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#529: Iconic Therapist Dr. Sue Johnson — How to Improve Sex and Crack the Code of Love

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Aug 26, 2021

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Sue Johnson

Dr. Sue Johnson, a renowned expert in couple therapy and the developer of Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), shares her insights on enhancing relationships. She discusses the secrets of emotional bonding and the importance of vulnerability in fostering deep connections. Johnson emphasizes structured conversations, like 'hold me tight,' to combat isolation, and reveals how attachment science can transform relationships. She also dives into the nuances of intimacy, drawing parallels between tango and romantic partnerships, highlighting the dance of love.

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EFT Research and Effectiveness

EFT boasts impressive outcomes with distressed couples, showing significant improvements in relationship satisfaction and bonding.
These results are backed by over 20 outcome studies and hold strong even after three years.

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Bond Security vs. Satisfaction

EFT aims to improve relationship bond security, not just satisfaction, leading to increased trust and intimacy.
This secure bond also positively affects mental health, reducing depression and anxiety.

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fMRI Study on Secure Connection

In an fMRI study, women's brains showed reduced threat response when holding their partner's hand after EFT.
This demonstrates the biological impact of secure connection on the nervous system.

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Exploring Emotionally Focused Therapy and Relationship Dynamics

04:37 • 2min

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Deepening Connections: The Science of Emotionally Focused Therapy

06:32 • 25min

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Fostering Connection Through Structured Conversations

31:12 • 2min

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Navigating Emotional Connection in Relationships

33:25 • 20min

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Navigating Emotional Landscapes in Therapy

53:43 • 21min

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The Bonds We Build: Lessons from Churchill

01:14:39 • 5min

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The Dance of Love and Connection

01:19:43 • 29min

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Strengthening Bonds: Hold Me Tight Online

01:48:39 • 10min

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Discovering Mindfulness and Sleep Solutions

01:58:14 • 6min

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Hold Me Tight

Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love

Sue Johnson

In 'Hold Me Tight,' Dr. Sue Johnson presents a revolutionary approach to understanding and enhancing romantic relationships. The book is grounded in attachment theory and EFT, emphasizing the importance of emotional connection and dependency in adult relationships. It outlines seven crucial conversations that couples can have to recognize and address negative patterns, understand deeper feelings, and reestablish a secure emotional bond. The book includes practical exercises, real-life case studies, and sage advice to help couples nurture, protect, and grow their relationships[3][4][5].

Attachment Theory in Practice

John Bowlby

What Happened to You?

Conversations on Trauma, Resilience, and Healing

Bruce D. Perry

Oprah Winfrey

Through deeply personal conversations, Oprah Winfrey and Dr. Bruce Perry explore how traumatic experiences in early life shape behavior and identity. The book emphasizes the importance of understanding and addressing past traumas to clear a path for future healing and resilience. Winfrey shares stories from her own past, while Dr. Perry provides scientific and emotional insights, highlighting the need to ask 'What happened to you?' rather than 'What’s wrong with you?' to foster a deeper understanding of human behavior and promote healing[1][3][5].

The Last Lion

Winston Spencer Churchill

William Manchester

This trilogy presents a detailed and revelatory portrait of Winston Churchill. The volumes cover his life from 1874 to 1965, including his early years ('Visions of Glory, 1874-1932'), his political isolation and warnings about the Nazi threat ('Alone, 1932-1940'), and his leadership during World War II and the post-war period ('Defender of the Realm, 1940-1965'). The final volume was completed by Paul Reid based on Manchester's research and notes after Manchester's death.

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Dr. Sue Johnson (@Dr_SueJohnson) is a leading innovator in the fields of couple therapy and adult attachment. She is the primary developer of Emotionally Focused Couples and Family Therapy (EFT), which has demonstrated its effectiveness in over 30 years of peer-reviewed clinical research. Sue has received numerous awards in recognition of her development of EFT, including the American Psychological Association’s “Family Psychologist of the Year” and the Order of Canada.

Her best-selling book Hold Me Tight—with more than one million copies sold—has taught countless couples how to enhance and repair their love relationships. The book has since been developed into a relationship enhancement program called Hold Me Tight Online. Her most recent book for clinicians, Attachment Theory in Practice, delineates the promise of attachment science for understanding and repairing relationships.

As the founding director of the International Centre for Excellence in Emotionally Focused Therapy (ICEEFT), Sue trains counselors in EFT worldwide and provides guidance to 80 affiliated centers. She consults for the US and Canadian militaries and is a popular presenter and speaker for the general public.

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