Why You’re Lacking Charisma & How To Create It w/Vanessa Van Edwards EP 1231

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Feb 21, 2022

In this engaging chat, Vanessa Van Edwards, Lead Investigator at Science of People and bestselling author, shares her insights on charisma and effective communication. She reveals the secrets behind building trust through social cues and explores the fine line between charisma and narcissism. With fascinating anecdotes from analyzing Shark Tank pitches, Vanessa emphasizes the importance of nonverbal cues and genuine interaction in fostering connections. Discover how body language, hand gestures, and empathy can elevate your communication skills and build impactful relationships!

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ADVICE

Smiling for Success

Show a genuine smile to be contagious and increase happiness.
Ensure your smile reaches your eyes and crinkles them.

INSIGHT

Social Rejection Cues

Social rejection cues increase our field of vision and pupil dilation.
Labeling the cue helps calm the amygdala and regain control.

ADVICE

Control Cues

Control your reaction to others' cues by labeling and responding appropriately.
Acknowledging cues helps regulate your physiology and take back control.

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