Beware Your Kindest Colleagues

Mar 19, 2024

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What happens when we're not feeling well, or when we're feeling overwhelmed at work? Often, we turn to our colleagues for support. But what happens when that support doesn't come, or it's not as helpful as we’d hoped?

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When we're all in the same boat, it's tricky to get a different perspective. Even well-meaning advice from a colleague can feel misplaced or missing the mark, as it’s shaped by their own experiences and limitations. This can leave us feeling resentful and even more stressed than before.

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Our colleagues – even the most supportive ones – mean well. But often, so do those who aren’t in a position to help. So we need to make sure to get an outside perspective so we don’t become resentful or frustrated, and damage our work relationships.

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Handle disappointment if colleagues aren’t able to support you
Find friends who can give you an unbiased perspective
Pinpoint your needs, set clear expectations, and avoid the pitfalls of short-term solutions

Episode highlights

[00:02:01] What we expect of our colleagues
[00:04:50] Our colleagues are human
[00:11:38] You're all in the same boat
[00:14:24] Knowing what you want
[00:17:45] Our colleagues' hidden agendas
[00:18:56] Being demanding and entitled
[00:19:57] Continuing down the wrong path

Resources

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Finding Your North Star – Episode 208
Why You Should Expect Pushback and What to do About it – Episode 177
Very Nice People and Other Deadly Perils –Episode 56
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