Susan David is a psychologist on faculty at Harvard Medical School. She’s also the co-founder and co-director of The Institute of Coaching at McLean Hospital and is CEO of Evidence-Based Psychology. Have you ever gotten hooked by a difficult emotion? In other words, have you ever felt compelled to act on a strong feeling without having any space to think about your action first? If so, you will find really helpful wisdom in this episode that you can take, apply today and live a more skillful, open-hearted life. In this episode, Eric and Susan David discuss her book, Emotional Agility: Get Unstuck, Embrace Change, and Thrive in Work and Life Registration for The Well Trained Mind Program is now open!  Learn the foundations of mindfulness and create a more fulfilling spiritual practice in Ginny’s live virtual program that starts on October 9.  Visit oneyoufeed.net/mindfulness to learn more! Susan David and I Discuss How to Create Emotional Agility and … Her book, Emotional Agility: Get Unstuck, Embrace Change, and Thrive in Work and Life How emotions are a guidance system and aren’t good or bad Learning  That emotions can help us adapt and thrive The thinking “unless I’m happy all the time, something is wrong” Emotional agility is when we connect with our values and move forward in action Emotional rigidity is when we believe the negative voice in our head and are reactive or on autopilot How we get “hooked” when we accept our thoughts as facts Strategies for getting “unhooked”  Recognizing our patterns and being curious and compassionate about how we’re reacting Understanding that tough emotions are part of life Shifting thing from “I am ____ ” to “I notice that I’m feeling_____” Choice points:  do I move towards or away from my values? Our values are quality of action Social contagion describes how we catch other peoples’ behaviors and emotions The power of keeping our values front of mind A meaningful life comes with discomfort How our difficult emotions are signposts for our values Premature cognitive commitment is when we decide before we think Susan David Links Susan’s Website Twitter Instagram Facebook By purchasing products and/or services from our sponsors, you are helping to support The One You Feed and we greatly appreciate it. Thank you! If you enjoyed this conversation with Susan David, check out these other episodes: How to Handle Emotions with Hilary Jacobs Hendel How to Cope with Big Feelings with Liz FosslienSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dean Sluyter is an award-winning author who has taught meditation since 1970, from maximum security prisons to the Guatemalan rainforest. He’s a student of Eastern and Western sages from multiple traditions and has completed numerous pilgrimages and retreats in India, Tebet, Nepal, and the West.  In this episode, Eric and Dean discuss his latest book, The Dharma Bums Guide to Western Literature: Finding Nirvana in the Classics, which reflects his lifelong exploration of the awakening process as well as his years as a prep school English teacher. Registration for The Well Trained Mind Program is now open!  Learn the foundations of mindfulness and create a more fulfilling spiritual practice in Ginny’s live virtual program that starts on October 9.  Visit oneyoufeed.net/mindfulness to learn more! But wait, there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you! Dean Sluyter and I Discuss How to See the Dharma in Western Literary Classics and … His book, The Dharma Bums Guide to Western Literature: Finding Nirvana in the Classics The role (or lack thereof) of efforting in meditation The difference between awareness and mind  What it means to “relax your grip” or “let it be” during meditation The Dharma and the Infinite in The Cat and the Hat  That dualism is the way the world appears to us when viewed through the thinking mind How to find the fragrant emptiness at the core of our minds, beyond all thoughts That only the infinite can give us infinite joy, in the finite world – having can’t match our yearning. The nature of desire is that it replicates itself Kindness in Huckleberry Finn That the kingdom of heaven is spread upon the earth, within and all around us Dean Sluyter Links Dean’s Website Instagram Facebook By purchasing products and/or services from our sponsors, you are helping to support The One You Feed and we greatly appreciate it. Thank you! If you enjoyed this conversation with Dean Sluyter, check out these other episodes: Dean Sluyter Interview (2019) Inventions in Literature with Angus FletcherSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Jillian Turecki is a certified relationship coach, teacher, and writer who for the last 20 years has taught others how to transform their relationship with themselves and others.  Jillian is also the host of the podcast, Jillian on Love.   In this episode, Eric and Jillian discuss her work coaching and teaching people how to develop healthier relationships with themselves and others. Registration for The Well Trained Mind Program is now open!  Learn the foundations of mindfulness and create a more fulfilling spiritual practice in Ginny's live virtual program that starts on October 9.  