Mary O’Malley is the author of many books and a speaker and has studied with Patricia Sun, Steven Levine, Jack Kornfield, Pema Chodron, Adyashanti, and more!  Since the early 1980’s she has been writing books, speaking to groups, leading retreats, and working with people all over the world.   In this episode, Eric and Mary O’Malley discuss how to bring awareness and attention to our heart and learn to fall in love with ourselves. But wait, there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue tathe conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you! Mary O’Malley and I Discuss How to Fall in Love with You and … Learning to embrace the difficult makes it lose its power Noticing what is here brings awareness and openness Our minds are a tool for maneuvering reality, but are not reality How our challenges will be our teachers if we let them Understanding that our heart is connected to everything and is the doorway to freedom Her course, “Falling in Love With You” How your home is your heart The pathways back to YOU What you try to control, controls you One of our core addictions is fixing ourselves The difference between meeting and feeling our feelings How attention heals The importance finding curiosity in your immediate experience Mary O’Malley links: Mary’s Website Twitter Facebook By purchasing products and/or services from our sponsors, you are helping to support The One You Feed and we greatly appreciate it. Thank you! If you enjoyed this conversation with Mary O’Malley, check out these other episodes: Mary O’Malley (2016 Interview) Byron Katie on The WorkSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Kute Blackson is an inspirational speaker and transformational teacher. Born in Ghana, West Africa, Kute’s multicultural upbringing as the child of a Japanese mother and a Ghanaian father has spanned four different continents. His unique lineage lay the foundation for his approach to breaking down barriers and unlocking an individual’s true gifts and greatness. He now speaks at countless events around the world, is a member of the Transformational Leadership Council, and was the winner of the 2019 Unity New Thought Walden Award.  In this episode, Eric and Kute Blackson discuss his book, The Magic of Surrender: Finding the Courage to Let Go. But wait, there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you! Kute Blackson and I Discuss The Magic of Surrender and … His book, The Magic of Surrender: Finding the Courage to Let Go The importance of connecting with who we really are underneath the patterns and stories we’ve built as we grow up Is what I believe about myself and what I believe about life fact or a story? The value of a guide or coach to help you see things about yourself that you may not be seeing How all lessons are repeated until learned That meeting ourselves with compassion allows us to let go of outdated coping mechanisms The difference between surrendering and succumbing to our feelings All feelings remain present until fully felt When you take the label off the feeling, it’s an energy and sensation that can be experienced in your body How grief can actually break our hearts open to a new way of being, a new dimension of love and strength  What surrender is and isn’t Kute Blackson links: Kute’s Website Instagam Facebook By purchasing products and/or services from our sponsors, you are helping to support The One You Feed and we greatly appreciate it. Thank you! If you enjoyed this conversation with Kute Blackson, check out these other episodes: Permission to Glow with Kristoffer Carter Finding Grace with Eiman Al ZaabiSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Carl Erik Fisher is an addiction physician, bioethics scholar, and author  He is an assistant professor of clinical psychiatry at Columbia University and also hosts the podcast “Flourishing After Addiction” In this episode, Eric and Carl Erik Fisher discuss his book, The Urge:  Our History of Addiction. But wait, there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you! Carl Erik Fisher and I Discuss The History of Addiction and … His book,  The Urge:  Our History of Addiction. Recognizing the paradigm of disordered choice in addiction The different approaches to understanding choices for addicts Psychological flexibility and how Society’s categorical views of treatment approaches to addiction Placebo effects in treating addiction The dangers of labeling “good” drugs and “bad” drugs Drug policies and why there is no simple formula for treating addiction How addiction is part of the human condition Defining recovery capital Understanding there are many different pathways to recovery The step care model and one size fits all model of recover The spiritual practice that he developed in recovery Knowing that the key to overcoming addiction is to try Carl Erik Fisher links: Carl Erik Fisher’s Website Instagam Twitter Facebook By purchasing products and/or services from our sponsors, you are helping to support The One You Feed and we greatly appreciate it. Thank you! If you enjoyed this conversation with Carl Erik Fisher, check out these other episodes: Recovery Through Buddha's Teachings with Valerie Mason-John Maia Szalavitz on a Different Lens on Addiction See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Debbie Millman is a writer, designer, educator, artist, brand consultant and host of the podcast, Design Matters.  Debbie was named one of the most creative people in business by Fast Company Magazine and one of the most influential designers working today by Graphic Design USA.  