Life Kit How to 'fight right' with your partner
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Feb 13, 2024 
In this engaging discussion, renowned relationship researchers Julie and John Gottman, who have spent 40 years studying marriage, share insights from their new book, 'Fight Right.' They explore how couples can navigate conflicts effectively, emphasizing the importance of communication and understanding differing fighting styles. The Gottmans introduce the Bagel Method for distinguishing between flexible and non-negotiable issues, turning disputes into opportunities for growth. With practical tools and strategies, they guide couples towards deeper connections and healthier interactions.
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Understand Fighting Styles
- Understand your and your partner's fighting styles.
- Consider how conflict was handled in your families.
Maintain Positivity
- Maintain a 5:1 ratio of positive to negative emotions during conflict.
- Express interest, validate, and use humor to lubricate communication.
The Bomb Drop
- The "bomb drop" fight involves suppressing frustrations and then exploding.
- This often manifests as criticizing your partner's personality.
