How to Be a Better Human How to strengthen your relationships — one airport ride at a time (w/ Kasley Killam)
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Oct 6, 2025 Kasley Killam is a social scientist and author of The Art and Science of Connection. In this discussion, she introduces the 5-3-1 Rule for fostering meaningful relationships, emphasizing the necessity of prioritizing social health like physical health. Kasley highlights the danger of AI chatbots as substitutes for genuine connection and offers practical tips for building relationships through small favors and regular check-ins. She also explores the decline in men's friendships and the importance of community in combating isolation.
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Social Health Is A Vital Health Pillar
- Social health is a distinct pillar like physical and mental health and centers on relationships.
- Kasley Killam argues social health significantly affects longevity and major disease risks.
Try The 5-3-1 Guideline
- Try the 5-3-1 guideline: connect with five different people weekly, cultivate three close relationships, and spend one hour a day connecting.
- Use it as a practical benchmark to balance quantity and quality of interactions.
Quality Over Quantity For Connection
- Quality matters more than sheer quantity for fulfilling connection, especially for introverts.
- Individual personality determines the optimal amount and form of social interaction.
