly PlannerMore episodes of You Are Not a Frog:How to Avoid Becoming the Second Victim – Episode 92, with Dr Caraline Wright & Dr Lizzie SweetingThis is Going to Hurt: Secret Diaries of a Junior Doctor, by Adam KayBooks and videos from Brene BrownShame and MedicineShame in Medicine: The Lost Forest, a 10-part documentary podcast produced by the NocturnistsShame and MedicineMindset: Changing the Way You Think to Fulfil Your Potential, by Carol DweckDownload the episode’s workbook and CPD form. You can use them for reflection and to submit for your appraisal.Enjoyed this episode?Write a review and share this with your friends.Connect with RachelHave any questions? Contact Rachel through these platforms:LinkedIn: @Dr-Rachel-MorrisTwitter: @DrRachelMorrisEmail: hello@youarenotafrog.comFind out more about our trainingMentioned in this episode:FrogFest Virtual –  How to Be a Boundary Hunter Join us on November 25th. Ticket included with FrogXtra Gold membership.

The Christmas season can be a time of stress and disappointment, especially when our expectations don't match up with reality. We can find ourselves dealing with difficult family members, feeling overwhelmed with work and family obligations, or experiencing a general sense of dissatisfaction.But there’s plenty we can do to make the festive period more enjoyable and less overwhelming.This week, we’re revisiting a previous conversation on the podcast, with Corrina Gordon-Barnes. In her chat with Rachel, you’ll learn how to turn expected disappointments into a game of bingo, set realistic expectations, and exercise some self-compassion.By taking proactive steps, we can create a more positive and fulfilling Christmas experience.Listen to this episode toLearn strategies to cope with the expectations and negative experiences that come with the holiday seasonDiscover the concept of playing "Christmas Bingo" to approach disappointments with humour and acceptanceGain insights on how to navigate triggering situations and avoid falling into familiar patterns of conflictEpisode highlights[00:03:59] Christmas disappointments[00:09:02] Christmas Bingo[00:13:30] What you can do to avoid disappointent[00:16:19] Playing out the old dances[00:21:33] Your zone of power[00:27:15] Lowering your expectations[00:39:20] Self-compassion in the face of disappointment[00:43:39] Hunt the Pony[00:44:51] Handling regret[00:49:22] Corrina's top 3 tipsAbout the guestDr Corrina Gordon-Barnes, CPCC, coaches new managers in time management and giving effective feedback. She’s passionate about seeing workplaces where colleagues speak honestly, give and receive feedback gracefully, and act with integrity. She believes these environments make it much easier to be innovative and effective, hit deadlines, and create the most powerful impact.LinkedIn | Facebook | Instagram | WebsiteResourcesTHRIVE Weekly PlannerShould I Stay or Should I Go? – Episode 89 with Corrina Gordon-BarnesHow to Ditch the Saviour Complex and Feel More Alive – Episode 88 with Rob BellDownload the episode’s workbook and CPD form. You can use them for reflection and to submit for your appraisal.Enjoyed this episode?Write a review and share this with your friends.Connect with RachelHave any questions? Contact Rachel through these platforms:LinkedIn: @Dr-Rachel-MorrisTwitter: @DrRachelMorrisEmail: hello@youarenotafrog.comFind out more about our trainingMentioned in this episode:FrogFest Virtual –  How to Be a Boundary Hunter Join us on November 25th. Ticket included with FrogXtra Gold membership.

Explore practical strategies to boost your confidence and make a greater impact. Understand the relationship between confidence and vulnerability. Discover factors that influence confidence as we age. Learn the importance of continuous growth and embracing imperfection. Hear personal experiences of building confidence and overcoming barriers. Embrace strengths and surround yourself with positive individuals. Get tips for increasing confidence and finding the gift in adversity.

We can learn how to say no to other people, but often don’t say no to ourselves or to our inner critic who’s always telling us we can do more or be better. We become our own worst enemy when it comes to setting boundaries and prioritising our own needs. This is why we need self-compassion, and to overcome the toxic self-talk that often fuels our negative self-talk.In this quick dip, Rachel will help you name the critical voice and acknowledge its presence, explore the underlying triggers and needs that contribute to self-criticism, and treat yourself with kindness and understanding, just as you would a close friend.When we pay too much attention to our inner critic, we risk feeling more stressed, putting strain on our relationships, and overall negatively impacting our wellbeing. So it’s time to challenge that negative self-talk and replace it with compassionate. No only will it benefit you, but it’ll benefit those close to you, too.Listen to this episode toDiscover the impact of toxic self-talk and how it affects our relationships and self-perception.Explore the importance of self-compassion and its role in enhancing relationships and personal growth.Gain practical tips and techniques for dealing with your inner critic and cultivating self-kindness.Episode highlights[00:01:52] Toxic self-talk[00:04:11] Self-compassion[00:04:57] Shame[00:05:57] Boss bitch[00:09:12] When our amygdala goes too far[00:10:04] Motivating with the stick, not the carrotResourcesTHRIVE Weekly PlannerMore episodes of You Are Not a Frog:What to Do When You Can Never Do Enough as a Working Mum – Episode 174, with With Corrina Gordon-BarnesHow to Escape the Tyranny of the ‘Shoulds’ – Episode 196 with Charlotte HousdenThe Surprising Power of Self Coaching (and How to Do it Well) – Episode 117, with Dr Claire KayeDownload the episode’s workbook and CPD form. You can use them for reflection and to submit for your appraisal.Enjoyed this episode?Write a review and share this with your friends.Connect with RachelHave any questions? Contact Rachel through these platforms:LinkedIn: @Dr-Rachel-MorrisTwitter: @DrRachelMorrisEmail: hello@youarenotafrog.comFind out more about our trainingMentioned in this episode:FrogFest Virtual –  How to Be a Boundary Hunter Join us on November 25th. Ticket included with FrogXtra Gold membership.