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How Not to Ruin Your Relationships | Drs. John & Julie Gottman

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Feb 14, 2022
Drs. John and Julie Gottman, co-founders of The Gottman Institute, share invaluable insights on nurturing relationships. They discuss how love is a skill that can be developed, emphasizing effective communication and managing conflicts. The couple explains their 'Sound Relationship House' theory, highlighting trust, intimacy, and responding to each other's needs as key to a strong partnership. They also delve into betrayal prevention, the healing power of humor, and offer resources to further enhance relationship health. Perfect for anyone wanting to improve their connections!
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ANECDOTE

Meeting at a Coffee House

  • Julie Gottman met John at a coffee house, finding him sexy with his dark glasses and leather attire.
  • She fell in love with his car, a red, blotchy vehicle affectionately nicknamed "Bondo."
INSIGHT

Origin of Relationship Research

  • John Gottman's research on relationships stemmed from his and his friend's difficulties with women.
  • Their initial research, combining physiological data with interaction analysis, surprised them with its predictive accuracy.
INSIGHT

Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse

  • The "Four Horsemen"—criticism, contempt, defensiveness, and stonewalling—predict relationship demise.
  • "Masters of relationships" demonstrate less defensiveness, take responsibility, and maintain humor and engagement.
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