Scott Barry Kaufman is a cognitive scientist interested in the development of intelligence, creativity, and personality. He applies a variety of perspectives to come to a richer understanding and appreciation of all kinds of minds and ways of achieving greatness. In this episode, he and Eric discuss his book, Transcend: The New Science of Self Actualization. They discuss many ways in which we can go beyond coping and, instead, set our sights a bit higher to thrive in our day to day life, regardless of the circumstances. Scott Barry Kaufman shows us how the ordinary life is always, at its heart, the extraordinary life.You can find all of the most up to date crisis help & support resources that Eric is making available through The One You Feed by going to www.oneyoufeed.net/helpThe wisdom and practice of self-compassion is a foundational principle that Eric teaches and helps his private clients learn to apply through the 1-on-1 Spiritual Habits Program. To learn more about this program, click here.But wait - there's more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It's that simple and we'll give you good stuff as a thank you! In This Interview, Scott Barry Kaufman and I discuss Living a Transcendent Life and…His book, Transcend: The New Science of Self ActualizationThat the way you frame a question can influence how you feelHow to take the leap towards growth so that your focus is no longer on simply copingThe idea of spending our days in transcendent ways What it means to copeThe detrimental path of Experiential Avoidance The importance of integrating everything that’s happening right now within yourselfHow to view your personal growth opportunities while others are sufferingThe difference between those who are creative amidst uncertainty and those who struggle to be creative in the same conditionsBeing open to embracing new experiences by letting go of the need for controlGoing right to the heart of the fears that you have so that you can make peace with themThat we don’t grow all at once and in a linear wayScott Barry Kaufman Links:scottbarrykaufmanTwitterFacebookYouTube Channel“Demons on the Boat” VideoDaily Harvest: Delivers absolutely delicious organic, carefully sourced, chef-created fruit and veggie smoothies, soups, overnight oats, bowls, and more. To get $25 off your first box go to www.dailyharvest.com and enter promo code FEEDSkillshare is an online learning community that helps you get better on your creative journey. They have thousands of inspiring classes for creative and curious people. Get 2 FREE months of premium membership at www.skillshare.com/feed  Best Fiends: Engage your brain and play a game of puzzles with Best Fiends. Download for free on the Apple App Store or Google Play. If you enjoyed this conversation with Scott Barry Kaufman on Living a Transcendent Life, you might also enjoy these episodes:Mark NepoLinda GrahamSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Sue Monk Kidd was raised in the small town of Sylvester, Georgia, a place that deeply influenced the writing of her first novel, The Secret Life of Bees. Her 1990 book, When the Heart Waits, has become a touchstone on contemplative spirituality. Sue serves on the Writers Council for Poets & Writers, Inc and is well known for her work in feminist theology. Her new book is a novel called, The Book of Longings.  You can find all of the most up to date crisis help & support resources that Eric is making available through The One You Feed by going to www.oneyoufeed.net/helpFor a free video in which Eric teaches you 3 perspectives you can take to help you navigate these challenging times, go to www.spiritualhabits.netNeed help with completing your goals in 2020? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Sue Monk Kidd and I discuss Longings of our Heart and…Her book, The Book of LongingsThat what you pay attention to will either devour you or save you because we become what we pay attention toThe particular genius that dwells in every personHow she first decided that she wanted to write fiction when she was in her 40sAsking the prayer that’s at the bottom of your heartHow being visible and being audible in the world is a choice to express the largeness that’s inside each of usThat we can nurture the largeness in another person, even if the largeness is inconvenient for usGod as an essence that lives everywhere, the being-ness in our midstThe many ways we conceptualize and thereby connect with GodWhy suffering results in increased kindness in some while it hardens othersThe role of vulnerability in our personal growthWhen her therapist told her that the pain won’t kill you but the running from it might.What it means to “let life be” when both beautiful and terrible things happenRadical acceptanceHow the path to healing is right through the woundFacing our pain so our soul can