I Have ADHD Podcast
Kristen Carder
The I Have ADHD Podcast is a clear, concise, and FUN podcast for adults with ADHD. Listen to learn about how ADHD impacts every area of your life from the boardroom to the bedroom...and how you can begin to overcome your symptoms by accepting who you are, flaws and all. Host Kristen Carder is a dually certified coach who has supported thousands of people with ADHD worldwide. Kristen's extensive experience working with ADHDers began in 2012, and she now leads a global community of adults with ADHD in her coaching program, FOCUSED. ****OBVIOUSLY, the content in this podcast is not meant to be a substitute for medical advice. Kristen Carder is not a medical professional.
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Dec 18, 2025 • 15min
361 BITESIZE | Why Resentment Builds—and What to Do Instead
Join Greg Carder, who offers a unique perspective as someone who has supported a partner with ADHD. He dives into the early challenges of their relationship, highlighting the importance of personal responsibility in tackling resentment. Greg explains that resentment often signals unmet needs and shares a practical tip: wait in the car to diffuse tension. He also emphasizes the value of evaluating a partner’s moral anchor and observing their actions to gauge their support capacity in a relationship.
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Dec 16, 2025 • 54min
360 I Almost Lost a Huge Opportunity to Rejection Sensitivity (But Here’s How I Came Back)
Get ready for a heartfelt dive into personal experiences with rejection sensitivity! The discussion covers the challenges of writing a book while managing ADHD and how to create an ADHD-friendly environment. Discover practical self-care techniques for dealing with emotional spirals and hear about a transformative experience at a conference that nearly didn't happen. Kristen’s insights on navigating vulnerability and building resilience will inspire anyone feeling overwhelmed by their emotional responses.
Dec 11, 2025 • 14min
359 BITESIZE | ADHD, Chronic Pain, and the Cost of Pushing Through
This bite-sized conversation dives into the struggles of feeling unseen and disbelieved in the context of ADHD. A physician shares her journey through persistent pain and the medical culture that glorifies pushing through. She discusses the transformative power of therapy and breathwork that led her to choose medical leave. Insights on neuroplasticity reveal how our brains can reshape chronic pain responses. The episode also touches on the importance of setting boundaries and the emotional toll of self-abandonment in healthcare.
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Dec 9, 2025 • 1h 1min
358 The Day I Hired a Frontal Lobe: How Paying for Help Pulled Me Out of ADHD Chaos
Bill Adair, the Creative Director of ArtPhilly, shares his journey of living with ADHD and how he transformed chaos into clarity by hiring help. He candidly discusses the overwhelming struggle of managing ADHD alone, leading to the realization that outsourcing tasks is not just indulgent—it's essential for mental well-being. Bill describes his experience of hiring a part-time assistant to tackle mundane chores, the importance of prioritizing self-care, and how this newfound support has allowed him to reclaim energy for meaningful pursuits. His story is a powerful reminder that seeking help can be a pathway to peace and productivity.
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Dec 4, 2025 • 16min
357 BITESIZE | Your Brain Is Too Loud—This Trick Turns the Volume Down
This bite-sized talk dives into the beneficial technique of thought downloads for managing ADHD. It explores how this practice can clarify procrastination issues and enhance verbal working memory. Kristen highlights the frustration of knowing what to do but struggling to start. She shares step-by-step tips for effective thought downloading, including prompts like 'Why am I stuck?' and emphasizes the importance of nightly downloads to curb late-night rumination and improve sleep. Join a supportive community for practical coaching and behavior change!
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Dec 2, 2025 • 51min
356 Tech Jobs + ADHD Minds: How David Made It Work
David Wake, a software engineer turned ADHD coach, shares his journey from tech struggles to thriving with ADHD. He reveals the challenges of tech culture, why traditional productivity hacks often fall short, and the invaluable role of community in his growth. David discusses using AI tools like ChatGPT to enhance focus and brainstorming. He also touches on his experiences with parenting neurodivergent children and the importance of self-care and emotional regulation in coaching. Tune in for an insightful conversation on navigating ADHD in the tech world!
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Nov 27, 2025 • 11min
355 BITESIZE | What to Do When Someone Says “Everyone Has ADHD”
In this engaging discussion, Brooklyn shares her journey of suspecting she has ADHD and the mixed reactions from her family who downplay her concerns. The conversation reveals how this dismissal can be hurtful and confusing. Kristen offers validation and emphasizes the importance of seeking supportive communities while pursuing a diagnosis. They explore the heritability of ADHD and how family patterns can lead to minimization of symptoms. Listeners are encouraged to protect their vulnerability and surround themselves with understanding allies.
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Nov 25, 2025 • 1h 12min
354 Why Even Your Own To-Dos Feel Like an Attack: The Explosive Reality of Adult PDA
In this enlightening discussion, Kendahl Damashek, a parent coach and PDA autistic mother of four, and Casey Ehrlich, a fellow coach at At Peace Parents, dive into the complexities of Pathological Demand Avoidance in adults. They reveal how everyday tasks can trigger intense anxiety, the importance of recognizing subtle signs of PDA, and effective strategies for navigating these challenges. From understanding the nervous system's responses to tailoring practical accommodations, this conversation offers valuable insights for anyone feeling overwhelmed by self-imposed demands.
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Nov 20, 2025 • 13min
353 BITESIZE | Why You Can't Start Until The Last Minute: Unlocking ADHD & Motivation
The discussion delves into the unique motivation framework for those with ADHD. Key factors like interest, challenge, novelty, and urgency shape how tasks are approached. The role of dopamine in initiating actions is highlighted, revealing emotional barriers like perfectionism and fear. Personal anecdotes shed light on parenting neurodivergent children with compassion. Listeners learn about common obstacles to starting tasks and the importance of clarity and external support. Ultimately, the focus is on harnessing determination over waiting for motivation.
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Nov 18, 2025 • 1h 17min
352 The Kids Who Can’t Be Told What to Do: PDA & Low-Demand Parenting (with Casey Ehrlich)
In this engaging conversation, Casey Ehrlich, founder of At Peace Parents and a leading expert on Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA), shares her insights as a researcher and mother of two PDA children. She dives into the concept of PDA as a nervous system response to perceived threats and explains how traditional parenting strategies can misinterpret a child's need for autonomy as defiance. Casey provides practical tips for low-demand parenting, emphasizing the importance of compassion and understanding in navigating these behaviors to foster safety and regulation.