Visit oneyoufeed.net/mindfulness to learn more! But wait, there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you! Jillian Turecki and I Discuss How to Have Healthy Relationships with Yourself and Others and … Her podcast, Jillian on Love Recognizing that our minds create stories that we can easily get caught up in. The importance of understanding issues in a relationship aren’t just about the other person, but as much about yourself Taking responsibility for your love life is not about blaming yourself How we need to love ourselves before we can love others well Important medicine for relationships:  accountability, forgiveness, and truth The biggest problems in a relationship is trying to change the other person and relying too much on the other person to make you happy Asking “how can I change to help you change?” When a relationship is failing, we often go into survival mode and neglect to see our role in the relationship How we need to keep acknowledging our appreciation to our partners Our “emotional home” is the pattern of what we do when we’re stressed How all of our emotional patterns come from fear The critical role of cC\ommunication in relationships Remembering that we should be listening more and talking less How you think about your partner’s intent when feeling hurt or angry Jillian Turecki Links Jillian’s Website Jillian’s Podcast Instagram Facebook By purchasing products and/or services from our sponsors, you are helping to support The One You Feed and we greatly appreciate it. Thank you! If you enjoyed this conversation with Jillian Turecki, check out these other episodes: Dr. Sue Johnson on Navigatin Romantic Relationships Cindy Stulberg on RelationshipsSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Ginny Gay is a Certified Mindfulness Teacher and has worked with Eric to create content here at The One You Feed for the past 8 years. Prior to that, she spent 13 years in the corporate world where she thought climbing the corporate ladder equated to success in life. Instead, that approach ultimately led her to a place of severe burnout, addiction, anxiety, and depression. Now, she knows that for her, success in all aspects of life comes from living from a place of authenticity and integration where meaningful work and relationships are the fruit and contribution to the world.  Ginny loves creating courses, programs, workshops, and written content to help people live life more skillfully and help them navigate the difficulties that come from the inherent challenges of being human so that they can experience more peace, purpose, and joy in their daily lives. In this episode, Eric and Ginny discuss her story of struggle and growth, how to work with the inner critic and what it means to practice mindfulness. But wait, there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!   Ginny Gay and I Discuss How to Free Yourself from the Inner Critic Through Mindfulness and … The way not wanting to experience internal pain can drive us to act in potentially harmful, problematic ways Her experience in a fundamentalist Christian church Her experience hitting the glass ceiling in the corporate pharmaceutical industry The circumstances surrounding her addiction and burnout  How she was able to believe in growth through difficulty during the worst time in her life The key learnings that helped her transform her life from the ground up The radical shift she made that saved her life The power of naming things as they show up inside of us The corrosive impact of the inner critic How to differentiate the inner critic from our helpful inner conscience Where the inner critic comes from The various ways the inner critic shows up in us How to free yourself from the inner critic What mindfulness really means The benefits of practicing mindfulness The connection between mindfulness and meditation Her definition of spirituality Her mindfulness program, The Well Trained Mind Ginny Gay Links FREE 3-Part Mindfulness Training: How to Quiet the Inner Critic The Well Trained Mind Program By purchasing products and/or services from our sponsors, you are helping to support The One You Feed and we greatly appreciate it. Thank you! If you enjoyed this conversation with Ginny Gay, check out these other episodes: Mindfulness in Nature with Mark Coleman Transforming Your Inner Critic with Dr. Aziz GazipuraSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dr. Gabor Maté is a highly sought expert on a wide range of topics such as addiction, stress, and childhood development.  He has written many books, of which several are best-sellers, including the award-winning “In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts” , “Close Encounters with Addiction”, and “When the Body Says No:  Exploring the Stress-Disease Culture.”  