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Strengthen Your Self Esteem: Insights on Belonging and Social Approval | Dr. Mark Leary

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Dec 27, 2023
Dr. Mark Leary, a former professor of psychology and neuroscience, discusses the role of self-esteem in our lives. He talks about reshaping self-esteem for personal growth, shifting from external validation, navigating social anxiety, and effective leadership. The podcast dives into sociometer theory and the importance of belonging, acceptance, and positive interactions in organizations. It also explores techniques to overcome public speaking anxiety and the dark side of self-focus and self-reflection.
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INSIGHT

Self-Esteem as Social Gauge

  • Self-esteem acts as an internal gauge monitoring social acceptance, not just a desire to feel good about oneself.
  • We seek behaviors that boost acceptance rather than self-esteem for its own sake.
INSIGHT

Belonging Is Evolutionary Necessity

  • Our survival depended on belonging tightly to social groups and avoiding rejection.
  • Caring about others' opinions is a natural, necessary aspect of human existence, not a weakness.
ADVICE

Balance Caring and Worrying

  • Care about others' opinions enough to make a good impression but avoid obsessive worry.
  • Recognize when social concern turns into anxiety that paralyzes and seek to adjust it.
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