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I Have ADHD Podcast

279 "I drained my retirement account because of FOMO" How Folks with ADHD Can Stop People-Pleasing with Adrienne Himelright

Sep 3, 2024
53:14
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Adrienne Himelright, an experienced coach specializing in ADHD, shares her journey of overcoming people-pleasing. She candidly recounts how FOMO led her to drain her retirement account for a wedding. The conversation dives into emotional challenges of people-pleasing, the need for boundaries, and the importance of self-awareness. Adrienne provides a step-by-step process for those with ADHD to break free from people-pleasing habits and emphasizes prioritizing personal needs and self-acceptance.
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Quick takeaways

  • Individuals with ADHD often succumb to people-pleasing due to fears of rejection, leading to detrimental sacrifices like draining retirement accounts.
  • Transitioning away from people-pleasing involves embracing discomfort, setting boundaries, and gradually practicing honesty to foster healthier relationships.

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Understanding People-Pleasing Behavior

People-pleasing can be a significant challenge for individuals with ADHD, often stemming from deep-seated fears of rejection. One key insight discussed is that ADHDers may feel they must constantly manage others' emotions to avoid conflict or negativity. For instance, one guest recounted how they once emptied a retirement account to attend a wedding out of fear of being left out, highlighting the lengths to which people will go to please others. This behavior can lead to a cycle of self-damage as individuals sacrifice their own needs and desires, often leading to feelings of powerlessness.

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