Gabor’s work has been published internationally and in more than 30 languages. In this episode, Eric and Dr. Maté discuss his book, The Myth of Normal: Trauma, Illness, and Healing in a Toxic Culture But wait, there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you! Dr. Gabor Mate and I Discuss How to … His book,  The Myth of Normal: Trauma, Illness, and Healing in a Toxic Culture Defining the myths of normal How the increasing anxiety, depression, and other mental health issues are a result of toxic culture Stress and trauma can begin for a child in utero, at childbirth, and throughout childhood The modern stresses of our world contributes to a toxic culture How parents pass down their traumas to their children Defining trauma as a psychic wound that happens inside of you The healing process is the recovery of self Understanding the clash between attachment and authenticity How emotions and immune systems are part of the same system The importance of understanding the important link between emotions and physical health Trauma imposed self beliefs are the main obstacles of healing Remembering that healing is a lifelong process The 4 A’s of healing:  authenticity, agency, acceptance, and anger (healthy)  Dr. Gabor Mate Links: Dr. Gabor Mate’s website Twitter Instagram Facebook By purchasing products and/or services from our sponsors, you are helping to support The One You Feed and we greatly appreciate it. Thank you! If you enjoyed this conversation with Dr, Gabor Maté, check out these other episodes: Dr. Gabor Mate’s Interview from 2016 Healing Trauma with Dr. James GordonSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Scott Barry Kaufman, Ph.D., is a cognitive scientist and humanistic psychologist exploring the depths of human potential. He is a professor at Columbia University and director of the Center for Human Potential. Dr. Kaufman has authored 10 books and is host of The Psychology Podcast. In 2015, he was named one of “50 groundbreaking scientists who are changing the way we see the world” by Business Insider.   Jordyn H. Feingold, MD, MAPP, MSCR is a resident physician in psychiatry at the Icahn School of Medicine at Mount Sinai in NYC, well-being researcher, and positive psychology practitioner. Her research and clinical interests involve protecting and promoting health care worker and patient well-being and incorporating positive psychology approaches into health care delivery. In this episode, Eric talks to Scott and Jordyn about their book, Choose Growth: A Workbook for Transcending Trauma, Fear, and Self-Doubt But wait, there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!   Scott Barry Kaufman, Jordyn Feingold, and I Discuss How to Choose Growth and … Their book, ChooseGrowth: A Workbook for Transcending Trauma, Fear, and Self-Doubt How practicing what is uncomfortable will lead to growth Understanding the relationship between security and growth The importance of the word “yet” and how it creates a belief that change is possible How growth is about finding the balance between doing and being Healthy transcendance includes fusing the connection of self with the world The self actualization process and getting in touch with our potential Learning to embrace our character strengths as our super powers How we can improve our weaknesses by using our top strengths The importance of defining our values and what matters most to us Closing the gap between how we’re living and the values that we hold Scott & Jordyn Links: Scott’s Website Scott’s Twitter Facebook Jordyn’s Twitter Jordyn’s Website By purchasing products and/or services from our sponsors, you are helping to support The One You Feed and we greatly appreciate it. Thank you! If you enjoyed this conversation with Scott Barry Kaufman and Jordyn Feingold, check out these other episodes: Living a Transcendant Life with Scott Barry Kaufman (2020) Fixed and Growth Mindset with Carol DweckSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Steve Magness is a world-renowned expert on performance, well-being, and sustainable success.He is coauthor of the best selling Peak Performance and The Passion Paradox. In his coaching practice, Steve works with executives, entrepreneurs, and athletes on their performance and mental skills. He also serves as a consultant on mental skills development for professional sports teams, including some of the top teams in professional sports.  In this episode, Eric and Steve discuss his book, Do Hard Things: Why We Get Resilience Wrong and the Surprising Science of Real Toughness.  But wait, there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you! Steve Magness and I Discuss How to Build Resilience and … His book, Do Hard Things:  Why We Get Resilience Wrong and the Surprising Science of Real Toughness Asking ourselves if our inner voice is fair, rather than good or bad How we handle difficult things better when we feel secure and supported Defining toughness as navigating discomfort to make the best decision you can Understanding the importance of confidence in toughness Quiet internal confidence is about being realistic in our ability and the difficulty of the task at hand. How doubt is a necessary component of confidence A central component of internal confidence and motivation is seeing progress How consistency and taking small steps is what matters most Accurate appraisal of both the challenges we face and our internal feelings Understanding that feelings are the body’s communication system The importance of awareness and contextualization when dealing with feelings and emotions Dealing with the two types of inner dialogue – integrated and confrontational Learning to shift your self talk to 2nd or 3rd person voice How stress narrows our perspective and amplifies negative feelings Steve Magness Links: Steve’s Website Instagram Twitter Facebook By purchasing products and/or services from our sponsors, you are helping to support The One You Feed and we greatly appreciate it. Thank you! If you enjoyed this conversation with Steve Magness, check out these other episodes: Strengthening Our Resilience with Linda Graham Lisa Feldman Barrett on EmotionsSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Shauna Niequist is the New York Times Best Selling author of many books such as Present Over Perfect, Bread and Wine, Cold Tangerines, and others. She lives in New York City with her husband and two sons.  