Doctor Gabor Mate: I Regret My Interview With Prince Harry! The Shocking Link Between Kindness & Illness!

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Oct 12, 2023

Dr. Gabor Mate, a renowned physician specializing in addiction and trauma, opens up about the intricate web linking kindness and health. He reveals the surprising truth that being overly nice can be detrimental, while expressing anger is vital for well-being. Gabor shares insights from his challenging year and reflects on his regrettable interview with Prince Harry, highlighting the prince's own trauma. The conversation emphasizes the importance of reconnecting with gut feelings and setting boundaries to combat the health repercussions of perpetual selflessness.

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ADVICE

Handling Self-Doubt

Notice your body states and mental loops without identifying with them.
Ask yourself: "What's the worst-case scenario?"

ANECDOTE

Internet Sabbatical

Gabor Mate discusses a two-week internet sabbatical to reduce stress and reconnect with himself.
His wife, Ray, encouraged this break due to a disconnect between his public persona and private behavior.

INSIGHT

External Goals vs. Inner Peace

Achieving external goals like becoming a millionaire doesn't guarantee happiness or resolve internal struggles.
Gabor Mate realized this after the success of his book, "The Myth of Normal," led to him losing himself.

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Being nice is bad for your health, while being angry is healthy, Dr. Gabor Mate unpacks the inner depths that lie beneath the personality you show to the world.

In this new episode Steven sits down again with world-renowned trauma and addiction expert, Dr. Gabor Mate.

Dr. Gabor Mate is a physician and an expert on addiction, stress and childhood development. For 12 years, Gabor worked in Vancouver’s Downtown Eastside with patients challenged by drug addiction, mental illness and HIV. He has over 20 years of family practice and palliative care experience. His books include: ‘When the Body Says No’, ‘In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts: Close Encounters with Addiction’ and most recently, ‘The Myth of Normal: Trauma, Illness & Healing in a Toxic Culture’.

In this conversation Gabor and Steven discuss topics, such as:

His tough year
His biggest self-criticisms
Why you don't have to identify with emotions
The importance of saying ‘no’
Why he can't follow his own advice
Losing himself with success
His interview with Prince Harry
Why he regrets this interview
What he learned about Prince Harry
How Prince Harry was a traumatised child
The importance of asking for help
The need to reconnect to our gut feelings
Why gut feelings are everything
How we play out our traumas
Why women take the pain for both partners in a couple
How repressing anger makes you sick
Why you need healthy anger
The ways that repressing emotions makes you sick
The worst part of trauma
How being nice hurts your health
Why people need to be angry
Why people pleasers are unhealthy
How you can inherit stress
The power of knowing your trauma
The need to learn how to breath
Why people are having sex too soon
How success will never give inner peace
The goal you should chase in life

You can purchase Dr. Mate’s most recent book, ‘The Myth of Normal: Trauma, Illness & Healing in a Toxic Culture’, here: https://amzn.to/40unjpo