The One You Feed The Hidden Cost of Perfectionism: Why You Never Feel Good Enough with Ellen Hendriksen
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Feb 21, 2025 
Ellen Hendriksen, a clinical psychologist and author of "How to Be Enough," dives into the hidden costs of perfectionism. She explains how perfectionism leads to self-criticism and procrastination, revealing that it's less about achieving perfection and more about feeling inadequate. Ellen shares insights on self-acceptance as a remedy and discusses the emotional roots of procrastination. With anecdotes and humor, she emphasizes the vital role of self-compassion in overcoming perfectionist tendencies, encouraging listeners to embrace their imperfections.
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Perfectionism’s True Nature
- Perfectionism disguises itself as positive traits like hardworking or driven.
- It's less about achieving perfection and more about a constant feeling of inadequacy.
Two Sides of Perfectionism
- Perfectionism, like two wolves, has both adaptive and maladaptive forms.
- Conscientiousness, a positive trait, can turn into self-criticism and overevaluation.
Disney vs. Rogers
- Walt Disney's Snow White demonstrates how perfectionism can lead to micromanagement and dissatisfaction.
- Mr. Rogers, despite high standards, embraced mistakes, showcasing a healthier approach.