metabolize it and we can move through it and move onWhat it means to be a mother beyond having actual childrenThe middle places in life where the waiting and the work happensHer writing processThe silence beneath her wordsHer life as a prayerHow letting go is not a one-time thingThat life is like a spiralSue Monk Kidd Links:SueMonkKidd.comTwitterFacebookInstagramTalkspace: the online therapy company that lets you connect with a licensed therapist from anywhere at any time. Therapy on demand. Non-judgemental, practical help when you need it at a fraction of the cost of traditional therapy. Visit www.talkspace.com and enter Promo Code: WOLF to get $100 off your first month.SimpliSafe: Get comprehensive protection for your entire home with security cameras, alarms, sensors as well as fire, water, and carbon monoxide alerts. Visit simplisafe.com/wolf for free shipping and a 60-day risk-free trial.If you enjoyed this conversation with Sue Monk Kidd on the Longings of our Heart, you might also enjoy these other episodes:Parker J. PalmerTara BrachSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Henry Shukman is a poet, writer, and Associate Zen Master who lives in New Mexico where he teaches at Mountain Cloud Zen Center. He has published eight books to date of fiction, poetry, and non-fiction. He writes regularly for Tricycle, The New York Times, and other publications. In this episode, Eric and Henry discuss his beautifully written book, One Blade of Grass: Finding the Old Road of the Heart, a Zen Memoir.You can find all of the most up to date crisis help & support resources that Eric is making available through The One You Feed by going to www.oneyoufeed.net/helpThe wisdom and practice of self-compassion is a foundational principle that Eric teaches and helps his private clients learn to apply through the 1-on-1 Spiritual Habits Program. To learn more about this program, click here.Need help with completing your goals in 2020? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Henry Shukman and I discuss Paths of Spiritual Awakening and…His book, One Blade of Grass: Finding the Old Road of the Heart, a Zen MemoirHow to work with the 3 poisons that we all have: Greed, Ill Will, DelusionOpening up to pain (rather than turning away from it) so that we can healHis experience with dysthymia The awakening experiences he has had in his lifeLearning how to be with his pain and wounds in order to healA major myth of meditationHow he knew he was ready to work with a spiritual teacherHis realization that awakening experiences are doorways and we must then step onto the paths they open up to in order to continue our spiritual growthThe value of community in spiritual growthThe trouble with thinking you have to do things aloneDiscovering for ourselves the deep experience of the ordinary moments of our livesThe wisdom of cherishing the normal and finding beauty in ordinary thingsPoetry as the practice of paying very close attention to thingsThe different levels of loveHenry Shukman Links:Mountaincloudzencenter.comFacebookSeed: Scientifically validated, next-generation probiotics. Their mission: to bring much-needed precision, efficacy, and education to the global probiotics market. Go to www.seed.com/wolf or use promo code WOLF for 15% off your first month of The Daily Symbiotic.Clean Cult: Makes effective cleaners with non-toxic ingredients you recognize and packaging that’s landfill-free. To get 25% off your first customized starter kit go to www.cleancult.com/wolf (this offer is good through May 30th, 2020)Best Fiends: Engage your brain and play a game of puzzles with Best Fiends. Download for free on the Apple App Store or Google Play. If you enjoyed this conversation with Henry Shukman on Paths to Spiritual Awakening you might also enjoy these other episodes:Loch KellyRyan OelkeNorman FischerSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Many of us are staying at home right now because of the COVID-19 pandemic and if you live with people, chances are you have had moments of feeling irritated, frustrated, or annoyed as a result of being cooped up in close quarters together. This special episode has all-new interviews with 5 previous guests of the show, each offering you tips to help you navigate the difficult feelings and situations that come with spending so much time at home with loved ones. The guests of this special episode are Susan Piver, Lodro Rinzler, Rosalind Wiseman, Ralph De La Rosa, Rick HansonYou can find all of the most up to date crisis help & support resources that Eric is making available through The One You Feed by going to www.oneyoufeed.net/helpYou can also access a free video in which Eric teaches you 3 perspectives you can take to help you navigate these challenging times by going to www.spiritualhabits.netIn This Episode, We discuss Tips for Living in Close