Veronica Valli is a former psychotherapist who now works as a sobriety coach. With almost 20 years of experience, Veronica has helped thousands of people live happy, healthy lives and reach their full potential by being alcohol-free. She is the co-host of the popular Soberful podcast and has been the keynote speaker at annual conferences including Women for Sobriety and Soberistas.In this episode, Eric and Veronica discuss her book, Soberful: Uncover a Sustainable, Fulfilling Life Free of Alchohol.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!Veronica Valli and I Discuss The Freedom of Sobriety and…Her book, Soberful: Uncover a Sustainable, Fulfilling Life Free of AlcoholThat alcoholism is just a symptom of a deeper malaiseHer history with drugs and alcohol and how she got soberThe experience she had with drug-induced psychosisBelieving she had a very rare problem when everyone else was fineHow and when she discovered that she wasn’t alone in how she feltEmotional unmanageability vs. emotional masteryThat behavior is the truest manifestation of how someone feels – we behave how we feelThe way our culture has normalized abnormal drinkingThe question, “would my life be better if I wasn’t drinking?”When you’re spending most of your time arguing with yourself about whether or not you have a problem with drinking, you’re missing out on the real and good stuff of life, including your own growth and discoveryToxic positivityFeeling comfortable in our own skin and having appropriate emotional responses to eventsEmotional sobrietyThe value of consistently having a framework in lifeWhat to do if sobriety meetings feel overwhelmingVeronica Valli Links:Veronica’s WebsiteFacebookWhen you purchase products and/or services from the sponsors of this episode, you help support The One You Feed. Your support is greatly appreciated, thank you!If you enjoyed this conversation with Veronica Valli you might also enjoy these other episodes:The Magic of Being Sober with Laura McKowenThe Joy of Being Sober with Catherine GraySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Marilyn Nelson is an American poet, translator, and children’s book author. She is a Professor Emeritus at the University of Connecticut and the former poet laureate of Connecticut.  In this episode, Eric and Marilyn discuss several of her poems and the inspiration and meaning behind themBut wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!Marilyn Nelson and I Discuss her Beautiful and Powerful Poetry and…Her book, How I Discovered Poetry“Mississippi” poemHer book, A Wreath for Emmett TillHer use of the unique poetry form of heroic crown of sonnets“Rosemary for Remembrance” poem“Let Me Gather Spring Flowers for a Wreath” poem“Like His Gouged Eye” poemHow poetry comes out of silence and leads us back to silenceA life well lived includes the gifts of silence, contemplation, and self knowledge How we need to make an effort to find silence in a noisy worldHer book, Carver“Professor Carver’s Bible Class” poemHer book, Snook Alone, the story of a dogMarilyn Nelson Links:Marilyn’s WebsiteFacebookWhen you purchase products and/or services from the sponsors of this episode, you help support The One You Feed. Your support is greatly appreciated, thank you!If you enjoyed this conversation with Marilyn Nelson you might also enjoy these other episodes:Roger HousdenEllen BassSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Johann Hari is a writer and journalist. He has written for the New York Times, Le Monde, the Guardian, and other newspapers and his TED talks have been viewed over seventy million times. His work has been praised by a broad range of people, from Oprah Winfrey to Noam Chomsky to Joe Rogan.Eric and Johann discuss his book, Stolen Focus Why You Can’t Pay Attention and How to Think Deeply AgainBut wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!Johann Hari and I Discuss Stolen Focus and Attention and…His book, Stolen Focus Why You Can’t Pay Attention and How to Think Deeply AgainHis experience of spending 3 months with no internet or smartphoneThe negative effects of consuming too much of social mediaHow the evidence is showing we are in an attention crisisThe deep forces at work that are damaging our attentionUnderstanding the two levels of response to the attention crisis; individual and collectiveCruel optimism is offering a simple solution to complex problems that may not workThe alternative to cruel optimism is bringing awareness to the many layers of the problemHow the human brain can only think about one thing at a timeThe negative effects of multitasking, or the switch cost-effect The debate between being “pro” tech and “anti” techThe damaging effects of the current business models of social media designed to steal people’s attentionHow technology could be used to heal and aid your attention rather than steal itHow the current model of economic growth contributes to dwindling attentionHis thoughts on the need for an attention movement to resist the forces invading our attentionJohann Hari Links:Stolen Focus Book WebsiteJohann’s WebsiteTwitterInstagramWhen you purchase products and/or services from the sponsors of this episode, you help support The One You Feed. Your support is greatly appreciated, thank you!If you enjoyed this conversation with Johann Hari you might also enjoy these other episodes:Johann Hari (2015 Interview)See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Joanna Macy is an environmental activist, author, a scholar of Buddhism, general systems theory, and deep ecology. She has written and co-authored many books, including translating much of Rilke’s workEric and Joanna discuss her translations of Rilke along with her important “Work That Reconnects”.