Influence Anyone With Secret Lessons Learned From The World’s Top Hostage Negotiators with Former FBI Negotiator Chris Voss

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Oct 20, 2016

Chris Voss, the former lead international kidnapping negotiator for the FBI and founder of the Black Swan Group, shares his expertise in negotiation and emotional intelligence. He reveals secret strategies used by hostage negotiators and discusses the importance of 'tactical empathy' in influencing others. Listen as he highlights the significance of understanding emotional drivers, the two transformative words for negotiations, and why building rapport through trust is crucial. Voss also stresses that understanding is different from agreement, a key takeaway for effective communication.

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ADVICE

Tactical Empathy

Use tactical empathy to influence others.
Show others you understand them; this builds rapport and trust, enabling influence.

INSIGHT

Emotions in Decisions

Emotions drive decisions, making them inherently emotional processes.
Accept that emotions are central to decision-making, rather than pretending decisions are rational.

ADVICE

Understanding vs. Agreement

Understand others' drivers without necessarily agreeing with them.
Recognizing someone's perspective allows you to influence them, even if you don't share their views.

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In this episode we discuss the secret lessons hostage negotiators around the world use to win the day, how to understand and influence people’s emotional drivers, the two words that can transform any negotiation, the biggest hallmarks of powerful master negotiators and much more with the FBI’s former lead international kidnapping negotiator Chris Voss. Chris Voss is the founder and CEO of the Black Swan Group, an adjunct professor at Georgetown and University of Southern California. During his 24 year term with the FBI where he most recently served as the FBI’s lead international kidnapping negotiator, Voss worked approximately 150 kidnappings worldwide, from the Middle East to Haiti including a number of high-profile kidnappings. Voss has been trained by the FBI, Scotland Yard and Harvard in the art of negotiation and negotiated with likes of terrorists, hostage takers, and bank robbers. We discuss:FBI’s behvaioral change stairway they use to negotiate with terrorists and hostage takersWhy emotional intelligence is at the forefront of business success todayHow to leverage “tactical empathy” in your life to achieve the results you wantHow to create leverage to influence anyone in the world by understanding their emotional driversWhy you should never be mean to someone who could hurt you by doing nothingWhy understanding is NOT the same as agreement and why that is importantThe biggest barrier to negotiation success is not complexity - its overcoming the awkwardnessHow repeating the last 1-3 words someone said can have a huge impactWhy winning in a negotiation is not the same as beating the other sideThe incredible importance of listening and how you can cultivate “active listening"The power and importance of open ended and clarifying questionsHow to draw out the hidden cards from the other side of a negotiationThe secrets hostage negotiators AROUND THE WORLD use regardless of cultural dynamicsThe two most important words in any negotiationThe three different types of negotiator and the strengths and weaknesses of eachHow changing one question totally transformed the kidnapping negotiation for Jose Escobar Why Chris would “never lie to anyone he’s not going to kill"Why Chris hates compromise in any negotiationThe “F Word” in negotiations and why you should be careful with itOne of the biggest hallmarks of powerful negotiators And much more! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.