In this episode, Eric and Shauna discuss her book, I Guess I Haven’t Learned That Yet: Discovering New Ways of Living When the Old Ones Stop Working. But wait, there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you! Shauna Niequist and I Discuss How to Discover New Ways of Living and … Her book, I Guess I Haven’t Learned That Yet: Discovering New Ways of Living When the Old Ones Stop Working Why the word hospitality is important to her What self-compassion means to her and how she practices it Seeing out beauty as an act of prayer, worship, and resistance Putting herself in the path of joy and beauty, giving herself the greatest chance to find them How to practice being easily delighted It’s ok for the joy of something to be that it feels like play Seeing people different from you is a reminder that you can change and find a new way of being How radical and freeing it is to consent to the reality of the way things are The value of adding to our toolkit of ways we can help ourselves when we are struggling What it means for her that sometimes saying no is in service to a much better yes  Shauna Niequist links: Shauna’s Website Instagram By purchasing products and/or services from our sponsors, you are helping to support The One You Feed and we greatly appreciate it. Thank you! If you enjoyed this conversation with Shauna Niequist, check out these other episodes: Radical Self Love with Sonya Renee Taylor Poetry and Life Lessons with Maggie SmithSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Clark Strand is an American author and lecturer on spirituality and religion.  He is a former Zen Buddhist monk and was the first Senior Editor of Tricycle:  The Buddhist Review.  He is also the author of many books including The Way of the Rose: The Radical Path of the Divine Feminine Hidden in the Rosary and Seeds of a Birch Tree:  Writing Haiku and the Spiritual Journey In this episode, Eric and Clark discuss a few of his books in addition to his exploration of the many spiritual traditions. But wait, there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you! Clark Strand and I Discuss Haiku and Other Creative Spiritual Practices and … His book, Waking Up to the Dark:  The Black Madonna’s Gospel for an Age of Extinction and Collapse His exploration of many spiritual traditions Self power and other power The circular notion of spiritual life rather than linear notion of progress How a bead/rosary practice represents the circular nature of spirituality The “hour of God” or “hour of the wolf” when awake in the night Haiku and the tradition and forms of this type of poetry Translation of haiku is “playful verse” How profound meanings can come through from this playful art from Clark Strand links: Clark’s Website Instagram By purchasing products and/or services from our sponsors, you are helping to support The One You Feed and we greatly appreciate it. Thank you! If you enjoyed this conversation with Clark Strand, check out these other episodes: The Divine Feminine with Mirabai Starr Being Heart-Minded with Sarah BlondinSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Fariha Roisin is an Australian Canadian writer whose work frequently covers her identity as a queer, south Asian Muslim woman as well as self-care and pop culture. Her work has appeared in The New York Times, Al Jazeera, The Guardian, Vice, Village Voice,and other publications. She has written a book of poetry (How To Cure A Ghost), a journal (Being In Your Body), and a novel (Like A Bird). In this episode, Eric and Fariha discuss her non-fiction book, Who Is Wellness For? An Examination of Wellness Culture and Who It Leaves Behind. But wait, there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!   Fariha Roisin and I Discuss Wellness Culture and … Her book, Who Is Wellness For? An Examination of Wellness Culture and Who It Leaves Behind The way her severe childhood trauma has shaped her entire life That we are shaped by the trauma of our families and ancestors The factors that weave into how we need to heal The importance of looking at and into the darkness for ourselves Being alive IS the journey of self-discovery to show up as a fairer, kinder version of yourself How discomfort is undervalued That unraveling is the nexus for change in life The difficult path of healing will give you your life if you follow it How achieving or ascension can be a trauma response What it means to become a more whole version of yourself – where every part of you is allowed The idea of taking only what you give How healing requires being present with yourself  Fariha Roisin links: Fariha’s Website Fariha’s Newsletter Instagram By purchasing products and/or services from our sponsors, you are helping to support The One You Feed and we greatly appreciate it. Thank you! If you enjoyed this conversation with Fariha Roisin, check out these other episodes: How to Overcome Childhood Trauma with Michael Unbroken Donna Hylton on Healing and HopeSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.