The SelfWork Podcast 457 SelfWork: How To Be Enough: A Conversation with Ellen Hendriksen
Aug 1, 2025
Ellen Hendriksen, a clinical psychologist at Boston University, chats about her new book, 'How to Be Enough,' tackling the insidious nature of perfectionism. She shares insights on how perfectionism can stem from personal experiences, leading to feelings of inadequacy. The conversation emphasizes the importance of embracing personal values over achievements and the power of vulnerability in forming connections. Ellen offers practical advice for self-acceptance and highlights the significance of supportive relationships in overcoming self-criticism.
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Perfectionism Defined as Feeling Insufficient
- Perfectionism is not about striving for perfection, but about never feeling good enough.
- This shifts the focus from achievement to a persistent internal dissatisfaction.
Perfectionism Backfires Socially
- Perfectionistic self-presentation aims to show only success and hide failure.
- Ironically, this behavior results in social disconnection and loneliness instead of acceptance.
Open Up with Tiny Steps
- Start opening up to others by sharing small, low-risk truths about yourself.
- Tiny steps build trust and warm connections without overwhelming vulnerability.
