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Relationship Advice from a “Mega Monk” | Haemin Sunim

Nov 11, 2020

Haemin Sunim, a Korean Zen Buddhist monk and author of the bestselling 'Love for Imperfect Things,' shares his journey from academia to monastic life. He discusses the importance of self-love and mindfulness, revealing how perfectionism often exists in our minds. With insights into relationship dynamics, he offers advice on empathy and support, emphasizing the beauty of imperfection. Sunim also reflects on the transformative power of attention in love, showing how genuine connections thrive through mindfulness.

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Intro

3min

The Journey of Self-Discovery: Embracing Non-Duality

16min

From Existential Queries to Practical Support: A Journey of Healing

5min

Exploring Relationship Dynamics Through a Celibate Monk's Lens

4min

From Social Media to Spiritual Bestsellers

2min

Navigating Technology and Embracing Imperfection

4min

Embracing Imperfection

7min

Awareness and the Nature of Self

19min

The Transformative Power of Attention in Love

4min

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Acknowledgments and Next Episode Teaser

2min

My guest today does a fantastic job of speaking in a not-at-all-annoying way about the inarguably important yet potentially very cheesy concept of self-love. Haemin Sunim is a Korean “mega monk” who has developed a massive online following and has written huge bestsellers. He’s also earned degrees from Berkeley, Harvard, and Princeton, and is the founder of South Korea’s School for Broken Hearts. In this conversation, we talk about how perfection resides only in your mind, how a celibate monk learned to give great relationship advice, and how he manages his own relationship to ambition. We also have a fascinating exchange about enlightenment. Where to find Haemin Sunim online: Website: https://www.haeminsunim.com/en Twitter: https://twitter.com/haeminsunim Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/haeminsunim/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/haemin_sunim/?hl=en Other Resources Mentioned: • Love for Imperfect Things by Haemin Sunim - https://www.haeminsunim.com/books • Haemin Sunim’s School for Broken Hearts - https://www.haeminsunim.com/school • Song of Myself by Walt Whitman - https://poets.org/poem/song-myself-4 • Ash Wednesday by T.S. Eliot - http://famouspoetsandpoems.com/poets/t__s__eliot/poems/15133 Additional Resources: • Ten Percent Happier Live: https://tenpercent.com/live • Coronavirus Sanity Guide: https://www.tenpercent.com/coronavirussanityguide • Free App access for Frontline Workers: https://tenpercent.com/care Full Shownotes: https://www.tenpercent.com/podcast-episode/haemin-sunim-299

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