58: What it *actually* means to love yourself and to release shame and blame with Masha Kay!
Feb 9, 2024
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In this episode, Masha Kay, an expert in self-love and shame release, joins Sabrina to discuss what it actually means to love yourself and release shame and blame. They explore topics such as misconceptions and challenges on the journey of self-love, the importance of genuine self-love, the power of self-love and compassion, and understanding self-love, accountability, and compassion. They also touch on misconceptions and struggles with self-love, emphasizing the ongoing action and choices required to show up for oneself with curiosity, compassion, and kindness.
Self-love involves accepting the darker aspects of oneself and responding with kindness and understanding.
Practicing self-love enables compassion for oneself and holding contradictory thoughts and emotions.
Self-love means avoiding blame and judgment, pursuing personal growth, and choosing oneself without relying on external validation.
Deep dives
Understanding the concept of self-love
Self-love is often misunderstood and encompasses more than just indulgence or discipline. It involves acceptance, self-compassion, curiosity, and kindness towards oneself. Self-love is not about only loving the best parts of oneself, but also accepting the darker and uglier aspects. It allows for accountability without shame or blame, and it is not about constant positive thoughts or feeling good all the time. Self-love means treating oneself with compassion in the tough moments, holding space for emotions, and responding with kindness and understanding.
The importance of holding contradictory ideas
Self-love allows for holding seemingly contradictory ideas at the same time. It means having compassion and acceptance for oneself, even in the face of mistakes or difficult emotions. Self-love is not about hating or villainizing oneself, nor is it about making excuses or refusing to hold oneself accountable. It involves acknowledging the reality of a situation, learning from it, and responding with self-kindness and growth. Holding contradictory thoughts and emotions is a game-changer in personal growth and enables compassion and understanding for oneself and others.
Avoiding blame and judgment in relationships
Practicing self-love means avoiding blame and judgment in relationships, both romantic and otherwise. It is about having compassion for oneself and others, understanding that everyone has their own journey and struggles. Instead of seeking constant validation or approval from others, self-love allows for introspection, self-validation, and making choices that benefit personal growth. Self-love also involves acknowledging and expressing emotions, setting boundaries, and choosing oneself first without relying on external validation or the need for constant approval from others.
The Importance of Self-Love and Getting to Know Ourselves
Self-love is crucial for self-reflection, acceptance, and understanding our own desires. Without knowing ourselves, our desires become influenced by societal expectations, external validation, and the opinions of others. This lack of self-love can lead to emptiness and the feeling of running towards goals that don't align with our true desires. Being the creator of our own reality requires self-love and escaping the cycle of seeking approval from others. By embracing our authentic selves, we can run towards goals that truly resonate with us and shape our own realities.
The Dark and Challenging Aspects of Self-Love
Self-love is not always about love and light. It involves facing and accepting our darkest and most imperfect parts, allowing ourselves to feel and validate our emotions. Developing self-love means befriending ourselves and observing our behaviors without judgment. It requires curiosity, compassion, and understanding towards the parts of ourselves we may have previously shamed or blamed. By cultivating self-love in the face of darkness, we can transform our perceptions, change our actions, and ultimately create a different reality that aligns with our self-acceptance and self-worth.
On this weeks episode of The Sabrina Zohar Show, Sabrina is joined by Masha Kay to chat about what it *actually* means to love yourself and to release shame and blame especially around Valentines Day!
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