Jillian Richardson on How to Become Unlonely

Dec 7, 2021

Jillian Richardson is the founder of The Joy List and author of Unlonely Planet, dedicated to fighting loneliness. In this conversation, she discusses strategies for overcoming barriers to friendship, such as the fear of vulnerability. Jillian shares insights on building meaningful connections, especially for introverts, and the importance of self-kindness in the journey to connect. She also emphasizes the power of community involvement and how stepping out of comfort zones can alleviate loneliness. A must-listen for anyone seeking deeper social bonds!

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INSIGHT

Focus Your Attention

Focus your attention on positive qualities like caring and attentiveness.
This attracts similar people and creates a more positive experience.

INSIGHT

Loneliness and Perception

Protracted loneliness distorts our perception of others' intentions.
Lonely individuals may perceive neutral situations as attacks, hindering connection.

ADVICE

Intention and Persistence

Set making friends as an explicit goal and stick to it.
Overcome the embarrassment; making friends takes intention and effort like any goal.

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Jillian Richardson is the founder of The Joy List, which is a newsletter with the mission of making New York City – and eventually the world – a less lonely place. She also hosts The Joy List Social, an event where you can show up by yourself and leave with a new friend.

In this episode, Jillian and Eric talk about her new book, Unlonely Planet: How Healthy Congregations Can Change the World.

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Jillian Richardson and I Discuss How to Become Unlonely and …

Her book, Unlonely Planet: How Healthy Congregations Can Change the World
Some of the barriers that get in the way of making friendships
Some strategies we can use to make friendships
Three relationship strengthening tactics
How to know when vulnerability slides into neediness
That looking for the “perfect” person or group of people can stump you in your search for meaningful connection
When you might want to reflect on your relationship to the idea of groups
Where to start when you’re lonely and want to connect with others
How to meet people if you’re an introvert
The importance of being kind to yourself in this process

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If you enjoyed this conversation with Jillian Richardson, you might also enjoy these other episodes:

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