She is the author of 7 books, including her most recent, Why Design Matters:  Conversations with the World’s Most Creative People In this episode, Eric and Debbie Millman have an interesting discussion about why design matters in every aspect of your life.. But wait, there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you! Debbie Millman and I Discuss Why Design Matters and … Her book, Why Design Matters:  Conversations with the World’s Most Creative People Her slow process of shedding shame from her traumatic past Finding her way back to creative work after pursuing security Taking small steps and practicing every day can bring forth hope Design is about intention and decision making about everything Learning to deal with rejection and to perseverance How confidence comes after you do something many times Expecting things to be hard and messy Debbie Millman links: Debbie’s website Twitter Facebook By purchasing products and/or services from our sponsors, you are helping to support The One You Feed and we greatly appreciate it. Thank you! If you enjoyed this conversation with Debbie Millman, check out these other episodes: How to Stay Creative with Austin Kleon Creative Thinking and Action Through Designs with Sarah Stein GreenbergSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Christian Jarrett is the author, editor or contributor to ten books, spanning psychology, neuroscience, self-help and productivity.  He is recognized as a chartered psychologist and associate fellow of the British Psychological Society. and is the Deputy Editor of Psyche, a global digital magazine that illuminates the human condition through psychology, philosophical understanding and the arts. Eric and Christian discuss his latest is Be Who You Want: Unlocking The Science of Personality Change. But wait, there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you! Christian Jarrett and I Discuss The Science of Personality and … His book,  Be Who You Want: Unlocking The Science of Personality Change How some traits are genetic but don’t entirely influence our personality Deliberate actions can short circuit our innate tendencies How cognitive and physical exercise builds confidence and encourages open mindedness The link between mood and personality Defining mood as the temporary state of how you feel How extroversion and introversion personalities are affected by habit The 5 main traits of personality:  openness to experience, conscientiousness, extroversion, agreeableness, neuroticism The maturity principle and how personality traits change as we age How those who are more open and resilient are less prone to dementia Social investment theory refers to how the roles we take on in life shape our personality Will power and the ego depletion theory The importance of being realistic and honest with ourselves when wanting to change Christian Jarrett links: Christian’s website Psyche Digital Magazine Twitter Facebook By purchasing products and/or services from our sponsors, you are helping to support The One You Feed and we greatly appreciate it. Thank you! If you enjoyed this conversation with Christian Jarrett, check out these other episodes: Kevin Mitchell on the Genetics of Personality Neuropsychology and the Thinking Mind with Chris NiebauerSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Martha Beck is a bestselling author, life coach, and speaker who specializes in helping individuals and groups achieve greater levels of personal and professional success. She is the author of nine nonfiction books and one novel, and has been a longtime contributor to O, The Oprah Magazine.  Her most recent book is The Way of Integrity:  Finding the Path to Your True Self  Eric and Martha discuss how to live in integrity and find the path to your true self. But wait, there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you! Martha Beck and I Discuss The Path to Your True Self and … Her book, The Way of Integrity:  Finding the Path to Your True Self\ How what we often want is influenced by our culture Asking ourselves what we yearn for as opposed to what you want The repetitive cycle of thoughts that cause fear How our culture reinforces the fear  Learning to move from fear to curiosity How humor and using your senses can turn down our fear The dilemma of when our nature conflicts with our culture Psychological suffering comes from the thoughts we choose to believe Why suffering is needed to make us pay attention and can actually be our ally Understanding that we have different “internal parts” that make up our whole self (Ref. to Richard Schwartz’s Internal Family Systems Her New Year’s resolution to not lie for a year and the healing that she found Navigating her way out of the Mormon religion How switching our identity to a material self to a limitless state of being brings joy Learning to imagine the good that will come from facing our discomfort The power of small, incremental, and repetitive actions to change your life Martha Beck links: Martha’s website Instagam Twitter Facebook By purchasing products and/or services from our sponsors, you are helping to support The One You Feed and we greatly appreciate it. Thank you! If you enjoyed this conversation with Martha Beck, check out these other episodes: Byron Katie on The Work Richard Schwartz on Internal Family SystemsSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Oliver James is a body-led psychotherapist and breathworker known for integrating breath, movement, and body work to support personal transformation and self exploration. Eric and Oliver discuss his book, 21 Breaths:  Breathing Techniques to Change Your Life But wait, there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you! Oliver James and I Discuss Breath and Body Work Practices and … His book,  21 Breaths:  Breathing Techniques to Change Your Life Defining body led psychotherapy and how it connects