Quarters and…That we are all subject to unbidden moods in these circumstancesHow to grow closer through experiencing the ups and downs togetherResisting the urge to solve the “problem” of difficult feelingsTo be with each other we need to be comfortable being with ourselvesStrategies to help you avoid snapping at your loved ones Turning towards your feelings rather than your thoughts How we’re face to face with our own minds right nowFeeling what we feel without judgment and without a storylineWhat to do when you feel highly triggered The simple question we can ask ourselves before acting on a feelingWhat to do to prepare before having a difficult conversation with someone you live withHow humor can helpWays to cultivate a warmer heartThat listening is being prepared to be changed by what you hearA helpful structure for family or household meetingsHow we can prepare for difficult emotional experiencesTaking ownership of our own emotionsHow to relate to our irritationRemembering the people you live with are suffering, tooThe phrase, “Like me, you, too, ____”How to reduce the way we take things personallyThe neuroscience of why tuning into internal bodily sensations worksBeachbody On Demand: Workout at home with this easy to use streaming service with over 1300 super effective workouts suited for anybody at any time. Listeners of the show can get a free trial membership when you text WOLF to the number 303030. Clean Cult: Makes effective cleaners with non-toxic ingredients you recognize and packaging that’s landfill-free. To get 25% off your first customized starter kit go to www.cleancult.com/wolf (this offer is good through May 30th, 2020)Laurel Springs: An accredited online private school for students K-12. Personalize the learning program and learning schedule for your unique child with Laurel Springs’ diverse and enriched curriculum. Register your child at www.laurelsprings.com/wolf and receive a waived registration fee.Links to Other Episodes:Susan PiverLodro RinzlerRosalind Wiseman; ‘Rosalind’s “Tiny Habits:Ralph De La RosaRick HansonSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dr. Christian Conte, a mental health specialist in anger management, discusses radical anger management techniques and emotional awareness. Topics include self-compassion, managing anger through self-awareness, importance of curiosity in listening, and impact of physical states on emotional well-being.

You can find all of the most up to date crisis help & support resources that Eric is making available through The One You Feed by going to www.oneyoufeed.net/helpIn this mini episode, Eric shares helpful advice and many suggestions on how to deal with strong emotions during this global pandemic. He also offers a hopeful message about the personal growth that can come from such challenges.Allow yourself to be where you areLower your expectations if you need toBe kinder to yourself and practice self compassion (see Kristin Neff episode)Journaling can be a helpful practicePost traumatic growth - turning adversity into something betterAllowing ourselves to explore thoughts and feelings can help not only cope, but create meaning in our lives7 areas of growth that can come from adversityThe importance of routine and structure in our daysSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Mark Nepo is a poet, philosopher and cancer survivor who has taught in the fields of poetry, health, and spirituality for 40 years. Mark is a New York Times #1 selling author who has published numerous books and audio projects. In this episode, Eric and Mark discuss his book, The Book of Soul: 52 Paths to Living What Matters. This episode is a tonic to the suffering that we are facing right now in the midst of a pandemic. This conversation offers some of the most liberating wisdom that, when connected to, releases us from the grip of fear so that we are living from a place of presence, peace, and connecting to what matters. You can find all of the most up to date crisis help & support resources that Eric is making available through The One You Feed by going to www.oneyoufeed.net/helpThe wisdom and practice of self-compassion is a foundational principle that Eric teaches and helps his private clients learn to apply through the 1-on-1 Spiritual Habits Program. To learn more about this program, click here.Need help with completing your goals in 2020? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Mark Nepo and I discuss Connecting to What Matters and…His new book, The Book of Soul: 52 Paths to Living What MattersThe value in cooperating, listening and working with things (rather than trying to bend them to our will)That “sin”, as literally translated, is the same as “opaque” or, “not seeing”That when we lose sight of the vastness to which we belong, succumbing to our narrow condition, we paint everything with the color of our troubleHow the surface of the ocean is what’s choppy and as we go down below the surface, we connect with the depth that is less tumultuous“Rightsizing” our perspective on troubles by putting them in a larger perspective of vastness and wholenessHow to move at the pace of what is real: synchronizing the moving pace of mind, heart, and body That the power of reading out loud is like the difference between reading sheet music and hearing it in our heads vs. actually playing the musicThat we meditate not to be great meditators, but to be clear vesselsHow we’ve become “addicted to the noise of things falling apart”That things are always simultaneously falling apart and coming togetherWe are challenged to honor what we’re going through while at the same time remembering that what we’re going through doesn’t define usAsking “What is actually happening?” so we might identify right actionWaiting for the cloud of fear to pass so that you can decipher what is actually dangerous How in the modern world we have catastrophized our relationship to the unknownThat the unknown can produce love and beauty just as it can produce difficulty and hardshipsThe truth that there is no “there”, there’s only “here”That often, when you can’t leave a difficult situation, you realize that everything you need is right hereThe menacing assumption that life is somewhere other than where we areThat out of fear, we make a god of survival. But without thriving, what’s the point?Mark Nepo Links:marknepo.comFacebookTwitterInstagramBeet Elite: Helps you to go further and longer when taken before your workout. www.livehuman.com/wolf to get 20% off your 1st purchaseSimpliSafe: Get comprehensive protection for your entire home with security cameras, alarms, sensors as well as fire, water, and carbon monoxide alerts. Visit simplisafe.com/wolf Free shipping and a 60-day risk-free trial.Skillshare is an online learning community that helps you get better on your creative journey. They have thousands of inspiring classes for creative and curious people. Get 2 FREE months of premium membership at www.skillshare.com/feed  If you enjoyed this conversation with Mark Nepo on Connecting to What Matters,you might also enjoy these other episodes:Mark Nepo (2016 Interview)Lama Surya DasSharon SalzbergSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Adreanna Limbach is a head-teacher at MNDFL Meditation Studios in New York City. Adreanna’s work has been featured in the New York Times, Women’s Health, Refinery 29, and Yoga Journal. Her new book is, Tea and Cake with Demons: A Buddhist Guide to Feeling Worthy. In this episode, Adreanna and Eric talk about how to be more skillful in the ways in which we relate to our “demons” – in other words, how we can go about befriending difficult feelings. You can find all of the most up to date crisis help & support resources that Eric is making available through The One You Feed by going to www.oneyoufeed.net/helpThe wisdom and practice of self-compassion is a foundational principle that Eric teaches and helps his private clients learn to apply through the 1-on-1 Spiritual Habits Program. To learn more about this program, click here.Need help with completing your goals in 2020? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Adreanna Limbach and I discuss Befriending our Difficult Feelings and…Her book, Tea and Cake with Demons: A Buddhist Guide to Feeling WorthyHow difficult it was for her to write her bookHow hard it is to create anythingThe value of tenacityThe story her book is based onHow our demons, or difficult feelings, can be very personal but they all look a lot alikeThe unskillful ways that we deal with our difficult feelingsAsking our demons “what do you have to teach me?”How questions open things while answers shut them downIdentifying your “exit” when you’re feeling uncomfortable in your own skinThe 4 Noble Truths of BuddhismAdreanna Limbach Links:adreannalimbach.comFacebookInstagramSeed: Scientifically validated, next-generation probiotics. Their mission: to bring much-needed precision, efficacy, and education to the global probiotics market. Go to www.seed.com/wolf or use promo code WOLF for 15% off your first month of The Daily Symbiotic.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