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!Joanna Macy and I Discuss her Work That Reconnects and…Her book translation, Letters to a Young Poet by RilkeThe joy she experienced translating the work of Rilke with her coauthor Anita BarrowsHaving patience, curiosity and learning "to live the questions now" Asking ourselves how can we trust and be trustedHer important work called "The Work That Reconnects"Her three visions of living"Business as Usual" refers to the growth economy and capitalism"The Great Unraveling" refers to the world losing its coherence"The Great Turning" is the slowing down the destruction of the world and building new ways of doing thingsHer important activist workKnowing what we can control, but still caring about what we can't controlHow this work is a "celebration of the awareness of the great reciprocity at the heart of the universe"Joanna Macy Links:Joanna’s WebsiteWork That ReconnectsWhen you purchase products and/or services from the sponsors of this episode, you help support The One You Feed. Your support is greatly appreciated, thank you!If you enjoyed this conversation with Joanna Macy you might also enjoy these other episodes:Curiosity and Activism with Sophia BushThe Questioning Mind with Stephen MitchellSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Emma Gannon is a bestselling author, speaker, novelist, and the host of the number 1 creative careers podcast in the UK called “Ctrl Alt Delete”.  Eric and Emma discuss her latest book, Disconnected: How to Stay Human in an Online WorldBut wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!Emma Gannon and I Discuss Community and Connection in an Online World and…Her book, Disconnected: How to Stay Human in an Online WorldThe belief that everyone is creative and need to feed their creativityThe joy and challenge when your creative work becomes your paid workHow our online and offline behaviors and interactions are often not alignedConnection and how she compares humans to treesThe power of community and connection, both online and in-personNoticing when spending too much time online leads to emotional disconnectionUnderstanding self-sabotage and noticing the feelings associated with that behaviorFinding the balance of striving to be successful and happinessHer thoughts on cancel cultureHer first novel, OliveThe shame and guilt that women often feel for their life choicesEmma Gannon Links:Emma’s WebsiteTwitterInstagramWhen you purchase products and/or services from the sponsors of this episode, you help support The One You Feed. Your support is greatly appreciated, thank you!If you enjoyed this conversation with Emma Gannon, you might also enjoy these other episodes:How to Become Unlonely with Jillian RichardsonHow to Find Joy and Community with Radha AgrawalSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Catherine Gray is a Sunday Times Bestselling author of five books, including debut smash hit The Unexpected Joy of Being Sober. She’s sold well over a quarter of a million books and her books have now been translated into nine languages. She’s been sober since 2013. Catherine has also written about being single later in life and learning to appreciate the ordinary.  Eric and Catherine discuss her latest book, Sunshine Warm: Unexpected Sober Joy That LastsBut wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!Catherine Gray and I Discuss The Lasting Joy of Being Sober and…Her book, Sunshine Warm: Unexpected Sober Joy That LastsThe power of getting more specific with your gratitude listsBeing several years removed from addiction and in the advanced stages of recoveryUnderstanding that addiction doesn’t have to define you, but that it’s always thereNo longer defining herself as an alcoholic after several years of sobrietyAddiction can be the difference between what you intend to do and what you actually doHow addiction is a spectrum and not black or whiteThe issues with labeling yourself as an addictWhat matters most is asking yourself if your life would be better without the substance or behaviorThe challenge with addictions that are considered socially acceptable How most experts agree there isn’t such a thing as an addictive personalitySome people may have addictive tendencies based on various traitsUnderstanding that our perception of ourselves is what shapes our realityCatherine Gray Links:Catherine GrayTwitterInstagramWhen you purchase products and/or services from the sponsors of this episode, you help support The One You Feed. Your support is greatly appreciated, thank you!If you enjoyed this conversation with Catherine Gray, you might also enjoy these other episodes:Catherine Gray (2018 Interview)Catherine Gray on Unexpected Joy (2019 Interview)See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Emily Balcetis is an Associate Professor of Psychology at New York University. She is the author of more than 70 scientific publications and her work has been covered in Forbes, Newsweek, Time, National Public Radio, Cosmopolitan, GQ, and many others. She has also received numerous awards for her work.  