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Strengthen Your Self Esteem: Insights on Belonging and Social Approval | Dr. Mark Leary

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Dec 27, 2023

Dr. Mark Leary, a former professor of psychology and neuroscience, discusses the role of self-esteem in our lives. He talks about reshaping self-esteem for personal growth, shifting from external validation, navigating social anxiety, and effective leadership. The podcast dives into sociometer theory and the importance of belonging, acceptance, and positive interactions in organizations. It also explores techniques to overcome public speaking anxiety and the dark side of self-focus and self-reflection.

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INSIGHT

Self-Esteem as Social Gauge

Self-esteem acts as an internal gauge monitoring social acceptance, not just a desire to feel good about oneself.
We seek behaviors that boost acceptance rather than self-esteem for its own sake.

INSIGHT

Belonging Is Evolutionary Necessity

Our survival depended on belonging tightly to social groups and avoiding rejection.
Caring about others' opinions is a natural, necessary aspect of human existence, not a weakness.

ADVICE

Balance Caring and Worrying

Care about others' opinions enough to make a good impression but avoid obsessive worry.
Recognize when social concern turns into anxiety that paralyzes and seek to adjust it.

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In a world increasingly obsessed with self-image and social validation, how do we truly understand the role of self-esteem in our lives? Is it merely a reflection of our ego? What purpose does it serve?

These questions form the core of our conversation with Dr. Mark Leary, a former professor of psychology and neuroscience at Duke University, who retired after 39 years of teaching, publishing 14 books and 250+ scholarly articles and chapters on topics such as social motivation, emotion, and self-relevant thought.

Mark is also a disruptor – and that’s not usually a word we associate with professors of psychology and neuroscience. But in this case it’s appropriate because Mark’s sociometer theory didn't just make waves; it created a whole new ocean in the field of psychology. This was a groundbreaking idea that redefined self-esteem. It's a perspective that turned heads and opened minds in a way that challenged academics and practitioners alike.

In this episode, we peel back the layers on how to reshape your self-esteem into a dynamic tool for personal and professional growth, strategies to shift from external validation to a more authentic, self-grounded approach, navigating social anxiety with ease to enhance your everyday performance, the keys to unlocking effective leadership by tuning into the fundamental needs of your team, and so much more...

Whether you're leading a team, competing in sports, studying for your future, or simply navigating the complexities of daily interactions, there's a wealth of insights waiting for you in this conversation.

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