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The Hidden Cost of Perfectionism: Why You Never Feel Good Enough with Ellen Hendriksen

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Feb 21, 2025
Ellen Hendriksen, a clinical psychologist and author of "How to Be Enough," dives into the hidden costs of perfectionism. She explains how perfectionism leads to self-criticism and procrastination, revealing that it's less about achieving perfection and more about feeling inadequate. Ellen shares insights on self-acceptance as a remedy and discusses the emotional roots of procrastination. With anecdotes and humor, she emphasizes the vital role of self-compassion in overcoming perfectionist tendencies, encouraging listeners to embrace their imperfections.
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INSIGHT

Perfectionism’s True Nature

  • Perfectionism disguises itself as positive traits like hardworking or driven.
  • It's less about achieving perfection and more about a constant feeling of inadequacy.
INSIGHT

Two Sides of Perfectionism

  • Perfectionism, like two wolves, has both adaptive and maladaptive forms.
  • Conscientiousness, a positive trait, can turn into self-criticism and overevaluation.
ANECDOTE

Disney vs. Rogers

  • Walt Disney's Snow White demonstrates how perfectionism can lead to micromanagement and dissatisfaction.
  • Mr. Rogers, despite high standards, embraced mistakes, showcasing a healthier approach.
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