How to Be Awesome at Your Job

819: How to Stop Avoiding Conflict with Sarah Noll Wilson

Nov 21, 2022

34:28

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Avoiding conflict can lead to shallow connections, harmed relationships, and missed opportunities for creativity and innovation.

Approach conversations with curiosity, getting curious about oneself and the other person's perspective, and treating it as a dialogue instead of a confrontation.

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Consequences of Avoiding Conflict

Avoiding conflict can have many negative consequences, such as shallow and inauthentic connections with others, harm to relationships, and missed opportunities for creativity and innovation.

Deep Breathing Is Really Effective in a Stressful Situation

01:37

How to Have More Courage in Relationships

04:41

Getting Curious With Yourself

03:13

Are You Bringing Conflict Up in a Team?

02:06

Introduction

2min

Don't Feed the Elephants - How to Be Awesome at Your Job

2min

What Makes the Aviciion Special and Fun?

2min

Don't Feed the Elephants - Do You Have a Problem?

3min

Avoid Eject Evacuate

2min

How to Have More Courage in Relationships

5min

Deep Breathing Is Really Effective in a Stressful Situation

2min

Is Your Brain Flooding Your Brain?

2min

The Deep Breathing in the Moment

2min

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Getting Curious With Yourself

3min

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Are You Bringing Conflict Up in a Team?

2min

12.

The Conversational Intelligence

4min

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What's Your Favorite Quote?

2min

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Is There a Key Nugget You Share That Connects With People?

3min

Sarah Noll Wilson shows how avoidance harms work and relationships.

— YOU’LL LEARN —

1) The many consequences of avoiding conflict

2)The key to overcoming avoidance

3) How to train your body’s fight-or-flight response

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— ABOUT SARAH —

Through her work as an Executive Coach, an in-demand Keynote Speaker, Researcher, Contributor to Harvard Business Review, and Bestselling Author of “Don’t Feed the Elephants”, Sarah Noll Wilson helps leaders close the gap between what they intend to do and the actual impact they make. She hosts the podcast “Conversations on Conversations”, is certified in Co-Active Coaching, Conversational Intelligence, and is a frequent guest lecturer at universities. In addition to her work with organizations, Sarah is a passionate advocate for mental health.

With 15+ years in leadership development, Sarah earned a Master’s Degree from Drake University in Leadership Development and a BA from the University of Northern Iowa in Theatre Performance and Theatre Education. When she isn’t helping people build and rebuild relationships, she enjoys playing games with her husband Nick and cuddling with their fur baby, Sally.

• Book: Don't Feed the Elephants!: Overcoming the Art of Avoidance to Build Powerful Partnerships

• LinkedIn: Sara Noll Wilson

• Twitter: @sarahnollwilson

• Website: SarahNollWilson.com

— RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THE SHOW —

• Book: Conversational Intelligence: How Great Leaders Build Trust and Get Extraordinary Results by Judith Glaser

• Book: Insight: Why We're Not as Self-Aware as We Think, and How Seeing Ourselves Clearly Helps Us Succeed at Work and in Life by Tasha Eurich

• Book: Right Within: How to Heal from Racial Trauma in the Workplace by Minda Harts

• Book: The Memo: What Women of Color Need to Know to Secure a Seat at the Table by Minda Harts

• Book: The Waymakers: Clearing the Path to Workplace Equity with Competence and Confidence by Tara Jaye Frank

• Book: Triggers: Creating Behavior That Lasts--Becoming the Person You Want to Be by Marshall Goldsmith and Mark Reiter

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