Dr. Kristin Neff, an Associate Professor at the University of Texas at Austin and a pioneer in self-compassion research, discusses how to silence your inner critic. She shares a simple 20-second daily practice to boost self-kindness and encourages using compassion for others as a model for self-treatment. The conversation covers the power of 'fierce' self-compassion for setting boundaries and balancing acceptance with assertiveness, emphasizing the importance of nurturing oneself for healthier relationships.
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Self-Criticism: A Survival Mechanism
Self-criticism is a brain's survival mechanism, not a personal flaw.
It's normal to judge yourself, but self-compassion offers a more effective approach.
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Self-Compassion: An Extension of Existing Capacity
Self-compassion leverages our existing capacity for compassion, extending it to ourselves.
It acknowledges problems while offering support, like a good friend.
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Two Sides of Self-Compassion
Self-compassion has two sides: tender and fierce.
Tenderness involves acceptance, while fierceness promotes action and boundary-setting.
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348. How to Quiet Your Inner Critic with Dr. Kristin Neff
Dr. Kristin Neff shares the secret to self-compassion and how to lessen our inner critic’s voice in order to build self-worth.
Discover:
-The 20-second daily practice you need to increase your self-compassion;
-How to use your compassion for others as a template for how to treat yourself;
-How to give your inner-critic a software update; and
-The “fierce” self-compassion and what it has to do with drawing boundaries.
On The Guest: Dr. Kristin Neff is an Associate Professor of Educational Psychology at the University of Texas at Austin, and co-founder of the Center for Mindful Self-Compassion. She is a pioneer in the field of self-compassion research, conducting the first empirical studies on self-compassion more than twenty years ago. Kristin runs the Self-Compassion Community, an online learning platform where people can learn the skill of self-compassion with the help of others. She is author of the bestselling books Self-Compassion and Fierce Self-Compassion. She also co-wrote The Mindful Self-Compassion Workbook and has a new book called Mindful Self-Compassion for Burnout coming out in Fall 2024.
Order her latest book here: https://self-compassion.org/
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