breath and movement How our bodies hold trauma and stress Discovering a practice that works for you The importance of patience and slowing down Learning to notice discomfort and remembering to practice breathwork His trademarked “Geometric Breathing” of visualizing shapes as you breathe The importance of nose breathing as opposed to mouth breathing Oliver James links: Oliver’s website Instagam Facebook By purchasing products and/or services from our sponsors, you are helping to support The One You Feed and we greatly appreciate it. Thank you! If you enjoyed this conversation with Oliver James, check out these other episodes: The Science of Breathing with James Nestor Wellness and Breathwork Practices with Josh TrentSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Michael Unbroken is an entrepreneur, best-selling author, coach, speaker, and advocate for survivors of childhood trauma.  He is the host of The Think Unbroken Podcast that features experts, researchers, psychologists, therapists, and change-makers in the trauma and CPTSD healing space. In this episode, Eric and Michael discuss his book, Think Unbroken:  Understanding and Overcoming Childhood Trauma, But wait, there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you! Michael Unbroken and I Discuss How to Overcome Childhood Trauma and … His book, Think Unbroken:  Understanding and Overcoming Childhood Trauma, The day he decided to change his life and stop being the victim Taking radical responsibility for who you are and your choices How it takes doing difficult things to build confidence When he realized he was letting himself down just as others had let him down The greatest tool to have is the mindset of no excuses, just results Learning to discover your identity after childhood trauma The importance of writing down who you want to be Gaining clarity on your values guides your choices Challenging the narrative of who you believe you are His willingness to try the many tools and modalities to see what worked for him  The benefits of hiring a coach in addition to therapy The power of finding and being part of a community Being kind to ourselves and learning from our mistakes Michael Unbroken links: Michael’s Website Instagam Twitter Facebook By purchasing products and/or services from our sponsors, you are helping to support The One You Feed and we greatly appreciate it. Thank you! If you enjoyed this conversation with Michael Unbroken, check out these other episodes: Jonice Webb on Childhood Emotional Neglect Charles FennyhoughSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Lauren Zander is a life coach, university lecturer, public speaker and co-founder and chairwoman of The Handel Group. Her book, Maybe It’s You: Cut the Crap. Face Your Fears. Love Your Life, is what she and Eric discuss in this episode. Lauren has an incredibly useful approach to uncovering your limiting inner dialogue so that you can truly catapult yourself forward in life.  In this episode, Eric and Lauren discuss several strategies to work with your inner dialogue. But wait, there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you! Lauren Zander and I Discuss How to Work with Your Inner Dialogue and … Her book, Maybe It’s You: Cut the Crap. Face Your Fears. Love Your Life. Getting conscious of the unconscious parts of yourself Her life-changing moment at 19 How much of what is plaguing us is our inner dialogue Recognizing the strategist in your head How over 80% of our thoughts are negative and are on repeat The chicken, the brat, and the weather reporter within us How your linneage, beliefs and theories create our inner dialogue Steps to managing thought patterns Learning to make and keep promises to yourself Giving ourselves consequences to change our behavior How helpful having an accountability partner is Lauren Zander links: handelgroup.com Twitter Facebook By purchasing products and/or services from our sponsors, you are helping to support The One You Feed and we greatly appreciate it. Thank you! If you enjoyed this conversation with Lauren Zander, check out these other episodes: Mark Manson Danielle LaPorteSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

David Whyte is a poet and author who also leads the Many Rivers Organization and Invitas, the Institute for Conversational Leadership, which he founded in 2014. David is the author of many poetry collection and prose books, including his newest book, Still Possible In this episode, Eric and David discuss several of David’s beautiful poems from his latest collection, as well as some of his older work. But wait, there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you! David Whyte and I Discuss The Art of Poetry and Prose and… His book, Still Possible His poem, Your Prayer The metaphor of a doorway, and how it can be a barrier or an opening in your life Beautiful forgetting and how we can get out of and then into ourselves How depression is a form of stuckness Asking yourself how invitational you are to the people in your life His book, The Three Marriages How poetry is the art of saying things you didn’t know you knew His poem, The Road to Santiago How our reluctances are doorways to connection to other people Anxiety and how it is a kind of staticness How not knowing is great intimacy The importance of silence and rest David Whyte links: David’s Website Twitter Instagram Facebook By purchasing products and/or services from our sponsors, you are helping to support The One You Feed and we greatly appreciate it. Thank you! If you enjoyed this conversation with David Whyte check out these other episodes: Beautiful and Powerful Poetry with Marilyn Nelson The Power of Poetry with Ellen BassSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.