Eric and Emily discuss her book, Clearer, Closer, Better: How Successful People See the WorldBut wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!Emily Balcetis and I Discuss How to Focus and Accomplish Goals and…Her book, Clearer, Closer, Better: How Successful People See the WorldHer decision to tackle learning to play drumsThe four tools of accomplishing a goalWhat it means to materialize a goalHow our brains can’t be trusted to accurately assess our progress toward our goalThe importance of writing down and tracking progress Figuring out what we want to accomplish AND creating a plan of actionForeshadowing obstacles that might get in our way and how you’ll deal with them increases your chances of successThe value of narrowing your focus of attentionHow time is a big determinant of what goals we set and whether we reach those goalsFinding ways to connect your current self with your future self can make it easier to make tougher choices that lead to better outcomes laterHow it sometimes makes sense to have a “wide bracket” or broader perspectiveThe power of framing and how what we see predicts what we doEmily Balcetis Links:Emily BalcetisTwitterWhen you purchase products and/or services from the sponsors of this episode, you help support The One You Feed. Your support is greatly appreciated, thank you!If you enjoyed this conversation with Emily Balcetis, you might also enjoy these other episodes:How to Change with Katy MilkmanBehavior Change with John NorcrossSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Regina Louise] is an American author, child advocate, and motivational speaker, who is best known for successfully navigating through more than thirty foster home placements as a ward of the California Juvenile Court system.Eric and Regina discuss her book, Permission Granted: Kick-Ass Strategies to Bootstrap Your Way to Unconditional Self-LoveBut wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!Regina Louise and I Strategies for Unconditional Self-Love and…Her book, Permission Granted: Kick-Ass Strategies to Bootstrap Your Way to Unconditional Self-LoveGrowing up in difficult circumstances and still feeling her worthHow we can all benefit from a cleared-out heart Learning to grow through what we go throughUnderstanding that you can’t change the past, but you can reclaim your dignity and self-worthLearning to be with the difficult feelings inside of usUnderstanding that the tragedy she endured was not personalHow she learned to protect and value herself when her caregivers couldn’tHer introjections leading to her growthThe tendency to feed the “less than” of herselfTaking responsibility for her own healingCreating distance and making meaning of her past experiencesRegina Louise Links:Regina’s WebsiteTwitterInstagramWhen you purchase products and/or services from the sponsors of this episode, you help support The One You Feed. Your support is greatly appreciated, thank you!If you enjoyed this conversation with Regina Louise, you might also enjoy these other episodes:Radical Self Love with Sonya Renee TaylorPerfecting Self Love with Scott StabileSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Stephen Guise, international best-selling author, discusses his book 'Elastic Habits' and the concept of creating adaptable habits. Topics include the roles of different habit levels, working with feelings and motivation, different types of triggers, and intelligent tracking in establishing new habits.

James Clear is the author of Atomic Habits: An Easy and Proven Way to Build Good Habits and Break Bad Ones. His work has appeared in The New York Times, CBS This Morning, Time, Entrepreneur, and he has taught in colleges around the world.  James is also the creator of the Habits Academy, the premier training platform for organizations and individuals that are interested in building better habits in life and work.  In Part 2 of this interview, Eric and James discuss more specific ideas and concepts for establishing good habits and eliminating bad habits.If you’d like to make 2022 a better year for you, bring clarity to what matters most, and discover the tools to help you become the person you really want to be, Eric can help you! To book a FREE, no-pressure 30-minute Discovery call to see if working with Eric is right for you, click here.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!James Clear and I Discuss the Compounding Nature of Habits and…His book, Atomic Habits: An Easy and Proven Way to Build Good Habits and Break Bad OnesHabits are a response to the physical cues in our environmentLearning to make it obvious or reduce friction when trying to create good habits Habit stacking and priming your environment for successClarifying the action: “After _____, I will _____”Getting specific with your actions (when, where)How social environment affects the attractiveness of habitsMaking habits easy and convenientThe two-minute rule for establishing good habitsA habit must be established before it can be improvedOptimize for the starting line rather than the finish lineMake it satisfying – how positive emotions cultivate good habits and negative emotions destroy themBring the long-term consequences into the short termReinforcing your identity by your actionsJames Clear Links:James’s WebsiteTwitterInstagramIf you enjoyed this conversation with James Clear, you might also enjoy these other episodes:James Clear (2015)Tiny Habits for Behavior Change with BJ FoggSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.