So many of us are feeling angry for a myriad of reasons amidst the COVID-19 pandemic. To help us better understand and work with our anger, Eric reached out to several previous guests of the show to ask them if they would be willing to talk with him for a special edition of The One You Feed Podcast about anger. They all generously agreed at a moment’s notice and this episode featuring 4 “mini-interviews” is the result. These are all new conversations with previous guests, Rick Hanson, Hilary Jacobs Hendel, Ruth King, and David Richo.You can find all of the most up to date crisis help & support resources that Eric is making available through The One You Feed by going to www.oneyoufeed.net/helpIn This Episode, We discuss How to Work with Anger and…That anger is a natural and normal responseUtilizing anger rather than letting anger utilize usHow anger can feel good in the moment but it corrodes over timeFinding peace when confronted with the truth of uncertaintyMindfully noticing and naming our angerAnger being triggered by perceived danger and it readies us for a fightThe danger of blocking our angerThat we feel anger as energy that wants to get outUsing fantasy to release the energy of anger When calm, making a list of “state-changers” for yourselfNoticing our coping strategies in the face of things we can’t controlThe critical choice of what to do with the energy of angerBeing informed by our anger instead of reacting out of itChanneling the energy in constructive ways rather than damaging waysGetting curious about what the anger is trying to tell us – rather than focusing on what it’s saying about other peopleGetting fiercely clear about rather than ablaze in the fire of our angerWhen we’re in the anger, we lose touch with how it’s impacting our bodiesSetting the intention of doing no harm That fear is often underneath angerNot acting out of anger because it can be abusiveLinks to Other Episodes:Rick HansonHilary Jacobs HendelRuth KingDavid RichoSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

You can find all of the most up to date crisis help & support resources that Eric is making available through The One You Feed by going to www.oneyoufeed.net/helpAs the COVID-19 pandemic intensified earlier this week, Eric reached out to several previous guests of the show to ask them if they would be willing to talk with him for two special edition episodes of The One You Feed Podcast. They all generously agreed at a moment’s notice and this episode is the second of those two episodes. These mini-interviews are with 6 leaders in the realms of mental health and spirituality. Eric talks with each of them about how to deal with difficult thoughts and offers practical strategies for emotional health during these challenging times. These are all new conversations with previous guests, Parker Palmer, Mirabai Starr, Lewis Howes, Steven C. Hayes, Scott Stabile, and Sharon Salzberg.In This Special Episode, We discuss Strategies for Emotional Health and…Turning our attention to those who are vulnerable and need our helpThe connection between anxiety and uncertaintyAccepting the truth that there are many things we cannot controlBeing attentive to what we can controlHow reflecting on and learning from suffering can be therapeuticThat dissolution is a good thing: You’ve lost an illusion and you’re that much closer to realityHow to abide in a space of not knowingThe paradox of actively helping the situation by doing less, staying put and slowing downReorienting to what we really need vs. our tendencies towards overconsumptionHow to be mindful and Feed Our Good Wolf during a time of crisisThat constantly seeing crisis media alerts is like seeing a car crash every 2 minutes – we benefit from placing boundaries on how often we consume media coverage Creating meaning amidst sufferingHow psychological flexibility can help us move through difficultyHow to move through a crisis so that you come out of it with post-traumatic growthWays to work with your anger towards others during this crisisWays to work with your fear about this crisisThe helpful pillars of self-care that can really support us in crisisLooking for ourself in others to bring empathy What it means to connect to our hearts and soulsThe importance of giving yourself grace and forgiveness during a crisisHow loving-kindness meditation can help usHow staying home can mimic the effects of a reflective retreatA guided meditation from Sharon SalzbergCalm App The #1 rated app for meditation. They have meditations, sleep stories, soothing music, and Calm masterclasses with may One You Feed Guests. Get 40% off a Calm Premium Subscription (a limited time offer!) by going to www.calm.com/wolf Peloton: Wondering if a Peloton bike is right for you? You can get a free 30 day home trial and find out. If you're looking for a new way to get your cardio in, the Peloton bike is a great solution. Eric decided to buy one after his 30-day free trial. Visit onepeloton.com Laurel Springs: An accredited online private school for students K-12. Personalize the learning program and learning schedule for your unique child with Laurel Springs' diverse and enriched curriculum. Register your child at www.laurelsprings.com/wolf and receive a waived registration fee.Links to Other Episodes:Parker J. PalmerMirabai StarrLewis HowesSteven C. HayesScott StabileSharon SalzbergSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.